Why is that we can always help others but we could never help ourselves?

Question

We can sooth others, make them feel better and/or ok. But we could never make ourselves feel better and/or ok. If we, ourselves think about ours lives or current situation too much, we would often get lost in it. We'd be thinking, "Why am I thinking like this?" or "Am I only saying this to make me feel better?"

Answer 1

Because when you help others - they thank you and look up to you - which makes you feel really good about yourself.
It is impossible to do that to yourself....................

Answer 2

We can help others, most of the time, but we can also help ourselves and we should be prepared to do so. It is said to love others you must first love yourself. It does not mean to love yourself selfishly, but to know yourself very well and be obervant to your own needs. An example is, "forgiving yourself". This is a very important thing in life because often times we hold a grudge against ourself and this prevents us from moving on and making changes necessary for a better life. Another example is "unconditional love" and that means for your own self too. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them, not let them keep you from making other attempts at things. And you can say things to yourself to make yourself feel better, like: "You are strong", "You can do this", "You will get over this", "Calm down",etc. It really is an important thing to do and will help you to love and have compassion for others. None of us are perfect, yet we demand the most perfection from ourselves.

Answer 3

I know some people who are just like you describe, they helps others so much that they are able to forget about their own problems, or avoid them. Whatever. One in particular has major problems, but refuses to deal with them. Instead she helps others constantly. She won't even have friends who don't need help. Unfortunately she is doing herself more harm than good, even though she is support for others.

Answer 4

I dont know about you but I help myself, always had, and ocasionally in some occasions, tried.my darndest best..
Dad always said If you need a hand, there one at the end of each of your arms.
When the both arms and hands are not enough, I seek help. LIke what you say, others can help out quite easily.
Why? we all have different strengths, so my neighbor, my brother, or my friend's help - well they think nothing of the solution to my problem, but it was a conundrum for me before I asked for help. :-)

For all those who lend a hand out there- thanks a lot.
and I appreciate it.

Answer 5

The view from the outside is clearer when we're in trouble. Others see our blind spots.

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Answer 6

Speak for yourself.