So, I have a semi-complicated etiquette question that really doesnt need to be this complicated... hehe.
I have several friends and family whom cannot attend my baby shower, so they are sending gifts to me through the mail. Some of them said to wait til the shower to open the package, others did not mention when to open it.
I plan to just wait til the shower to open all of them. But what if some expect me to open it immediately, and because I wasn't sure, I waited til the shower to open the gift, and they get a thank you note a month from now?
Not sure... any idea-ers?
2007-08-06 09:56:27 · 13 answers · asked by Sami Jo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If they didn't say "wait till the baby shower," go ahead and open those, get the thank-you's out so that they're prompt, and you won't have to worry about them later! You'll have plenty to write after the shower, so save yourself some time now. The ones who told you to wait obviously won't be expecting a thank-you till after the shower.
2007-08-06 10:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Dj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just wait until the shower and send the thank you note after that time. Most of them won't be waiting for their thank you note anyway. If anyone asks if you received the package, tell them that you did receive it but wanted to wait until the shower to open it. You might also let your parents or other close family know that you're planning to open all your gifts at the shower. That way if (for example) your mother's sister or someone asks your mother if you got it, they can explain that you're waiting to open it.
2007-08-06 10:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ... when receiving a thank you note that they would be patient enough for you to wait and open it at your shower if that's what you want. I've found that having a baby is a very busy time. (for me at least) Between showers, and classes... I *will* send my thank you cards out... but I'm hoping no one is waiting at the mailbox for them.
It might even be nice for you to wait and have someone take pictures of you while you're opening their gift... then you could send that along, as if they attended. *shrugs* Just an idea.
But I'm a very patient person and not overly fond of etiquette. Best of luck!
2007-08-06 10:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Arneb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the people that sent you the gifts already know that there is a baby shower planned, i think it would be okay to wait to open them with the rest of the gifts and send the thank you card once you've opened the gifts.
Thank you card that you send, whether it is now or later after you've opened the gifts, is a simple acknowledgement of reciept and a show of your appreciation. By waiting til you've opened the gifts, you can personalize your thank you card by saying "thank you for the lovely _________ that you've sent to me..." etc
Have fun in your shower and congratuations in your forthcoming blessing!
2007-08-06 10:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait and then that way you can send out all of your thank yous at one time. In the note let them know that you waited until the shower to open them becuase you werent sure. Some people wont mind, some dont even expect thank yous at all :) if they call and ask you if you liked your gift then i would just tell them you werent sure if they wanted u to open it yet.
2007-08-06 10:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just want to wait until the shower to open the gift...then wait! Send out all the thank you notes at once! It makes it a lot easier for you! Trust me...just because someone gave you a gift...they are not waiting by their mailbox wondering...where is my thank you note? Congratulations on your pregnancy! Good luck hun!
2007-08-06 10:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Hikapakapee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open all your shower gifts at the same time. Usually people don't pay much attention to how long you wait to send out a thank you but they will notice if they don't get one.
2007-08-06 10:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by blue eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them a thank you note the same time you send out the thank yous for your other gifts which should be right after the shower.
2007-08-06 10:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by ginnrc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until the shower to open them, send thank yous out all at the same time, and let the poeople who mailed gifts that you waited until the shower to poen them all at the same time, so everyone who was there could share in the experience. They will understand, believe me. If your friends are worried that they haven't heard from you, thinking that the package was lost, then they can call you and you can let them know your plans
2007-08-06 10:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send all of the thank you notes at one time. You could always call or send an email telling your friends that you received their gift but will open them at the shower.
2007-08-06 10:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Truth is elusive 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋