Do you think it's appropriate to have a baby shower for a (14-16) teenage mother?

Question

Why or why not?

Answer 1

ooooooo I am going to get so many thumbs down but here it goes. No, I don't think they should. Family and friends will be aware of the situation and can still give the standard gift after the baby is born, but I don't think it should be a huge celebration. They do need help, I am not disagreeing there, but I think it can be done in a different manner. I know one girl in our church who got pregnant at 15. Her mom said no baby shower(she thought it was inappropriate to) but we all got her something after the baby was born to help out. Does that make sense?

Answer 2

Would it not be appropriate due to people thinking that someone that young should not be having a child? Regardless, no matter the age of the mother, baby showers are not only to celebrate the pregnancy, but also to offer the mother necessities that she will need in a way that does not come off as charity. She'll probably have it hard as it is because of her age, and I'm sure she will appreciate any gifts or advice that she will receive from having a shower. So basically, yeah, I think it's appropriate. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

It's a wonderful idea to have a baby shower for an expecting mother, whatever the age. But especially if she's in a situation where she will really appreciate not just all the stuff for her baby but also all the moral support she'll get from everyone at the shower.

A shower isn't just about gifts, it's about showing support, etc.

Just make sure you don't invite anyone who'll lecture her (if the baby was a surprise baby). But just invite people who are supportive. And people who'll help her get through school (babysitting?) so she can make sure that she can get an education and support her baby with a good job in the long run.

As they say: it takes a village to raise a child. And the baby shower can be the beginning of a "village."

Answer 4

Oh, yes... a teenage mother needs all the help and support she can get. Often times teen mothers feel ostracized because people have the attitude 'Well they got themselves into this... they can deal with it' but what they don't realize is, that attitude hurts the baby much more than it does the mother. The mother needs to feel loved and supported no matter the mistakes she made. That will make her a better parent. Give her a hand up, not a hand out.

Answer 5

Yes it is appropriate, a mother is a mother regardless of her age and they all deserve the same respect and praise. She is already about to have the baby so the mistake has been made, there is not need to keep reminding her over and over again that she has been 'naughty' and that people are unhappy about her decision to have a baby. I think its a nice idea especially since she is probably having some doubts about motherhood at such a young age and will need as much support as she can get the same as any mother.

Answer 6

Yes. No matter the age, giving birth is a beautiful thing, but It's not the easy. She will need all the help she can get; pampers, milk, clothes, gift certificates, food, toys, etc. Don't just get it something as a newborn. Get it clothes it can grow into as well. I was 19 when I had my now 7 month old. The road I'm traveling is not easy; especially when neither I, or the father that is there for him, doesn't have a job and can't find one. Most jobs we're finding is causing us to relocate. She needs a baby shower; maybe even more than one is appropriate.

Answer 7

For one, teens shouldn't have babies at that time, but considering that the teen father will usually bail on the mother, and the mother has no spare money for an abortion, she is forced to take the baby shower. I mean, if the mother can't afford a baby shower, then how is she going to afford diapers/crib/food for the baby? I think that's the best idea for a teen mom.

Answer 8

I think it's totally appropriate!! Why shouldn't she get to celebrate her new baby? I know that she is young and that will be really hard for her, but having a baby is still something to celebrate. Plus, I would think that her friends and family members would want to help her out and get her some nice stuff to get started with. Plus, you don't want her to feel bad about this baby, do you? Make this a positive thing for her and her new baby.... I am sure she has had enough negativity coming her way her whole pregnancy.

Answer 9

It really depends upon the mother-to-Be's attitude. Is she approaching the birth in a responsible and mature way? If so, then definitely if she seems 100% ccommitted to raising a baby.
If she seems to have a glamorised perception of been a mother, or is only focusing on money she will receive, such as the baby bonus, then perhaps she needs to be shown the real commitment involved. Perhaps the guests could be instructed to bring the practical gifts rather that the fun gifts that tend to idealise a person's view of been a parent.

Answer 10

I do believe that you should have a baby shower for a young mother to be. Seeing to it that I am a young mom to be myself,(18, and 21 weeks pregnant with TWIN girls) she is still going to need a lot of help, and support. The baby is something to be celebrated, yes the baby is unplanned, but that does not mean it should not be welcomed by its family, and friends.

Answer 11

I think it is appropriate to give her a baby shower, because even though is a very young mother, she is still a mother to her unborn child and will still need all the normal things a "regular" more "mature" mother will need, such as diapers, baby clothes, etc. Hope this helped.