what's a good wife?

Question

tell what your culture believes about this issue.

in mine-my hubby is from jordan. woman are looked down upon if they are not cooking homecooked meals, have a perfect house, and kids have perfect grades. the cleaner and more organized the better the wife. my hubby helps a lot .

i'm sorry i put details about myself. i wante dto hear other cultures perspectives. my hubby helps a lot and i'm an at home mama so i have different expectations than if i worked full time. this was not about me.

Answer 1

Bravo! You are in the right spot! Keep up the good work.

Answer 2

There is no set "good" or "bad" spouse that encompasses every relationship. You have to decide between the two of you what your expectations and roles are. If you are fine being the submissive housewife, and he is fine being the dominant bread winner- that's fine. It works for you. I strongly think these are things people should discuss before marriage so they know what they are getting into. A lot of women look down at other women who stay at home and be mothers. But I think if BOTH are happy with whatever the situation is, then that's the most important thing.

Me and my fiance both work full time, but I cook 98% of the time, do the laundry, the cleaning, etc. I WANT to do this because he has a physically harder job than I do. He doesn't expect these things of me, but I want to do them. He would support me if I wanted to stay at home and quit my job, or if I want to get another job. I think this is where a lot of marriages fail because people have these preconceived notions of marriage and then the other person is like "wait a minute, i'm not doing that. That's your job" and then it goes down hill from there...

Answer 3

I'm not a guy, but I think my husband is pretty happy!

I don't cook much or have the perfect house, and we don't even have kids, nor do we plan to!

I want my husband to be happy and enjoy life. I want to be someone he can count on and someone he enjoys being around every day.

I think being a good partner to someone is whatever makes the individual and you as a couple happy!

Answer 4

I must be not too bad then. I work from home and cook the meals and keep the house clean (perfect is not in my vocab) and the kids keep good grades (once again not perfect) I don't have to justify myself to my husband or his culture.

Answer 5

A good wife takes her vows (love, honor and cherish) seriously. Good wives treat their husbands with love, respect, kindness, consideration, affection, admiration.
I don't see what's wrong with trying to put a good meal on the table-- cooked, not a frozen dinner, keeping a tidy, inviting house, and taking your children's education seriously. If you're not interested in those things, why get married?

Answer 6

I think how you live your life depends on where you come from, what generation you may have lived in and how you view what marriage is all about.
My life has been simular to yours except my husband didn't help around the house, but he did respect me and didn't look down upon me. I think my husband was well cared for and I think he was satisfied with our marriage. I have been married over 40 years.

Answer 7

A "good wife" is no who carry's her weight rather it be in the professional world or the stay at home world. As long as she is making her husband happy she is a good wife

Answer 8

Girl now and days woman have full time jobs and there husbands help a lot around the house...My husbands helps me clean, cook and get our daughter ready for bed...Just try your best and also have your husband help you when ever you need help.

Answer 9

A "Good Wife" cares about her husbands wants. Just be nice to him. Don't hastle him after a bad day. Love him! If something seems petty, drop it!

Answer 10

A good wife supports her husband whenever/however needed.