have you ever experienced a time where you feel like the person you are trying to explain something important to does not even remotely understand from your point of view? and why do you think is the cause of that?
2007-08-06 18:57:47 · 9 answers · asked by guesswh01116 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Sometimes people seem to reach a conclusion or speculate about what is being said before the other person has had a chance to finish. Then they hold onto the understanding they've assumed to be accurate without ever really listening to the speaker.
2007-08-06 19:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by yakngirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time. There are several reasons:
1. They may not have the same knowlege base you have.
2. They may have a different point of view
3. You may have an idea which does not make sense at some level
4. They could be simply "dense" or don't understand the background of the idea well enough to understand what your idea is and where it fits.
5. They could be faking it. They just don't want to.
6. The whole subject could be beyond their experience.
7. They could be visual based, and you area describing something verbally, or vice verse.
8. You are doing a poor job of describing your point of view.
At any rate, there are lots of reasons that people won't understand you.
Get used to it. I've seen some pretty good examples of this. In one college class I was in, the rest of the class let the prof go on for about two weeks before they stopped him because they didn't understand what he was teaching. It turns out that most of the students didn't have the math background to understand the topic.
2007-08-06 19:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by drslowpoke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understanding (ANYTHING) is a VERY complex process. It involves knoledge, experience, intuitiveness, calculation, and the ability to join all those elements together- to form ONE set Result. If a person is even MILDLY "deficient" in any one of the above aspects- they WILL NOT understand it from YOUR point of view!!! Moreover, YOU may not be entirely fully "understanding" of a situation - either! You might be lacking in some element that the other person "gets" ; and that will GUARANTEE that the other person won't understand- because YOU haven't got all the necessary elements that he would need to understand YOU- either!!! So the "causes" are complex & many...
2007-08-06 19:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they really trying to hear you? I don't waste my time with arrogant/ignorant people. Other than that, no I haven't found that I could not find some common ground when talking about something 'important'. That's the key, finding the roots of what it is you're trying to explain. They are usually very fundamental and barrier crossing.
If someone truly can not understand what you're trying to convey and they are actually trying to than my guess is they are blocked by fear from allowing themselves to consciously view whatever it is you're discussing.
Experience changes everyone's perspective...so if you're really trying to get someone to see something from YOUR own perspective, that might be the mistake. Lots of people are not able to step outside of themselves enough to imagine that there IS such a thing as another point of view. :)
I suggest, again, that you go back to the fundamentals of whatever it is you're thinking of. Speak more generally, try and lead by asking questions (open and non-threatening ones). Allow for their right to disagree! LOL Enjoy the communication and expand your own awareness with the power of speech! Truly, so many times, it's through discoursing with another about a subject I had recently 'pinned down' in my head, that the best essence of the topic/concepts come alive and are cemented for me! There's a certain magickal something or other in that experience.
2007-08-06 19:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all bring our own views and personal histories to a conversation. What may be clear from your point of view may be alien to another. I'm sure people have tried to explain things to you that you didn't understand. People can really only understand things from their own point of view, but their opinion can be swayed by strong, logical arguments.
2007-08-06 19:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by a3strangequarks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They either have no frame of reference (no experience in the matter to draw from), they do not understand your vocabulary, or they simply are not concentrating due to lack of interest?? Could be lots of reasons. They also may not be intelligent enough to understand. If you have an IQ of 135 and are trying to explain something to someone with an IQ of just above room temperature, good luck!
2007-08-06 19:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't want to understand. And, it's not usually some people, it's usually the opposite sex.
2007-08-06 19:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either they are unable to understand or you are not clear to your point.
2007-08-06 19:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Muthu S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people are just ignorant
2007-08-06 19:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋