If yes why and what would you do with the information you learned esp if it was detrimental to the relationship. If no why aside from privacy, even if info was gained not by snooping but pc error.
2007-08-06 16:09:00 · 13 answers · asked by Quasi 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Should be no secrets in a long term relationship so there should be no problem looking at your mates email. I would definately confront my partner if the info was detrimental to the relationship. Sounds like there are secrets and that can not be good for the relationship.
2007-08-13 05:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by lostbutfound42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, if he's given me a reason not to trust him... actually no, if a guy does that he's out the door the next second. So no, if in a relationship with a guy I would never read his email. It's an invasion of privacy and personal space on a massive scale. What do you mean 'aside from privacy', privacy is a very big deal! If you can't trust your partner enough to give him that space then 2 things need to be done, you need to decide if you have trust issues and consider councilling, then you need to question the health of the relationship and either fix it or get out of it.
If the PC had an error that's fine, but a PC error does not require you read what's in front of you. The one exception would be, in the 2 seconds the inbox was up when you're reaching for the close button, you see something very dodgy like "Hey Lover, I miss you" or something equally inflammatory.
2007-08-06 23:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't, even if it was a pc error. It's not just a privacy issue. I believe relationships are based on trust, and I would feel more confident in my relationship if the information was something my partner shared with me willingly rather than something I "took" without consent.
Just because two people are in a relationship doesn't mean they stop being individual people with their own thoughts and feelings. It's not just about privacy for me or my partner; it's about protecting the privacy of the other people in our lives as well. I know there are emails I send to my Mom and best friend that are private communications between me and them. Why does he need to know that my best friend has decided to go to therapy to discuss her relationship issues? It's none of his business. Why do I need to know that his Mom is thinking of leaving his Dad? Unless his Mom decides to tell me herself, it's none of my business. And if it's something detrimental to the relationship, like cheating or drugs, the truth is going to come out eventually.
Yes, it is extremely important to have open, honest communication in a relationship, but if that honesty has to be acquired by dishonest means, then what kind of relationship do you have?
2007-08-06 23:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Failores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's shady... i had the opportunity with my gf where she left her email open and i looked at a page, but thought to myself i trust her and she's never done anything to lose my trust, so i just logged her out and didn't look... i would think that i would like to know that i'm capable of knowing her better then any email, if you aren't able to do that then you have a ****.ed up relationship, which seems like you do already and can't get out of.
yes, you'd probably get good information on him and know some secrets that you wouldn't know before...
my ex knew my old email password and she knew somethings about my last relationship, she used it against me, and it was a big reason why i ended up resenting her for her actions after knowing this, i ended up breaking up with her...
2007-08-14 09:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by wigberto.serpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see my husbands e-mail all the time. He sees mine and we know the passwords. If I learned something that was detrimental to the relationship then I would tell him and make sure he knew HE was the one that did something wrong NOT ME!! and I would not be ashamed that I looked!
2007-08-06 23:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has my password to my email and my myspace and I also have his we don't keep things from each other and we rarely check each others. The point of doing that is b/c we want to be open with one another and not hide anything or keep secrets.
2007-08-14 15:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband does not even have his own email address he uses my account. I have set several up for him and he won't use them and if he does he ask me to check it anyway so I guess it's not snooping when he tells me to check it.
2007-08-14 15:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....it would make me crazy.....I have enough dang craziness in my life as it is....It's like looking through his wallet.....I know of people who do that mess....I don't need to...We love each other for who we are and if everything is fine between us, & the bills get paid...things are hunky dory.....but I'm not naive either....all he's gotta' do is give me one reason and $hi+ will hit the fan...lol....
(I think I have a little jealousy in me???? Where did that come from???)...Lol...
Hope this helps...JoJo
2007-08-13 19:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jo-Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only on the occasion that my partner allowed me to view the email. otherwise, no. I have enough of my own to view.
2007-08-13 19:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would read it...that's just human nature to know what you shouldn't know. If there was something in there that would mess up our relationship then i would say something and just deal with the consequences.
2007-08-06 23:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by D N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋