my wife doesnt work even though she has a masters degree.its been 3 years now ! help!!!!?

Answer 1

Have you asked her? I mean if your making it fine on what you make then dose she have too? Do you have kids? If you do maybe she is waiting for them too get older....

Answer 2

What do you mean your wifes has a master degree and doesnt work its been three years has she had hard time looking for work or dont want to work. She maybe happy just the way things are. You need to sit down and have a talk with her about getting a job if it is a strain on you.
Best of luck

Answer 3

Work with her on the project of finding a job that she likes. Or furthering her education so that she can find a job that she likes. Or getting job counseling. Or working on her resume. Or signing up for job search services (a lot are free - indeed.com will send you job listings based on your zip code, for example...)
She may be paralyzed by indecision or distracted by bigger projects that aren't paying jobs. However, her projects may lead to a paying job eventually.
Also, share budgeting tasks with her. Do you just think she has to work because she has a mind and a body and an education? Hire a housekeeper - a good one - and then send your wife out to get a job. She won't be washing your underwear and cooking your meals then. You might come out a few hundred dollars ahead at the end of the year!

Answer 4

Are you my husband?

You described me...MBA, but staying home to raise our kids.

I'll tell you my reason for not getting a job. I can't find one that pays any more than what I made in high school as a retail manager. I have no experience in anything other than retail, so noone outside of that wants to hire me. I have sent out hundreds of resumes and turned in hundreds of applications and have received....and I'm not joking....NO job offers. So, why would I leave my kids with some day care so I can go out and make $15 hour? Ultimately, after daycare costs, additional fuel and clothing costs, etc, I'd be earning about $2.50 an hour.

I don't know if you guys have kids, but regardless, I am to the point where I don't even want to bother. I currently work at a grocery store as a cashier a few evenings a week for a little extra cash. I really think college is a big scam. The people who get ahead are those who have amazing patience with people, have friends and family in the right places, and who have great ambition. Education or not, those are the ones who get ahead. I don't fit the bill on any of those. People like me, and perhaps your wife, shouldn't get educated. It's worthless. I am destined to work in grocery stores forever.

Answer 5

Definitely something else going on here. Was she ever abused in the past? I was as a kid, and though I hadn't seen my abuser in almost 10 years by the time I was married, somehow living with a man (though he is much like you - not at all violent) scared me into thinking that I was one petty argument away from a beating. Weird. I did counseling to help me get over it. As for the sex life - I don't really understand the nil. Most couples go through highs and lows, but to reach zero sounds a little too extreme. I'd say she needs to talk to someone to figure out what's going on with her, or your relationship is going to be strained to breaking.

Answer 6

What is her master's degree in? Maybe she doesn't work because she thinks a husband should be able to support the family. Maybe she is just a lazy person. Tell her to go find a job or move out. Either way, she will have to do something.

Answer 7

Even as a girl, I have to take your side on this. It’s one thing if a mom wants to be a homemaker- that’s all good and fine. However, if a woman has devoted years to obtaining a Master’s, it just makes sense that she does something with her education. Life is just easier with two breadwinners. You have more to put away for savings, can treat your kids if you have them, treat yourself to vacations, travel. It can be difficult to get back into things when you’re out of the job market for a while. Is there a way through any of your contacts to open a door? Talk to her and try to find out her reason for not working.

Answer 8

I really need more info for this. Does she want to work but can't find a job?? Did she quit a job to watch her children?? Which by the way is a hard job. or does she just not want to work?? These are all things you two should have discussed before marriage but now is better than never.

Answer 9

What was your agreement when you married on the subject? If you didn't discuss this topic I suggest you do. Communication is KEY!!!! Talking, not being too intrusive. Be nice. Now if she has not worked and she agreed too, then that is different. Remind her of the agreement. This is deal breaker in my opinion. You'll get stressed. Then there is a tendency to draw yourself away from her.

Answer 10

do you need her to work to help out financially? if so sit down and tell her that you need help financially show her do not demand her. Why hasn't she worked in three years anyway did she have a baby or babies because if that is the answer then it would be cheaper for her to stay home than for her to work unless you get some kind of government assistance.

Answer 11

do you guys have children if yes then she is working stop being so selfish you want her to work and take care of the kids and do all the cleaning and cook for you (i'm fair) six times a week you are out fo your mind . let her use her master and you stay home and do what she do everyday and i promise you it won't last three years.