How do i tell my family?

Question

My fiance, of 3 years and I found out today that i'm 5 weeks pregnant.
We're extremely excited.
Yes, we're financially ready.
No, this wasn't exactly planned.

We DO NOT want to rush into getting married just because we're having a child BUT we DO plan on getting married before the child goes to school (most likely a year or 2 before).
* My mom and dad got married about a year before i headed off to preschool.

My side of the family, meaning grandparents, are not too fond of children without marriage and i understand.

Any advice on when/how to break the news?
(my mom is the only one who knows, she's soo happy!)

I greatly appriciate it ♥

Yes .. deff. over 18.
We do plan on getting married and they know that.
We're engaged and have been together 5 years.

Thanx everyone. You're right .. it's my life, my child, my fiance .. and as long as we're happy thats all that matter! Yahoo answers .. you have cheered me up, haha.

Answer 1

For my first (not married, not planned, was in my late 20's etc,) (we later married and had 2 more kids) it was a big shock because they met him the first time that night too! Then, we gave my parents a gift to open, a grandparents picture frame with a sono picture in it. For one of our other ones we got some fortune cookies and made our own fortunes, the front said something about exciting things to come, the back was the due date (it really was a shock since we were at an Italian restaurant and we got there first and put them on their bread plates). The other child was such a shock (three forms of birth control, not planning any more), that we said something over the phone. No matter how you break it, it may be hard, but it will wear off, and just like your mom, they will be jazzed. Yes, as someone said, your life, but, it helps to have the support. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

Tell your family, exactly what you mentioned above. If your family (grandparents) cannot accept the blessing that is about to happen in your life, then do not allow them to block this blesssing.

Since this is happy news for the two of you, including your mother, who cares what anyone else thinks about you not being married. This isn't the first time a child was born out of wedlock and it will not be the last.

By the way, congratulations.

Answer 3

Hi:: I suggest that you could have your kids make all their grandparents a card that says I am going to get a present in 9 months!! I would also try to have a bbq and make a fun suprise annoucement, and tell everyone we are getting two babies in a few months!! I would say to start with your family, then friends, for your friends can find out in a number of ways, you could have a few flowers on a table for dinner, one that is blue, pink, yellow, and say what is it (our third) going to be?? I say have a fun time and anything you do is going to be great, for me: I had lost two pregnanices before this one, and one was my twins at 12 weeks, I had my daughter tell her daddy, by bring in the test, and saying "Daddy I am getting a Baby, look!!:)" Then we gave out cards to the family through the mail, that said look who is going to be a big sister, and the calls came in!! SO any way is the right way!

Answer 4

Its the same for me and my parnter, I already have a little girl whos 14 months and his no the dad but were been together 3 years, (yes long stroy) and now were 9 weeks with our second, his parents know but his grandparents which he is close too dont, there the old way too becuase there germany if your no married you dont have childern, We decided to both tell them together and if there not happy there not happy , They well come around, So its easyer if Both you tell them together as a family. . Good luck,

Answer 5

I am not married and live with my bf and am now pregnant with his second child. my mom is still pressuring me to get married but i'm only 21 and really don't like that I am ready for that and so far our situation is working for us. its your choice if you want to get married not theirs remember that and stay strong. The way that we told our parents about me being prgnant with both of our children was we waited till the ultrasound and all of a sudden we just stuck the pictures in there face and let them do the talking/yelling and we just stood close to the door incase we needed to escape.

Good luck and stay stroung remember its your life not their's so stick to what the 2 of you want, and don't get married if you don't want to, I mean you guys are engaged so at least you 2 have made the comitment to spend the rest of your lives together.

Answer 6

You are on the right track girl...get married only when you are ready for it..and the right time ypu think if before your kid goes to school..great! Congraturlations on being such wise parents..you wld be great i believe..Whatever you are doing is absolutely right...

Telling your family..Pls wait for three months..i would say..It is the riskiest time..the initial 3 months..let them pass peacefuly with you being healthy..then disclose the news at some get together or invite them for dinner..telling them this is your anniversary of meeting or anything else that is special to u...

Good Luck..Rushing into marriage just because of a kid would lead you out of it sooner or later..So you are doing it right to wait for the right time!!

Answer 7

How about you just tell them.. if they don't like it, too bad. You're ready, you're happy about it, and you ARE getting married. They are probably just old fashioned, which is understandable, but you've gotta do what makes you happy. From the looks of it, this does make you happy. They will come along, and once that adorable little baby is here, they are going to love him or her no matter what. Just try to be as nice as possible, but I think they will be understanding.

Answer 8

Just tell them how you told your mom. Just be upfront to your grandparents saying that you will be married when you are ready and they should be excited for you. I had a hard time dealing with it when I was pregnant with my son. But, they came to realize when I was ready I was going to get married and was happy that they would be having a great grandchild. Hope this helps!

Answer 9

Tell them exactly what you wrote there. Your super excited. it wasnt exactly planned but you are thrilled. you plan on getting married when the time is right. you have an engagement ring. and if you live together for 2 years thats a common law marriage. in Canada at least.



CONGRATS!!!!

Answer 10

Well your grandparents are going to have to accept it. They are going to have great grandchiildren & they should be happy. Don't be nervous about it, it's a beautiful thing & your got pregnant by the man you are marrying, so that's even better. You can't hide it from them forever (obviously when you start showing). but good luck & congrats!! :)