Should i have a threesome?

Question

My partner really wants us to have a threesome. I have had previous experience of girl on girl sex. The problem i have is that when i have been drinking the thought of us having a threesome really turns me on, and my partner and i fantasise about it regulary, and i talk about us having a threesome. The problem is, although it does still really turn me on when im sober, i dont feel the need to act out our fantasy. My partner thinks i am being untrue to myself, and should just go for it, but i think from past experiences that i would really regret it, if i go ahead. Am i in denial? Should i just go for it?

Answer 1

It really depends... While you might feel comfortable having sex with another woman, that is not the issue... The real issue, is can you handle watching your husband have sex with another woman??? How will it feel to see another woman give him the kind of pleasure that you thought only you could??? Let's be honest, this will NOT be about you... To him, this is just a way to have sex with another woman without it being cheating... And remember, once you do it, there is no undoing it... He's just feeding you that 'honest to yourself' bullshit because he thinks it'll make you want it... But trust me, you don't want this anywhere near as bad as he does...

Do you for one second think he'd have the same reaction if you proposed a threesome with another man???

Answer 2

I guess the question is, How strong is your relationship? I was in a really great relationship with a woman for about 3 years when we decided to try a threesome. It was great fun and lasted for several weeks but it seemed to cheapen the relationship. We split up about six months later. In hindsight, we did not communicate that this experiment was not permission to have an "open relationship" and we had different commitment interpretations. If the two of you really want to try it, I suggest that you sit down and have a sober conversation about boundaries and expectations. This can be a relationship changing experience and you need to be ready for the "monster" you may create with one intense night.. Good luck.

Answer 3

Usually guys want a threesome so they can screw another girl without the girlfriend being allowed to get mad about it. It's obviously for his own benefit that he wants the 3way; if it's all about "the beauty of sharing the experience with another beautiful person", tell me why he hasn't suggested bringing one of his guy friends into the act? How did I know that? I'm a guy, for god's sake! We all think alike! (Most of the time, anyway) Try it if you want to, you might have fun. Hell, you probably will. But it's not something you'll tell your husband or your kids about. And years from now, he'll still be drunkenly telling his drunk buddies about it in the back of a tavern. Just call me the voice of experience.

Answer 4

Don't do it , you might regret it plus how could you ever trust him,, I say NO NO NO ,, but most of your answers will be yes because they are guys and they think with the other head ,, and a few "yes might be from women,
If you want to experience something in life, help the poor, read a good book , go see a state you never have , or be kind to a stranger, but that sex wont last long and if you have doubts now you most likely will have them after,,

Answer 5

Hmm? Tricky question.I wouldn't do it but I am really open minded.I am those people who think that I would do almost anything for my partner so he won't look for it somewhere else.Buuut...I also beleive that whatever a couple does is never wrong if they both agree.If you fantasize about it...then go for it,that's the only way that you will know if you are really ok with it or not,if it makes you feel guilt then make it clear to your husband that you didn't like it and that that was the last time.He should understand that.

Answer 6

This threesome is a difficult decision on your part. It must be thought out carefully even if alchol is involved......you will wake up from the buzz and have thoughts of the night before. It will either be good or you will have issues. Its a form of infidility no matter how you do it and make sure the pack is you can not bring it into future conversations or use it against each other EVER. Good luck in your decision my dear but go into it with and open eyes and forgiving heart and you will survive it.

Answer 7

If you truly love your partner and you are planning a future with him, then I would not do it. Trust me in the end the relationship will start to fall apart. Also it will be thrown up in every argument.

If you are not serious with your partner go ahead. I think that threesomes are for people who are not serious.........only experimenting.

Answer 8

If you do go there... you can't come back.

He will always want that much fun.

I have done several threesomes and loved them all, but now that my wife doesn't want any exciting sex(of any kind... just kissy sex), I am stuck with the memory of what great sex is like and the reality that sex sucks now...

I'd have to say, don't do it.

Answer 9

Not acting out a fantasy is still being true to yourself, otherwise the world would be in complete turmoil.

As for what to do...that is totally up to you, not your partner. He should not pressure you into something you are not totally in favor of...plus how would he react to the threesome with 2 men and one woman???

Answer 10

It could easily ruin your relationship. A threesome isn't all it's cracked up to be either. It's a lot more complicated and less fun than it looks like in dirty movies. You risk screwing up your relationship. A fantasy is only a fantasy because you leave out the details that you don't want. Like, jealousy, STDs, and the like.

Good luck.