Fathers and mothers against their gay sons and daughters?

Question

What the hell is wrong with people these days? I have been looking around Yahoo! Answers today, and came across mothers and fathers complaining about their gay sons and daughters! They are asking "how to turn them straight and back on the path of the way of god!"

There was even this bible-crazed woman with a 21-year-old gay son who she was trying to force him into a bible "straight again" camp. She told her son "If you do not attened this camp, you will not be apart of this family anymore, for the sake of the rest of us! I don't want your homosexuality spreding around to the innocents of our non-sinned family" Later, she told everyone that her son attended the camp, scared of being un-loved from his family. She said the camp didn't help, and she literally stopped loving her son and they don't speak to eachother any more.

So, I guess what I want to ask is... Is there really people like this? If so, tell me about it.

Answer 1

Yes, such people exist. There is a possibility that the parents never loved such a child. If being disowned is that easy, then you'd have to wonder how the relationship was. "If you don't eat your potatoes, we're going to disown you!" Shoot, my own parents beat me for how I held a pencil to write. I guess they were so afraid others might see and it somehow reflect back on them. That is selfish if you ask me.

On another level, the guy in your example is actually quite lucky. Some homosexuals have been killed by their own parents. Even the Bible said in the Old Testament to stone rebellious children to death. There are nuts out there who would apply that to today's time period. As bad and even emotionally damaging as getting kicked out of the house and disowned is, it isn't fatal.

If you go to http://www.transsexual.org and read about Jennifer's story, she was made to leave home at gunpoint. So yes, there are some hateful parents out there.

Oh yes, to a comment above, people do choose various lifestyles. People choose to join the military knowing how tough it is and that they may never come back home. People choose the Christian faith in Muslim nations where being an openly practicing Christian can be fatal. People choose to get body piercings, body mods, tatoos, and dress as Goth, knowing that people will make fun of them, and knowing their employment options are limited. People choose to work in dangerous and underappreciated forms of work.

Answer 2

i call that a distorted view of God. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 13, i think maybe verse 8 that love never fails. i am a very conservative Christian; meaning the Bible is to me absolute truth. I believe homosexuality is wrong. And a really good friend of mine is gay. It was a shock when i found out, and I didnt know what to do. But I love him, I would give my life gladly for him, and i really enjoy him. I do not, however support his sin. Change cannot be made by any human measures. it takes a willing person and God changing their desire for sin into a desire for righteousness. Homosexuality is no worse a sin than pride (look up the word abomination in a concordance and you will see that [leviticus; proverbs] ) The truth is, God can restore. Man cannot. Sin is sin. God will forgive if we ask and repent (turn from our ways of wickedness)

Answer 3

John F, you know that these are not your average parent, and in fact their behavior gives us insight into their son. Most Christian parents do not respond this way. Rick Warren once said, "Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone's lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense You don't have to compromise convictions to be compassionate." I have one daughter who is very dysfunctional. Been married 5 times. Her eldest son just married another man. I help raise this child. I know what went on in his home, which eventually broke up because of my daughter's bad choices. Recently my grandson married another man. I did not go or comment, and in fact I have never put down gays. In my family which I moved away from, some practice homosexuality. I also thought, "live and let live." My grandson and my daughter have estranged themselves me. She did not stop there she has maliciously maligned my character. She claims to be a Christian. I have been one all my life, but we are on different sides of the spectrum when it comes to homosexuality. My whole family as well as she are pro gay, I am not and so to them I'm like I do not exist. So you see the road goes both ways.

Answer 4

(I think this is a troll question, but I'm answering anyway.) Let's say you began at age 16, the age of consent in many places. 63 - 16 = 47. So, having 100 sex partners evenly distributed in time means about 2.1 per year. If you kept each "boyfriend" about five and a half months it would work out 100 partners in 47 years. Viewed this way it doesn't look so bad. From the male point of view, I'm envious!

Answer 5

These are the mothers and fathers who force their sons and daughters to commit suicide.

I know of one case a close friend told me about. Where my friend's friend's mother kept saying at when she was 16 and came out, that she was a product of the devil, and that she was living a deviant lifestyle and wouldn't be supported by her family. The day before they had scheduled her to be kicked out and sent to a religious turning you straight camp she committed suicide, leaving behind a note. The whole thing drove the mother into a major depression of which she resents the whole situation to this day.

Answer 6

Sadly there are.

I will share with you my story. My family is a very conservative Chinese family from Taiwan. Upon coming out of the closet, my mother stopped all support including financial for my continued education. I soon found myself to be homeless, turning tricks in the park for 200 bucks a pop, thinking to myself that this is easy money. I cannot comment on why people would disown their families but I know there is pressure to conform to the community.

Luckily for me, I stopped turning tricks when I walked to visit an aunt who lived about 25 miles away. There, I was given support and love and told that I was not worthless. I eventually moved back home with my parents and our relationship is now at best, arms length as I have my guards up with them constantly.

I don’t claim to understand why she did what she did. The only thing I know is that I need to move on with my own life. For a while, I was angry at her, and at the world for the homophobic attitude that was shown to me by both the Asian community and the mainstream society. I carried with me a chip on my shoulder and soon discovered that I was not alone.

Therapy did me a lot of good and it offered me a glimpse of the good side of humanity. Homophobia exists still and I battle with it on a regular basis by being here, answering questions, and standing proud to be who I am.

Answer 7

Yep, way more of them than anyone wants to know about. Conversion camps and therapy are a multimillion dollar business.
Problem is two fold.
1. Parents start off blaming everyone else when they find out their kid is gay. They blame teachers, friends, neighbours, etc. Then when they figure out it wasn't an external source they turn the blame onto themselves. At that point they want to have their child cured of this terriible disease given to them by the parents.
2. Those who listen to (or form their own) misinterpretations of biblical texts will assume that homosexuality is a sin. Then they turn their incorrect thoughts into actions by deciding that all homosexuals are sinners in need of salvation. The problem is they don;t actually read the texts in context to realize the so-called laws they are using are merely the laws of man given at a particular time in a specific economic and societal climate. As well, they selectively choose which of those laws to try to enforce. I have yet to see anyone who uses Leviticus against homosexuals also attack people who eat shellfish or wear clothes of mixed fabrics. But they should if they are true old trestament followers sinc eall three woudl be deemed an abomination in that bible text.

Anyway, when parents figure out thei rkid needs to be cured or saved, they seek out what purports to be the solution. Instead of providing love and understanding, they abdicate their responsibilities as parents to these therapies and camps. They send their kids away for treatment. But the only thing they really do is get rid of what they consider to be an embarassment to themselves. and dispose of a problem they do not want to be bothered with themselves. It is easier in this disposable society to pay for the service rather than exerting oneself to learn, understand and realize.

anyway, enough of my rambling. I figure parents who send their kids away to be cured of being gay are not parents worthy of having the kids. So, before the parents disown the kids, the kids should disown the parents.

Answer 8

Parents who have "conditional" love for their children make me want to throw up. They are selfish beings who ought to never have had children in the first place. Any parent who has disowned their child because of their sexuality, well, I would gladly slap their face and take the consequences.

Answer 9

Yes. They are called "Mormons". Kidding, kidding...well...not really...

Sad as it is, honey, there are a LOT of people who don't get the 75% acceptance that you and I were probably blessed with. For many people, even people that I know - it's a war. It's a fight to be themselves, and everything they've ever known and loved is on the line.

Yeah, there are bootie-hole parents like this. They don't deserve to have such wonderful children.

Answer 10

I think it's also pretty sad that most parents say "You either are straight, or you get -zero- money for college or anything else in your life."

Or even worse, saying that won't love them anymore if they are gay. I think it's sick for people to do that, having to choose between what they feel inside and the love of their family is a sad thing.