My sons father is trying to get custody of my son and its all about the money. He just doesnt want to pay child support anymore. He hasnt been much of a father up untill he filed for custody. Now hes trying step up and spoil my son so he can appear to be a good father in court and so my son will say he wants to be with him. Could I lose my baby for the fact Im broke and have depression and anxiety issues and my son says he wants to be with him because he doesnt realize what his fathers doing?
2007-08-06 11:23:33 · 16 answers · asked by EMERALDBUTTERFLY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to legal aid. They can help you for very little money. As for your depression, you have to get help for that. It will definitely be used against you in court.
2007-08-06 11:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is no, not without your ex prove you to be an unfit mother and been broke and depressed doesn't fit the criteria of unfit. Get yourself a solicitor. You should be eligible for legal aid hopefully. The courts see cases of fathers suddenly stepping up the gear all the time so they wont be fooled that easily. Give the scum bag a run for his money girl and don't let him frighten you with his threats.
Oh yeah and go see the doctor about your depression and anxiety as you need to show that your actively addressing your problems. Good luck.
2007-08-06 11:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by KAT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a good lawyer ASAP, preferably a female lawyer who is friends with the judge. As far as money and custody... it's not what you have but who you are. Are you a decent human being? Do you take your child for doctor visits, etc? If you attempt suicide or are that badly depressed your rights might be at risk but don't listen to me, hire a pro. If your baby's dad has so much money, he can pay you more child support. Usually courts go with the mother unless she leaves the child alone, neglects or uses drugs too much.
2007-08-06 11:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by Penelope Yelsopee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think both would be horrible. However at this point in my life (only 15) I think losing my father would just break me. I lost my mom to cancer right after I turned 4. So I don't really remember her. I think both are horrible, a child should not have to be without a parent and a parent should not have to go through losing a child.
2016-05-20 00:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. I feel like the major obstacle you are facing is the depression and anxiety issues. If you are not receiving treatment for them, start immediately. A good lawyer can make you appear like an incompetent parent . Why don't the two of you go for shared custody? It is a win/win situation!!
2007-08-06 11:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you definelty need a good lawyer on your side. A good judge though will see right through your husbands tactics and will not necessarily take the recommendation of a very small child that has probably been bribed. So get your emotional issues taken care of as far as medication or whatever. and just be your self and a judge will hopefully see what is best for your child.
2007-08-06 11:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, honey. Every judge is different. Money and stress and anxiety doesn't mean anything, but the fact that your son wants to live with his dad will. I will pray for you and your son and the judge who hears this case so that the right decision is made. I feel for you.
2007-08-06 11:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vanessa,
You know Lano is a lousy human being as I do. If our lawyer saw ASAP that this was all about money, then any good judge will see that as well.
He's a loser, always has been, always will be. All I know is that when this case is over you had best sue him for more child support than you were getting to begin with and quit being nice to his family. They don't care about you and their actions in the past few days has shown that.
Be strong, Bear. I love you. Mom loves you. We will win.
Love Always,
Valerie
2007-08-06 15:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by MamaBear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i almost didnt answer this one until you anxiety issues, I suffer from it, and dont use meds,, in italy new research is saying its the fear nerve in the brain, which over reacts for no reason,, walking is good and hobbies,, change your thinking into good, he could get the kids,, the odds are more against you,, if the child want dad, let it be, maybe make a deal as your stressful life must change, say hey ill see the kid/s every? what ever you want, only thing is make it legal see a lawyer make sure papers are real and add he wont get support from you,, this way your off the hook if not you might pay him? so see a lawyer as state laws vary to state to state.. think this over,, but your odds may be slim now........sorry to say... move on..
2007-08-06 11:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hopefully... if you're broke and have depression and anxiety then your son deserves to be with someone stable. And your son wants to be with him. Maybe this is best for him, regardless of whether your husband will be paying child support anymore or not. Stop thinking about "you" losing "your" baby and think about what is best for him.
2007-08-06 11:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, this is going to be up to a judge to decide. Sad, but true. Just be the best mom you can be and live your life as "by the book" as you can. Hopefully, when all facts are taken into consideration, you won't have a problem. Good luck.
2007-08-06 11:27:43 · answer #11 · answered by Love Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋