and the two cant physically see each other well the boy had a birthday and now he is considered an adult at the age of 16 and he and my daughter continue to talk to each other. I have taken away her cell phone but she begs for it back and I talked to her about sex, I love my daughter but am I wrong for taking the phone away even though the two cant actually "see" each other, and is it o.k. to let them just talk since the sex part happened before he became an adult? Myself and the mom do not live together. They live in Indianapolis and I live in Dallas. Any advice?
2007-08-06 09:24:58 · 7 answers · asked by agent635 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The girl is a minor ! You call the boy an adult then tell him to get a full time job with insurance and prove that he is a man !If he is an adult then you could press charges if he touches her ! If it"s love they will weather the storm.
2007-08-06 09:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my experience has been the more you try and keep people - epseically teens apart the likelier it is they will find a way to communicate, see each other whatever.
I would suggest giving her the cell phone back and figuring out what can and can't be controlled. If you allow them to talk, chances are... things will change. She'll find another boyfriend where ever she is.
I believe that mom and the girl's doc need to talk with her not just about pregnancy but about STDs as well. Was she taken to a doc for tests after having sex? Has the boy been active with other girls? Prgnancy can be dealt with easily - adpotion and such, but STDs can be with you for life.
Figuring out how to teach her to respect herself, and not be pressured into sex is important.
Figuing out why she needs to have sex is also important. Usually it's about something missing in her young life? A relationship with dad perhaps? Psych 101 I know... but think about this.
Control.. rarely works. What is going to happen next time mom catches her? is she going to move again? That could start getting expensive.
good luck
2007-08-06 09:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like someone prevously mentioned it may be hard to accept she is growing up, but just let them talk hell there are other ways she can talk to him myspace, payphone at school, or through a friends phone. It also depends on your childs muturity level when i was 10 i had sex my murturity level was probally that of a 13 or 14 year old and now im 15 my mucurity level is that of adult i clean cook do chores that i dont need to do all on my own. I have a lot of freedom and i respec that. You should be thankful your doughter lost her virginity to someone she cares for about and not with just a normal friend as i do regret not losing my virginity to someone special to me.
Also yes with your permission it should be ok to let them talk.
2007-08-06 09:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by Meda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents took the phone away when they found out that i had slept with a guy at age 15 and he was 18 threatened to put him in jail well needless to stay the tried to keep me away from everything afraid i would do it again but sheltering me made me want to go out more since i couldnt..long story short i became a teen mom and have been raising my child by myself..its been tough but i did get through it and still am getting thru it but its hard...just dont take things away bc it might back fire on you..i love my baby more than anything but do you want to be a grandpa already
2007-08-06 09:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ok yes wat they did wasnt good but its normal ok i know it must b hard to realize that ur daughter is growing up a little but if they talk on the phone theres nothing wrong with that they cant see each other thats bad enough for them just keep talking to her about the sex stuff im sure shes smart and wont b dangerous about it
2007-08-06 09:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by cb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your right in protecting your daughter, shes too young to realize the consequences of her actions. ur making her know how much u care and how much u will do to help.
2007-08-06 09:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her away from that phone. There not telling who else she's calling.
2007-08-06 09:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by ilovequestions1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋