Why can't we just agree?

Question

Ok, my husband says that if we have a boy he wants him named Seth Micheal, which I can't stand that name, but if we have a boy that's what I will name him because I want my husband happy and we agreed to the name picking him if its a boy and me if its a girl. Ok so now the real problem, I want the name Riley McKayle for a girl, and he said absolutely NOT! So I said what about Alexandera Nichole? And again he said NO. Why is it he gets to pick the name for a boy and I have to go along with it, but every name I pick for a girl he wont let me name her that? How do I get him to agree with me?

I just don't think it fair, I mean he knows I can't stand that name for a boy, but yet, I told him that's what he wants we are naming our boy that, but he won't say that with my names for girls. This is my first and I just want some part in naming it. Sorry I'm just doing a little venting.

Answer 1

I believe you have to both like the name you choose. You are going to be calling the child by that name for a long time! When you are signing that birth certificate, you want to be sure that you are picking a name that is not going to make you cringe.

Tell him that the deal is off and start fresh. Each of you should make a list of 10 names you like for a boy and 10 names for a girl (start with the first name). Hopefully there will be one name that is on both of your lists.

If there isn't a common name on each of your lists, then do it the lng way and go through a baby name book together. Another good sit is the social security website with the top 1000 names for each year.

Good luck!

Answer 2

We made a treaty with my husband as well, if we would have a boy, he would name him, and he did, I hated the name, but he still gave it to him, and I wanted to make him happy. Next pregnancy, he said that I would get to pick the name, specially if we where having a girl, and we where, so every name I gave him he said no. Until one day I got really upset, told him that I was naming her whatever I wanted, and he had absolutely NO say in it, that he needed to remember that he named our son, and he didn't ask for my opinion. So, the day came to leave the hospital with our daughter, I filled out the paper work for her social security card, and that was that, I did ask for him input on the middle name, but I gave him a choice, from the two names I gave him, he picked one he liked, and I was happy because it had been one of my choices.
You have to stand up for yourself, and let him know that's he's being unfair with you. Men are like that, they think that since they are the "head of the household" and are stronger that women, they can do whatever they want, they tend to cheat a lot, they try to come to an agreement, and then when it's not what they where expecting, they want to change the rules of the game.
Best of luck with this situation! Talk to him, he can't be that hard headed.
God bless! CONGRATULATIONS!

Answer 3

Ask his what is wrong with Riley McKayle and Alexandera Nicole.
What do you hate Seth Michael. IF you do, you need to tell him why
You husband is right about the two of you liking the others names. You can not let your husband name a child a name you hate. You can not name your child a name he hates

You both need to sit down and talk about what types of names each likes. Then find names you love, that the other will like
Good luck

Answer 4

Try this, this is what my husband and I had to do for our children, well atleast the first 3. Let him pick the middle name and you pick the first of switch it. That way you both get to pick a name even though you cant agree on the same one. Its a big decision, dont worry about not agreeing on every name. Good luck.

Answer 5

Men aren't as considerate as women sometimes but just so you know I went through the same thing every name I came up with he hated so I had us both make a list of boys names and girls names that we like and we chose a name from each list. One girl name and one boy name from him and one girl name and one boy name from mine and we decided which would be the first name and which was the middle name depending on which sounded best.

Answer 6

You have to come up with something you are both happy with. It's simply not fair for one person to have the only and final say on your child's name. Both of you have to compromise. Both of you write your own list of girls/boys names & then get togethor and go over them
You gotta sort this stuff out now. If you are arguing so bitterly about naming your baby and it isn't even born yet, I hate to think about what arguments might start about parenting the little thing.

Answer 7

tell your husband that if he draws the line on girl names, it's only fair if you are allowed to draw the line with bou names.
or tell him it needs to stick to the initial plan that boy chooses boy names and girl chooses girl names. no exceptions.

maybe you can choose your favorite name and him his, and if it's a girl, you have your first name choice, but he can change the name to a more girly name like michelle for michael and if it's a boy, the middle name can be alexander for the middle name. That way you'de both have a say in part.

Seth Riley
Michael Riley
Seth Alexander
Michael Alexander

Riley Michelle
Nichole Michelle...

you know?

Answer 8

I wouldn't agree on the boys name then. Just tell him that if he gets to say no to girls names, then you can say no to boys names and you will have to decide together.

Maybe you can make lists of names that you like and see if you guys come up with any of the same and go from there. Just an idea! Good luck and congrats!

Answer 9

Your original agreement was flawed. It would be crazy to allow your son to be given a name you despise, just because it's Your husband's turn to pick. You need to be adult about this and come to some sort of compromise. Try this:
You each make a list of ten names, from which your partner can veto five (or whatever number), leaving you a total of ten names that you both find acceptable. From here you can simply whittle down the list.

Answer 10

Just say if he gets the boy name you get what ever girl name you want, other wise you both need to come up with names that you both agree on.