Im married/36weeks pregnant,my husband is an alcoholic and also has an anger problem. I left my house late saturday night he got mad started slamming chairs broke our dining table grabbed a chair and was going to throw it@my belly, I histerically screamed reminded him Im pregnant, he told me didnt care.As soon as he went to our bedroom I grabbed my purse keys,ran out as fast as I could, I was so scared.Called my mom she told me2come straight to her house. Im here ever since that night. I didnt call the cops I was so terrified. I wanted2get out of there and go somewhere safe. The problem is he called me, hes not worried about me/baby he just wanted to know if I have "his" which is under both of our names, Im scared he may take the car, he drives mine its not in good condition its older hes been using it4work the seatbelt is way out loose crappy breaks etc..I need the good car since Im pregnant. What do I do? I dont want him2take my baby, is it2late to file a report of what happened?
2007-08-06 18:02:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i want to applaud you for leaving, you did the right thing for you and your baby. it isn't an easy decision but it is the right one. situations like that only get worse as time goes by, and this is experience talking, i didn't leave early enough and sadly my kids still remember the abuse...
no, it is never too late to call the cops and file a report. i also suggest getting a restraining order.
as far as the car is concerned... if it is in both your names then he can not claim it as his. you might have to sell it and split the difference, i am not 100% sure, get that advice from a divorce lawyer. if he does show up and tries to take it, PLZ call the cops immediately, do not hesitate and do not try to handle that situation yourself, especially if he is drunk.
be assured you did the right thing....
God bless you, i pray He protects you and your baby...
2007-08-06 18:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is really serious ... good job on escaping from your abusive husband. I am so glad that you got away from him. Stay at your mom's until you have the baby. He obviously doesn't give a rats a** about you or that baby, otherwise he wouldn't have threatened to throw a chair at you. I can understand that you need the good car, but if he comes after it give it to him and keep the older car. Does your mom have a reliable car that you could use instead? Maybe she'd be willing to switch with you. What I do know is that you and your unborn child should be your priority. You can always get another car. You need to try to keep yourself calm so that you don't risk anything happening to yourself or the baby. I would go ahead and file a police report and get a restraining order on him. Good Luck!
2007-08-07 01:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not too late. You can file for an exparte, possession of the car if you need to get to dr.s appts etc, and financial assistance. An exparte is a protective order. It will typically be issued immediately and he will be served as soon as they can serve him. He will be required to stay away from you. It does not charge him with a crime, so unless he breaks the exparte, by harrassing, following, coming near you or trying to contact you he will not be arrested. Some states will also put you on a special watch list where they will check by your house to make sure he is not stalking you. If you are afraid, I would also make sure you have protection or someone with you all the times.
If you are afraid for your family put them on the exparte too as well as their addresses, names etc. If you still have fear, go to a safe house, or to family he does not know. You will also want to protect your unborn baby. What he did to you is called assault.
Also - more than likely he will do it again if you return to him. Stop it now. 90% of people who do this, do it to their children too. Even infants.
Also - you do not need a lawyer. You can file for an exparte yourself at your local court. The costs are minimal - like $20 They call it domestic violence.
2007-08-07 01:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Travelbrats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not too late. You need to go to the police and get an attorney to get a restraining order. You also need to explain to the attorney about the car situation. If he takes it, perhaps you can drive your mom's car, and she can drive yours for a while. You are in a very bad situation, and you were very smart to get out while you could. The worst thing you can do is go back. You are also lucky that you have family support, which is essential in your situation. Keep your head, you have a baby that you need to take care of until he/she comes out, then you need to only worry about that child and keeping it safe.
2007-08-07 01:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does one advise in such a situation? OK, you did the right thing but the more importsant is what will you do now... the bet is you'll go back to him.
It's time for you to sit down and do some self examination of yourself. You have obviously made many bad choices in yourlife, you married a jackass, you had a kid with him and I'm sure tons of others. You have to stop making so many bad decisions, that's all there is to it. I'm not going to tell you what to do next because you already know... it's time for you to start being responsible for you and your baby.
2007-08-07 01:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and file a report. It is not too late. See if you can get a restraining order. Next see a divorce lawyer and seek seperate maintenance (that's like temp alimony). Focus on your health and on the baby. Best of Luck!
2007-08-07 01:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by lyllyan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not to late to at least get it on record what happened to you. i would stay away from him.. you've got your chance now.. going back and then the same thing happen again over and over will make it even harder to leave him and puts you and baby in danger.. you have to think of the baby now.. you don't want that little thing growing up in a house that has all that turmoil going on do you? i would seek a lawyer and he will tell you what to do.. don't let his whining and cries change your mind.. he needs help and he will have to earn your respect and trust back.. and if your still available when he gets straightened out then you can talk about getting together.. good luck
2007-08-07 01:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it not to late, time to get things in writing so that you can
have it on records, and then talk to a lawyer for the safety
of your child that the most important thing right now. not the
car.
2007-08-07 01:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him he isnt fit to be a dad as well a husband. my opion?
2007-08-07 02:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order on his a*ss
2007-08-07 01:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋