When the divorce was filed I signed custody over to my ex and I got visitation because I worked the night shift and being that I don't have any family nearby I didn't have anyone to keep my children at night (ages 2 and 4 at the time). I am still working the night shift however, I am remarried and my wife is able to be at home with the children at night (we are all on good terms and I know my ex doesn't have a problem with my wife being with the children at night) she does this now because we get them on Friday nights and we have them for the summer.
I need some pointers on what things I should include when trying to talk her into joint custody, I am seeking joint physical custody and proposing that she keep sole legal custody, meaning that she has the final say in decisions regarding education, health care, etc. because we always discuss things of this nature and come to an agreement. Thanks!
2007-08-06 09:15:24 · 4 answers · asked by billy g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just to clarify and avoid rude comments-
My current wife was not the cause for our divorce, my ex was cheating and I met my wife long after I was separated and divorced.
2007-08-06 09:19:51 · update #1
Bring it up to her by explaining to her how much you enjoy spending time with your children. Tell her that you have such a great time with them on the weekends, during the summer and (I'm assuming) holidays and that you really miss being with them. Here are some points to sway her decision:
1. Less financial responsibility on her part
2. More time to herself
3. She gets legal custody
4. It's good for the kids to be able to be with you both
Good Luck!
2007-08-06 09:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is the courts now lean toward joint physical custody. You can file for this and you will most likely get it granted. Tell her you want joint custody and would love to avoid the BS that goes along with a court battle when in the end you'll get what you're asking for anyway. Side note, don't expect this to change your child support liability. It will drop a small amount but not much.
2007-08-06 09:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how much you want to be a big part in their lives and find it hard to do that with just visitation. It is always in the best interest of the child to have both parents take an active role in what is going on with them. Just be honest when talking with her and don;t lose your temper if she gives you a negative answer. It would be in her best interest not to put up a fight since it is expensive to obtain a lawyer. Good Luck
2007-08-06 09:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she won't play ball then take her to court.
2007-08-06 15:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋