My neighbor called me over to have sex with him! What do I say to his wife who is my friend?

Question

My neighbor, asked me to come over and talk to him for a moment. I thought that maybe his wife/ my friend was sending a message through him, since my baby shower is coming up next monday. Instead, as I went into their house..I looked around for her and she was not there..so I ask and he walks up to me and grabs my arms & begs me to have sex with him. I tell him no, b/c she told me that he had a 3-some with others. Then he shoves me against the wall & tries to tear my dress off. Screaming that he needs it! I am 8 mnths pregnant, & I had a hard time getting him off of me. I will not go into details, but he did something before I could get away from him. ( a minor thing) What do I say to his wife? Better yet, what should I tell my hubby about this and if he should confront the neighbor?
Thank you.

Answer 1

Call the police! He violated you... whether or not he raped you. Do it soon though.

His wife may or may not believe you... but you should tell her too. You should definitely let your husband know what happened. Don't let a criminal like this get away with it. God knows how many other women he's been nasty with. >:(

SELF RESPECT! :)

Answer 2

When did this happen? Today? Yesterday? Last week? I think that's really the important question right now, because when it happened will really determine how your story will be received by your friend, your husband, and the police. Unfortunately this whole episode will probably be the end of your friendship, unless she knows he's a dirtbag and gets rid of him. Your friend and your husband will be understandably upset if you have waited to tell them. If it just happened in the last day or so I would tell now, don't wait. If it happened over 3 days ago then your story will be less well received. I know it isn't right, but it's how it is. It would probably be wise to tell your friend and your husband at the same time. You MUST tell though because if you don't he may take it as a sign that you will keep quiet the next time or that you secretly want him. He's just twisted enough to think that. Hope this helps and good luck.

Answer 3

To me that sounds like he has problems...and you don't need that kind of stress right now with you being pregnant and all. I think for the sake of your relationship with your husband you should tell him, but first make him promise you to not be aggressive about it. Tell him to help you handle it in a mature manner. Don't stoop down to your neighbors insane level. I don't think you should involve the police..police are really over dramatic about things and if he let you go and didn't really try to rape you per say then I would not. But if it was kind of like rape I think you should let them know because maybe it won't be you someday and maybe some little 18 year old girl or some other girl. So you have to be the judge of that. But that definatley does not sound like normal behavior AT ALL. Be careful, hope this helped. ALSO STAY AWAY FROM HIM.

Answer 4

You should have immediately called the police and charged this jerk with assault. Had you done this, it would have probably prevented him from doing it again and you wouldn't have to worry about telling anyone. Everyone would have known.

Now this jerk thinks he can do this again any time he wants and you will not do anything about it.

If too much tile has passed to call the police, tell your friend and your husband, Your husband should let this guy know that he will be charged with assault if her ever touched you again. Also, never go to their home again and do not have him over to your place no matter what.

I recommend you do a background check on Mr Tuff-guy to see what kind of neighbor he really is. I am concerned about you and your baby.

You need to stay far away from this guy.

Answer 5

Wow really uncool. This guy is a predator it sounds like to me. I'd say to call the law, but really it's your word against his sadly. Wow if he had just hinted than I would say to drop the subject and never go over to his house again. But since he touched, grabbed and taunted you then you need to take action.

You are 8 months pregnant, and married. He needs to learn to respect women. Tell your husband, but DO NOT let him go over and solve things. I got a class D felony for being a vigilante. It's not worth it. Have you husband call him. And think about filing a police report. And you don't have to explain anything to his wife. He is the only person that has some explaining to do to her. Take care, and never go around your neighbor again.

Answer 6

That is a sick and disgusting thing that your neighbor did. If he treats you, his neighbor, in this manner, how does he treat his wife? I would not be surprised if he treats her in a similarly degrading fashion, or even worse.

I think you should start by first telling your husband because he is your protector and your first line of defense in this entire scenario. Then, the two of you can press charges against this pervert. Confronting the wife isn't necessary- when the police come and arrest him and read his Miranda rights, she'll figure it out. Or, when he calls and pathetically begs her to bail him out of the slammer - let him do the explaining. Remember, he not only violated you, but he violated their marriage, so if anyone is obligated to explain this to his wife, it is that nasty pervert, not you.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Tell your husband! I'm not going to say you have to tell the wife.. because it could be a difficult situation. He may say you are lying and she might believe him. Then you've got her mad at you, and she is your friend.. and neighbor. Let your husband handle it for now, he can confront him, hopefully scare the crap outta him and make sure that never happens again. If, after your husband confronts him, this behavior continues, tell his wife.. and the local authorities. ANY unwanted attention is sexual harassment, and when you clearly said no and he then proceeded to forcefully put his hands on you, he was WAY outta line.

Good luck, and congratulations on your baby :)

Answer 8

Why are you worried about what to tell your hubby and your friend. You were not in the wrong and this man shouldn't be allowed to get away with it.!!! Get in touch with the police and report him for assault/attempted rape. If your friend is really a friend then she won't hold it against you. Also tell your husband exactly what happened. Better to be truthful with him and to let him know you were not in the wrong. Then you can have this other man charged.

Answer 9

You better tell your husband before it goes way beyond the point of no return. I would also tell his wife. You need to ask yourself what kind of man is he that he thinks he can violate you, (in whatever way that you did not disclose) what signals or gestures has he given you in the past? I'm sure that he must have thought that there was something there for him to go there, and if not you need to let others know what has happened because he obviously has mental/sexual issues. Expose him, your child was in danger that should be your main concern at the very least.

Answer 10

You definitely need to tell your husband. He needs to do something about it, because after all you're 8 months pregnant. And he could do something like this again to you. He might even do something to your child after it's born or something, just to bribe you into it. Since he tried forcing you and actually to the point of harassment, your friend deserves to know. If he had just suggested it and done nothing more, then your friend could be spared the details. But this is too much. Maybe you could tell your friend very vaguely about it, and tell her it's no big deal, but maybe she should talk to him about it. Maybe they're havent been intimate very much lately, and her husband is becoming crazy with waiting.

Answer 11

This, if true, is sexual assault. You should report it, even anonymously, to the police - he might be doing it to someone else. If he tries it again, take a small tape recorder with you and make sure it is running when you go in the house, and take a cell phone with you as well. Without evidence, its his word against yours - you need to be able to prove that what you are saying is true, or your best friend and the police might just say that you are making it up.