Why is it that I get in trouble at work for giving my girlfriend (now ex) a couple kisses in our work parking lot.. but my best friend who is straight *makesout* with her boyfriend in the SAME parking lot and everyone thinks it's cute?!
THEN! a co-worker puts me on the spot and asks me if I think she's cute, I said... yeah...and then asks me if I want to f*ck her. I didn't respond... but everyone tells me to let it go. This coworker and I are always joking around... but I think that crossed the line. Would you say something to HR or just ignore it?
2007-08-06 15:58:41 · 15 answers · asked by u_fas_n8me 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm sure that if I said something of the same nature... I would be fired.
2007-08-06 16:11:29 · update #1
All I'm saying about the parking lot incident is that I did it... and I got reported and written up, my straight friend did it and everyone thought it was so cute... why is it cute for her? but when I do it I get close to being fired?
2007-08-07 11:44:45 · update #2
For you first question, you probably get in trouble since you're two girls and people freak out when they see two people of the same gender showing affection, which is not fair at all. If it gets to be an issue then yeah, report it, that's discrimination. Personally I think it's cute when a boy and a girl kiss but BEYOND ADORABLE when two girls kiss. But maybe that's just because I'm a lesbian? Eh, I'll never understand how some people find two people in love disgusting.
For your second question... ugh that's happened to me before. You should talk to your coworker, maybe they didn't realize that it was such a big deal, but if they keep doing it, then I would report it. Good luck!
2007-08-06 16:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by myrtle s. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitley think there is some sort of a problem there. Most companies have a very strict harassment guidelines, and I believe that if you really feel violated, you should say something. There should be NO reason to get "in trouble" for kissing in a parking lot, though PDA is kind of looked down upon at work, but either way, there shouldnt be any actions taken. And for the co-worker, If it really bothered you, then definitley say something to HR. You have a right to privacy and security, and if that was jeopardized, then you should take action. Carpe Diem!
2007-08-06 23:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by carpediem4485 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a hypocritical workplace, that's really unfair treatment of you.
I would go to HR if you think they will do something about it.
I find you have to be careful when reporting to an authority, sometimes they can make a situation worse if it is not delt with properly (something I've seen far too often in school).
If they going to be homophobic also then it may be easier to ignore it than to have HR make an issue of it and make you look bad for reporting.
If they treat the situtaion with respect though it would be a very good choice.
2007-08-06 23:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have rights if you stand up for them.
You might get a copy of the company policy on sexual harassment, and give it to the person first, and say that what they said is not appropriate. If it doesn't stop, complain to HR. If that doesn't stop it, get a lawyer.
2007-08-06 23:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by sudonym x 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely harassment....it is further discrimination if nothing is done.
As or the parking lot...who is complaining? I am among many customers who look at PDA's as something that makes me uncomfortable regardless of who is involved.
2007-08-07 18:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by wvickejr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do whatever you feel comfortable doing. although the atmosphere for alternative lifestyles have gotten better, there is still alot of obstacles you face, my best friend is gay and he has only come out to a select few, and no one at his work knows, just be carefull if you report it, they may blackball you and make things hard...hope things get better for you
2007-08-06 23:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by cjs72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something to HR. Gay or straight, that is harassment. She will continue if she knows she can get away with it.
2007-08-06 23:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call an attorney and file suite. Do not let this rest until you resolve the matter.
2007-08-07 14:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by JD, MAPSY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to HR and if they dont do anything about it go higher... if the ones put in place to protect you wont help they need to be made an example of
2007-08-07 15:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would report it...if only because if she gets worse later you may need proof that she has harassed you before...keep a record of it....CYA...
2007-08-06 23:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋