Im 25,im different from my friends who tell me i will be cause of murder/suicide of my relationship.My guy & me should be bestfriends first confidantes,my guy shouldnt be changed by me as hes man i fell in love with,he needs to have his friends which he had before i came into picture,he shouldnt be spied,checked upon,he should go out with his friends.He can talk to his friends(girls)who he knew before marriage as i have no problem with it since i trust him.I give my guy space.But my friends say im wrong & if i am this way after marriage it will fail.What do you think?
2007-08-06 12:04:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop listening to other people and do what you feel is right for you.
2007-08-06 12:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When two people, marry, they don't usually have the time to spend very much of it with other friends, even some they had before they marry...
Marriage is supposed to be a time of "togetherness", and building a "way of life" for the two of you, to begin with, and then the children come along, so it doesn't leave a lot of time
for others, unless they are some special ones of them, that can be included in the activities, dinners and outings, which
you hold, from your home, or as a family.
I don't believe that he should ''keep all the friends he's made,
as a Single Person" nor should you ''keep those you've made", unless they can ''fit into the fold'' of your family, and
be ''just friends'', to You and Him BOTH.
Sometimes marriage do fail, when to many persons ''outside
the family unity'' are invited...at every moment...to invade the
space..of the family...
All of us change, as the years go by, and this is just the Process of Life, and we choose what we want in it...and this
one is your choice. (Hopefully you will make the best choice
for your satisfaction, and contentment).
2007-08-06 20:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Too Funny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is what makes a marriage work in the first place. What do your 'friends' want you to do, hire a detective and keep an eye on him the rest of his life. That will definitely kill the relationship. Just hold on to him loosely, but don't let go.
On the other hand, maybe your friends know something that you don't.
2007-08-06 19:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your friends are insecure and they want you to be insecure as well. There is an old saying which states, "Misery, loves company." They don't trust their men, if they even have a man, and they don't want you to trust yours." Trust is very important into a relationship. The real cause of murder and suicide in relationships is selfishness, insecurities and taking bad advice from families and friends. I have always been told that if you don't trust the person you are marrying then you have no business marrying them in the first place. I hope this piece of advice helps. I will keep you and your guy in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and God bless.
2007-08-06 19:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i can tell you from experince that if your man feels traped or untrusted he wont stay so i think your friends a re just jelios so forget them and do what works for you its the only way it will work
2007-08-06 19:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rose R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bored?
2007-08-06 19:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think much it gives me a headache like your question again.
2007-08-06 19:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to find new friends!!!
2007-08-06 19:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds fine
gl
2007-08-06 19:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give us a break already!!!
2007-08-06 19:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by diablo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋