We are getting married in Decemeber. I havent seen my fiance in a year and the next time we meet we will say I do. We have been through a lot.. both made mistakes.
We do email everyday and we are close.. very much so in love. I am wondering if any married people were nervous as hell before they got married!?? I mean there are times I think about it and I have this mini-anxiety attack(if there is such a thing) and as it gets closer ... I dont know. I love him though...
Hes really nervous too. I wonder if we are supposed to be feeling like this getting married and all.
2007-08-06 13:43:23 · 6 answers · asked by Iamscaredformylife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is deployed. He has been for 6 months. When he isnt deployed he is 1400 miles away. Once we get married, we have 1 1/2 weeks together. Then I am off to school and he is gone again.. for another 6 months.
2007-08-06 13:51:24 · update #1
In reponse to a few statements. I would already be out in the state where is based but I am finishing school here. I will done sum 08. Once I am I will move to whereever he is located. Thats the plan..
2007-08-06 14:16:20 · update #2
Trust your instincts, if it is giving you that much anxiety, it will only get worse. When guys are deployed, they change, the environment that they are in, the things they have to deal with. Some people feel they want to get married because then he will make more money and that will help both of you. If that is the reason, it's not worth it. A lot of those marriages fail because after having left that environment, now he has to live with someone all the time. Granted you have another 6 months or so, but in the end that's what it means.
Love can not deal with all that you are going to encounter. Remember, when you do move to where he is, you will be the stranger, not know anyone, he will be gone a lot. You are giving up your life. Wait until things have settled, and spend time with him before getting married. He may just not know how to say know for fear of losing you, but if you were able to sit down and discuss it, he may actually agree.
For two people to be so nervous - that makes a statement.
Take your time - that is one thing you do have.
2007-08-12 05:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by dear_vern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting married? People get married to be together.
If you're in love then your relationship will always stay together. If you're apart and becoming nervous about getting married, then you might be making a mistake.
You should get married when you are both going to be together. You don't just set a date, get married and take off for 6 months. That could definitely bring problems into your marriage. That is not a marriage.
Just relax, because in your situation, you have no reason to get married.
2007-08-06 14:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder both of you have been nervous. Your married life will be a tough one. You two will basically spend your married life apart from each other 80 percent of the time. That is enough reason to get nervous.
2007-08-06 13:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is he? Is he on active duty in the Armed Forces? Is he on a religious mission? People change in a year. I'd postpone the date and get re-acquainted myself.
2007-08-06 13:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by K M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to constantly be away from each other, what's the point of getting married?
2007-08-06 13:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not nerves at all for us, it was a nature thing, we were so sure that we were doing the right thing. so if you are nerves maybe something is not so right yet.
2007-08-06 13:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋