To me, there is a difference. We all can forgive (and we forgive to keep bitterness out of our own hearts); but, if we FORGET, then we "may" be setting ourselves up for more hurt.
example: someone steals from your home; you can forgive them; but, that doesn't mean you should give them the keys to your house!
2007-08-06 09:38:39 · 10 answers · asked by 100% ♥Creole♥ 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
The people I have known who say, "I forgive you But I won't forget" really mean that they don't forgive at all. It is only lip service and a distortion of what it means to forgive. In your thief scenario the issue is Trust. To whom do you give your trust? Not someone who steals from you but someone who makes you feel safe, someone who looks out for your best interest. You do not give the keys to your house to someone who only steals from you. But why do they steal? Why do they betray your trust? Do they mean to do you harm or simply fill a need in their self? And so by forgiveness, the thing stolen then becomes a gift given, before the gift is deserved but the thief does not see it that way. So, what then does it mean to go the second mile but to see the need in anothers life and help them even though they have done you harm. When someone then steals your coat, you see the theft as a cry for help and you give to them your sweater also.
I see your point that we should learn from our mistakes and failures .... but there is more. We are to turn our failure into success.
2007-08-06 21:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by TheNewCreationist 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth to the matter is : You cannot truly forgive someone unless you do it, with forgetting the incident ever happened.
When God forgave us of our sin, In his eyes it is as if the sin was never their in the first place. So to forgive someone is not truly forgiveness, unless you erase it form your mind that it ever happened. This is hard to do, I know, but that is the fact that should be practiced in our daily lives. And along that line of thinking is hating someone. You don't hate the person, what you hate is their behavior. Every person on this earth has the ability to change. The only exception is the person whose brain is not normal, in which some do have this problem.
2007-08-06 20:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to forgive is to move on emotionally from the pain. u accept that the person is a human being and humans make mistake.
u don't forget the incident itself because history repeats itself and u want to gain some knowledge and insights from bad experiences.
all said and done, some actions are
inexcusable/ unforgiveable / can't be pardoned.
2007-08-08 19:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm exactly. forgive but Never forgot.... as in forgive the person and Don't give them the keys to your house.
2007-08-06 16:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I agree with you. You have to remember what they did or how they acted to keep things from happening in the future.
2007-08-06 16:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Turtle 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Agreed!
You can always forgive, but you have to protect yourself. God wants us to forgive, but he doesn't want us to be stupid.
2007-08-06 16:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ron B. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you dont want to forget because you dont want it to happen again.... There is a difference..
2007-08-06 16:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
true, but i think that "forget" really means to not keep bringing it up over and over again and harping on it.
2007-08-06 16:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by K Girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like your answer there.
2007-08-07 20:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Abbasangel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know...whatz up with that...?
2007-08-06 16:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mee~mOe~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋