I am not married, I started dating this guy and at the beginning all was great but then he needed something and I would spot him till he got his check. It of course snowballed on me because he paid promptly at first but then the 'need this' started out weighing the pay backs. I would give him a lil mini 'statement' when I got my bill just as a reminder that he owed me $. But time past and I still have this on my card.
It's not that I can't pay my payments but the interest is adding up and every time I mention it he makes it like it's a personal attack. He has been laid off from a couple of jobs since then but he now has a good paying job and makes more than 2x of what I make but he still never has money.
What's making me go off the deep end is that he's telling me about how he's starting to give his mom $200 every pay check.
Just spending time around him and not getting my $ but having to listen to him talk about $ going elsewhere with out a thought of me... is killing me
2007-08-06 13:54:20 · 6 answers · asked by Sandi 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
just ask for your money back and get another boyfriend, he is only using you.
Life is not for suffering. you do not need suffering in your life. there are 6000 millions humans in the world, sure you can find a boyfriend who pays his own bills.
2007-08-06 14:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, CUT HIM OFF. You can't keep funding his spending addiction. Face the fact that you are his sugar momma even though he makes more than you do. Make him pay for his own things. Do you still want to be with this guy?
Next, start getting him to pay you anything in any amounts anytime. Once he gets his paychecks, start getting him to send you anything. Forget the statements, just get anything you can.
If you take him to small claims court, it will be difficult because you need documentation and I'm sure he never signed anything stating that he would pay you back.
2007-08-06 22:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by PK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you. He has no intention of paying you back and is getting off on your frustration. You are in the process of a very expensive lesson. People like him, ruin people like you, so that it is hard to trust in the future. Do not give him one more penny and don't pay for anything. . .dates. . .whatever. If you are worried about interest, better start paying it back. I'll bet he isn't giving his mother nothing but a hassle. Call her and ask her. What's he going to do? Not pay you back. . .He is useless. When he realizes you will not be giving him any more $, he'll move on to another sucker. Sorry. I hope he proves me wrong. But just watch. . .he'll lose the job he has now and ask for more $. Please laugh in his face. . .He is a total loser. . .
2007-08-06 21:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's your money. You said you can still pay the bills, which is good, but you worked for that money and it's yours. Keep reminding him. If he acts like it's a personal attack, then remind him you'll leave him alone as soon as you get your money.
2007-08-06 21:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by Agent 47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the ultimatum to pay you back. Set a schedule and both sign it.
Then dump the loser. He's using you. And probably thinks its "ok"
If he refuses to sign or doesn't keep up with the agreement, take him to small claims court and get a judgement.
Then garnish his wages to collect the judgement.
or, just dump him and forget about the payback. consider it a lesson learned.
2007-08-06 22:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by PersonalFreedom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take him to small claims cort and then dump him
2007-08-06 20:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋