Hi.
my 27 yr old daughter and grandson have just been on holiday for two and a half weeks abroad to meet a guy who lives there who she has been with 2 years.
They are on their way back soon i am collecting them from the airport soon.
She sounds so sad i am not sure what to say for the best, i told her to mark the calandar and count the days until they meet again, but not sure what else to say or whether not to say anything atall?
I have cleaned all her flat for her and decorated a room she badly wanted doing as a surprise so this will hopefully hel[p a little.
there is only 17 years between us and we dont always see eye to eye but i love her and my grandson with all my heart i just wish i could help take this pain away as when she cries i cry.
Any advice would be so gratefully received.
Thankyou x
2007-08-06 11:47:44 · 17 answers · asked by mum to 5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
reading this made me feel like crying!!!! how sad!!!! i think if you cry then that is making matters worse you have to be her backbone at this very moment in her life! with out your support then she may go off the rails. i dont want to alarm you but you need to try and stay calm (no matter how hard!) and go out to places, try and distract her. make up a daily routine of going on msn/yahoo and seeing each other on webcam. plan day trips out and just be happy all the time and hope for the best!!! i wish you all the best of luck!!!!hoped i helped!!!!
2007-08-06 11:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
*Hmmm...well here is my idea :)
*Find a babysitter for the little one.
*Have a mother and daughter day...and treat her to a day at the spa with you. Get a massage, facials, sauna, manicures, pedicures...it is SO so so relaxing!!
~I think that a spa treatment is a good one and it's beneficial, and I think that before you go to the spa you two should go out for some lunch or something too. That way you two can play "catch" up that way on things. Don't tell her you're taking her to the spa, let it be a surprise, and you know I bet after a nice long day of relaxtion...she might ease up a little bit and she might not feel so down. She is probably just stressed out and everyone needs a break and some "me" time. And since you're her mom, she'll feel comfortable with you there also.
....hope she feels better soon!
& have fun, whatever you decide to do :)
2007-08-06 18:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what your saying did they slit up did she live with him abroad.The only thing you can do is be a shoulder to cry on and what you did to her apartment is great I'm sure her coming back to a clean place with help a lot.Does she have a computer and web cam where as she can see and talk to him at the same time. I have been there and all i wanted at the time was to be left alone by everyone if that is what she wants then give her a other then that that's about it,sorry.
2007-08-07 02:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand the way you feel, my daughter is 21 and I do the same, cry when she cries because you feel their pain. I think that what you have done so far is a great start, it's always the little things that count.....the other stuff she will get through and she will come to you when she feels she really needs you. It's ok to cry with your daughter when she is sad, that's how they know we love and care about them, once she gets it out of her system she will feel better.
2007-08-06 19:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by robink71668 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing a 'grantastic' job already. How about buying her some fancy stationary and lots of stamps so she can write to him every day in the meantime. Or if she has any photos of this guy, get one blown up into a poster size for her wall (or even better - into a cardboard cut out! )
2007-08-06 19:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by lilmissdisorganised 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep her busy, the time will fly by. Dont refer to the calander until it's closer to the time. I have a good female friend overseas right now, Counting the days would drive me nuts. If she sits around all day she will mope.
Any kid centred activities where the little one is having a blast would be good. Any mother would be delighted to see their child smiling.
2007-08-06 18:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by cosmiccastaway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom never let on like there was anything wrong! Just act normal and maybe if she is down it really might be better she find someone else that is here at least start looking.I would suggest it if she carrys on too much.Also what does this do to her son when she acts so needy.She is to act strong around him.Honestly she needs to buck up!
2007-08-06 18:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by jessy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her it breaks your heart to see her so sad - then give her a packet of tissues and a hug...
When the tears subside - buy her a cup of tea and tell her that; whenever she needs them; you will always be there with the tissues and the hugs...
2007-08-06 18:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by franja 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give her a hugh and tell her that you are there for her if she needs someone to talk to.
Else you seam to have done as much as you could already. I sure would have liked my Mom have done some like that for me.
2007-08-06 18:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Attitude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes there is not much you can do in thoese areas but try to be there for to make her smile keep her busy to make the time go bye and if she needs to talk let her talk just be there for her my mom was always there for me she now lve 600 miles away but when talk to her it fels lke she was right beside me...seems like your trying hard and she will apprecaite it good luck
2007-08-06 18:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋