Okay, I'm a man, with normal manly weeknesses.Normal as they come, love my daughter more then life. I am NOT a pervert, I have only had sex with 2 women in my entire life, married to my daughter's mom for 22 years. I had some old porn DVDs in my dresser from when my wife was gone on business for 6 months. I got desperate, ordered some porn of the web and took care of certain things myself. Much more noble then cheating I would think. Well, the wife returned home and the porn was forgotten.
Fast forwarding, I ntoiced my daughter being very short and easily angry with me off an on, then we had a minor fall our of sorts and she blew up at me. Called me a pig and a dirty man. Then she finally told me she found my porn and "could never think the same of me again."
I'm totally devastated by this.I don't want my daughter to think of me this way. What can, or should I do? I was thinking to have my wife talk to her, since she knows about the porn. She is not thrilled with it, but was ok
2007-08-06 15:29:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
From her perspective, sex is not a good and fun thing. (You hope!) She is still young enough to be listening to your advice about sexuality and relationships. Seeing this altered her world- because she is young. Not because you are bad. And certainly not because you are a dirty pig. The only one whose opinion on this subject actually matters is your wife's. And she's fine.
I agree that you should have a frank and terribly uncomfortable discussion with your daughter and your wife. No need for gory details here- she just needs to be lovingly told that you are an adult and she needs to mind her business. And that you are healthy and your wife is happy... she'll feel better. Just needs to talk it out.
Good luck!
2007-08-06 15:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-17 06:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
I have faced a similar situation
Just ignore and behave normal with your daughter and behave as a matured father
she will respect you all the more for your grace and matured behaviour. she will treat you with respect as a dependable friend. Do not get confused and look embarrassed
It happens in all the houses where there are teenage children
2007-08-06 16:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by itsma princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should copy and paste what you just wrote and print it (it explains very well). Then lay it somewhere she will find it alone. Take her with you and get rid of all the porn stuff (or just make it clear you got rid of it) and then give it time and give her space. She'll come around.
2007-08-06 15:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by hey there 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, my first instinct is to laugh hysterically.... but then i think - OMG poor guy. your daughter should not have been in your drawer. i have a teen daughter also and would be devastated if she found what i have in my nightstand drawer. I feel bad for not being able to help you with this but i do THANK YOU for posting this cause i gotta go hide some stuff now...
and yeah, i would have your wife talk to her about it cause hearing it from you - she will get the visual and that is NOT GOOD..... good luck... now go pamper your wife!!
2007-08-06 15:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by LISA 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah having your wife talk to her and explain that it is normal for men to do this would probably be the best way to confront this situation if you do it she may not believe it is normal and it will make her more uncomforatable around you. Good Luck :)
2007-08-06 15:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by freckleface 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah-you are a pig. no wonder she is upset! Just b/c its "much more noble than cheating" does not mean its not wrong. Tell your daughter you were wrong and you are asking for her forgivness. she will eventually come around but probably wont look at you the same again!!
DO NOT tell her this is normal! ITs NOT!! Its NOT ok!! Do you want her husband looking at porn?!!!
2007-08-06 15:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your wife has to explain it to her - she discovered that *GASP* her dad and mom are human!!!!!!
Holy carp!!!!
She is having a typical immature reaction to something she doesn't understand.
And she sees you as an ogre now.
So get your wife to explain it to her.
2007-08-06 15:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should talk to your daughter together.
2007-08-06 15:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ya,its better to ask ur wife to talk about this to your daughter.how old is she??If he is to young for this better dont tell alot bout it to her.if she is old inf for it its ok to tell her...gud luck..
2007-08-06 15:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by yuvan84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋