In oregon if a mother looses visitation is she still entitled to speak with child on phone?

Question

mother has lost visitation and didn't fight for visitation rights or fill out responding paperwork that she was served and when she has called in the past to speak to my daughter she has gotten very irate with me on the phone as well as at other people and making all kinds of threats do I have to let her speak to my daughter if I have 100% custody???

Okay so this may better some peoples opinion or thinking....The mother has been proven unfit and has lost visitation by the courts, she is always being arrested and going to jail for possession she has been charged with 2 class c felonys since my husband and I were granted sole custody that we know of. We have never told our daughter anything bad about her mom all she knows is her mom needs help before she can see her again. We want to know if the mother still has the right to speak with our daughter on the phone if she has lost visitation as well, her mother is always making threats and being very irate if she does call and there is really no reason for that the mother had her chance to do responding papers to try and get visitation but she never filled out the paperwork.

Answer 1

No, she isn't.

If you have sole custody and she has no visitation rights, that's it. You have final say over who your child speaks to. You could permit her to write letters with the understanding that you'll withold anything that's inappropriate for the child. Even that probably being overly generous to her.

Whoa! Did barb forget her meds today?

Answer 2

So, you took her child away from her and you EXPECT her to be "NICE" to you? Hey divorce is hell, but you shouldn't make your child suffer---if SHE wants to talk to her mother, then by all means, who are YOU to try to break the bond between mother and daughter... MAYBE she felt you could better provide for her then she could.... I sure hope you aren't sitting there telling your daughter what a TERRIBLE WOMAN her mother is or how bad a mother because she might have been a VERY GOOD MOTHER to her daughter... and trying to turn a child against one parent to benefit the other is called PARENTIAL ALIENATION (look it up)... and it is AGAINST THE LAW IN MANY STATES!!!!!! YOUR fight was with your ex---NOT your daughter...and if your daughter still wants to have a relationship with her mom--she is ENTITLED to that relatioinship regardless if you have 50% or 110% custody of the child.... You may get a new wife, but your daughter's mother will be her ONLY MOTHER for the rest of her life---and who are YOU to take that away from your daughter? IF the mother wasn't proven to be unfit and didn't abuse her daughter and didn't neglect her daughter ----why WOULDN'T YOU let her see her daughter ---even spend TIME with her daughter...??? Didn't she get visitation in the divorce ? She SHOULD have and YOU should be abiding by it UNLESS there is something about your ex that would ENDANGER YOUR DAUGHTER that can be PROVEN IN COURT..!!!!!! Stop playing God and let her mother see her daughter.. remember she is HER DAUGHTER TOO and how would YOU like it if SHE had custody and refused to let YOU talk to your own daughter.....? Grow up and start thinking about your DAUGHTERS feelings and her relationship with BOTH of you instead of your power trip and control over CUSTODY!!!!

So Sky, what you are saying is it's perfectly OK to tear a child totally away from ONE parent for the benefit of another??? IF this mother did NOTHING WRONG TO HER CHILD, IF she was NOT A BAD MOTHER, but didn't fight the custody becase maybe the father COULD provide better... does that make her NOT THE CHILD'S MOTHER ANY MORE--NO WAY IN HELL..... put the shoe on the other foot and see how YOU would like it if YOUR EX were to take YOUR CHILD and never let YOU SPEAK TO IT AGAIN????????

Aly_des---I am NOT the idiot here---you did NOT read the question--it did NOT say she LOST VISITATION it said she didn't FILE FOR IT------TOTALLY different set of laws for that one----it also said she didn't FIGHT for custody---the guy NEVER said his daughter was TAKEN AWAY FROM THE MOTHER----she just didn't FIGHT FOR CUSTODY----I think you were RUDE to call me an IDIOT---especially since I DO know a thing or two about CUSTODY MATTERS---I've fought a few myself and WON...... Oh NOR did you thoroughly read my ANSWER ---I said it would be a different story IF the mother was proven UNFIT or ABUSIVE or NEGLECTFUL of her daughter but if those things had NOT HAPPENED, then the daughter SHOULD be allowed to talk to AND SEE HER MOTHER..... maybe you should read a LITTLE better before YOU go off calling someone an idiot---besides in my 56 years of life raising kids ON MY OWN, I probably have had MUCH more experience then YOU have.

Answer 3

Little Barb, you idiot, obviously there was a REASON this woman lost visitation rights. A mom has to be pretty awful to lose not only custody but all visitation rights as well.

And no, you are under no obligation to allow your daughter to speak with her mother. Without visitation rights (and I'm assuming it was for a good reason) she has no right to contact the child. Get caller ID and don't answer her calls. If necessary file a no contact order on her. Good luck

Answer 4

NO!!! NO!!! NO!!! I had to make sure you got it. You are under no obligation to allow her to speak to YOUR CHILD and if I Wes you, I wouldn't put up with the calls either. Their is a system in place for the birth mother to petition the courts to speak with your daughter. Let them sort all that out. You just concentrate on raising that little girl. If I was you I wouldn't even take the phone calls, and you might want to consider a restraining order so she can't try to contact her outside of your presence.

god Bless