17 and pregnant?

Question

hey im 17 and im 3 months pregnant my family still dosent know and i really need someone to talk to who would understand what im going through!

Answer 1

You really need to find someone closer to home. I suggest a doctor or trusted pastor of a church. A doctor can refer you to someone else as well. This is a time for clear decisions. This is a time for education and courage. You've got much to learn and many decisions to make. At 3 months you still have a little time for this. I feel for you and wish you well. Find someone closer to home. You might even find your parents care enough about you to help. The child's father should also have an interest. Even if not interested he has legal responsibilities to his offspring.

Answer 2

I had my first child when I was 17. I was so afraid of what they would say/do that I didn't tell my parents. My mom finally figured it out on her own when I was almost 4 months pregnant. It was one of the scariest times in my life. It was also one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with. It isn't easy raising a child, especially when you're so close to being a child yourself, but it isn't impossible either. It will take a lot of work on your part, but I know from experience that just because you're young doesn't mean you won't be a good parent. I am 42 now and have four great kids, ages 25, 20, 18 and 13. If you have common sense (teen pregnancy aside) you'll be just fine raising your child. If you want to email me, click the link on my profile. I'll answer any questions you may have and try to help you through this.

Answer 3

Well, to be brutally frank - you haven't finished school, have an apartment, a dead-end job(?) that pays enough to support the two of you, pay the doctor bills, baby diapers, clothes, formula, baby carriers and crib, toys, food, utilities, you'll be so darn tired you can't stand it, the baby will ALWAYS be FIRST for the next 18 years and YOU will ALWAYS be LAST. And where is the boyfriend?

To have an unexpected baby just to have someone to love is not enough. You know this.

You have to abort or do "open adoption".

And there are plenty of good counselors around to help with the "mourning" you will need to go through during this time period.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Hate to put a damper on this sympathy party, but NOT all parents will be supportive. I for one would kick my child out of the house. I know 4 much older adults who would do the same, and I know two sets of parents who did such a thing to their children who felt the need to become parents under the age of 19. To the one girl who said "my mom was mad, but came around and said she was sorry..." Why should her mother have to apologize for the disgrace her daughter put upon her, and the disappointment the daughter caused? That is a stupendously selfish way of thinking, as if it was her mother's fault she was incompetent and got knocked up. It is not the parents job to support the child when she decides to have sex and get pregnant. That is NOT what the parents are there for. If you get pregnant, you are starting a new family, and it is solely your own responsibility to make ends meet. Or else don't have a baby.

Answer 5

All I can say is... what kind of parent kicks their child out on the street because they are pregnant? (I am talking about the other answerer....)

You either need to tell your parents your situation soon before it is obvious or find a shelter for people in your situation. Because you have internet access, I suggest you find the website to your local social services and ask what your options are. I think you should at least try to tell your parents first though.... but of course be prepared for them to be mad at first. If they really love you, they will not put you out on the street, but if they do.. there is help out there! You can't hide your pregnancy forever.

Answer 6

I was 19 when I got pregnant.. just moved out my parents house.. met this guy and ended up pregnant 2 months later.
Its hard.. especially if you are still living with your parents.
Yes they may be mad at you at first.. and they will question you about what you are going to do; i.e. keep the baby, abortion, adoption, future goals, where the father is, is he going to stay with you, is he going to marry you, and such as.

But soon, they will accept their grandchild, they have no choice.
Its going to be hard.. I cried everyday after I told my parents when I was 4 months pregnant and couldnt hide it anymore from them.
It will be hard, but you need support from the people who are there for you at all times.

Answer 7

I can help you out if you would like. I have not been in your shoes, but A LOT of my friends have. My cousin got pregnant at 13 and had her baby at 14! So... if you would like to talk... let me know :)

Everything will be OK. You might have to tell yuor family here pretty soon. You will start to show... and if they are like my family it might make them more mad to hear/ see it through the grape vine! Talk to them!!! Tell them how you feel. Tell them you do NOT want to argue but just talk!

Answer 8

I know exactly what your talking about. Been there with my sister done that. We actually came across the ocean from albania escaped kosova and the Djenti republic and made it to america. I know what your going through

email my boyfriends email i am on know : [e-mail]

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or im shadysgurl55

Answer 9

I got pregnant when I was 17, its the scariest thing to have to tell your parents. But, this is the time when you need them the most-especially your mom. The sooner you tell, the better. They will be alot more compassionate then you think (once they get past the shock anyways!)

Answer 10

Go talk to Planned Parenthood about aborting that baby and stop overpopulating the world!