Why rules are set for women by the husbands and she remains mere an audience ?

Question

Being loyal and faithful , but sometimes it becomes unbearable.

How to control my emotions and be normal and avoid the orders and superiority.

Answer 1

if u thnk dis ways, dats nt done,

u knw all men hv egos, which should nt be hurted ever,

do u want ur men to obey all ur orders, nt taking any decision on his own, depending on u,

u may lyk it once , bt after certain period , u'll get irritated,

think +ve

dats wt men r meant 4, i just really dis kinda guys, acc. to my opinion, men shud b powerful den women, so dat dey can fight 4 u or ur rights in evry situation,

think over it,

if u r feeling hurted, tell him calmly,dun fight, i m sure he'll do undrstnd u,

n if a guy loves u , he will definitely bcum possessive towards u,, wont u love his caring nature, try to think over d +ve part , n nt d -ve part, ok dear

Answer 2

Rules are set by society for peaceful living of husband and wife and hapiness in the family. These rules are set for both husband and wife, not only on women, particulary in moderen days. Since the freedom is restrained by certain restrictions, these restrictions are considered rule : But if you consider your duties, you will never feel the restrictions as rules. Still, if some undesirable rules are imposed, you should see the advantages and disadvantages of those rules and can explain politely to MEN the consequences of such rules.
Emotions can be controlled by recalling the advantages and disadvantages of these emotions considering your family life. Orders and superiority can be avoided by seeing and realizing your duties.

Answer 3

I'm sure there are rules you set on him as well but maybe you express it differently. There are probably things that he would do normally if he wasn't with you that he's not doing because you've told him that you don't like it when he does that. Think about it--I think we both put "rules" on each other, just some more more blantantly stated than others.

No one person should decide what is best for both of you. If that's what he's doing and what he wants is totally opposite of what you want, then the two of you need to have a calm discussion about it and come to a compromise.

Answer 4

Rules are set by society for peaceful living of husband and wife and happiness in the family.
These rules are set for both husbands and wives, not only for women, particularly in modern
days. Since the freedom is restrained by certain restrictions, these restrictions are
considered rule, if you consider your duties, you will never feel the restrictions as rules.
But 75% of men do violation of this rules. May you face this problem from your life partner
and suffer about this problem. I want to say you that please concerntrate on this problem
and slowly fix it properly. If you tell me how, you have to find the path and fix in your way.

Answer 5

That may be your outlook. Now a days it is not possible to set rules etc. try to understand each other, this is not a big problem I think. I had been through your yahoo questions and answers. Actually it seems to me that you're a problem solver. I think, if you give a fresh look at your problem, it is not at all a problem. always we must act in a balanced way. Don't make hue and cry out of a small thing. I hope you understand.

Answer 6

Let him know you are seeking a equal relationship whereby no one sets rules. You don't need rules in a very good relationship as each partner knows their part and helps the other where ever possible and do nice things to each other. You will find a relationship such as this will last and if he wants rules, tell him to go back to school as he will get plenty there.

Answer 7

Already there are certain rules and regulation is being set to both male and female.After .As well as husband and wife.It is by nature women have to abide to certain rules.Mr.Balakumaran, a writer ,in one of his story,have stated, women ,is nothing but a'Kaali' to control her (women),she is wearing to leg fingers"metti" to legs "kolusu' to hip ,an Ottiayanam,to neck, Mangalyam,to nose'Mookkuthi'to ear 'ear ring,and to head'Nethi sutti' with all these things she is being controlled.Even after that so many family are suffering due to ceratin ladies non-coperative tendencies.No body could be blamed.It is by nature women folk have to be like that.

Answer 8

Tell him to shut up ; that you are his wife , not his slave and do not have to be subject to rules and ordered about . That if he doesn't stop it at once , you will leave him . You do not have to be loyal and faithful to a man who abuses your freedom and rights .
You have to have the courage to stop him now , or leave him .
My wife is a headteacher and inclined to give orders ; I either say shut up your not at school now ; or I ignore the order , or do the opposite . I tell her I'm not one of your childen and you don't tell me what to do . You must be firm and direct with your husband ; I hope he doesn't hit you if you are disobedient .

Answer 9

I have given my answer to you for one of your earlier question as per the following link.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoCiIEenQSqfhC9KDVLAgZ7ty6IX?qid=20070705024510AAUp1w2

I feel you still have some problems and I would request you to refer that answer once again and act accordingly. You see all said and done, in our Indian society and culture still women are being treated indifferently by husbands and this can be ironed out by mutual adjustments. If the husband is adamant you have to try and bring him to your control. Here lies the success of the life of women. Yes, sometimes it will become unbearable and even then we have to put up with it as otherwise one life will be ruined. So my advice again to you is to avoid problems cropping out of ego and try to convince him and bring him to your way. Further please understand it is in your hands to solve it as you have to live your life. Of course it will take abnormal time, still you have no option, as we are Indians and not Westerners. Wish you all the best.

Answer 10

By your observations i think you are not married ... because 99% of the time its the opposite of the situation you have mentioned above .... and if you are married then i think you are just unlucky that you have ended up with a very wrong man who is no man at all ... don't compare your husband with all the other man ... because if it was so then woman would have never existed ....