My husband says I am selfish for wanting to go on a cruise with him alone. I think it is weird that a 37 year old man has to go on a cruise with his mommy and older sis.
2007-08-06 09:00:53 · 18 answers · asked by SABRINA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, you got yourself a mama's boy. you always be number 2 lady. when you have a mama's boy he is dedicated to his mom and his family. it is not selffish of you to want to spend time with your hubby. tell your hubby this.................should we invite your family over when we have sex? ...........he will be puzzled and then tell him.............i dont want to be selffish and have you all to myself. then make a couple more of those lil tricks and see what he says. ell him to think about it and does it sounds right. it is not selffish that you want your hubby all to himself. it is suppose to be sexy and exciting to be on vaca with your spouse. talk to him and i hope it works out.
2007-08-06 09:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is so ridiculous it's hard to believe it's real. No rational man would WANT his mommy and sis to intrude on a cruise with his wife, much less call you selfish for wanting that.
His attitude isn't weird. It's literally insane. The guy has some deep, DEEP emotional issues that have left his view on life seriously skewed. At 37, there's little chance he'll recover.
Hmm... if he's religious, quote scripture: "For this reason a man shall leave his mother and father, and cling to his wife..."
I assume you're relatively recently married. No rational woman would tolerate this in a man for long.
2007-08-06 17:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong at all and you are not selfish, you are normal and are trying to have an adult getaway with your husband. He is weird for even suggesting to bring his mom and sister along. If they want to go on a cruise there are thousands of other cruises that they can take.
2007-08-06 16:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that kind of stuff was strange, too. But my husband and I are actually going on a cruise with his brother later in the year. His sister and her family were supposed to join us, but couldn't get the vacation time. Here's the thing - in my case it's because my husband only gets to see members of his family every few years. I find traveling out of state and using my vacation time to visit his family kind of annoying and really boring. So I was complaining that we never get to have a REAL vacation. So the compromise was that his family and us would go on a mini-vacation together. That way I still got a real vacation, and he still got to see his family.
So I don't think it's strange at all - especially if you don't see his family that often. Some families are like that - where they go on vacation together. So you and I are the strange ones for thinking it's strange. LOL! Seriously - I know people who get together with their families at DisneyWorld for the holidays. One of my girlfriends just spent a month in Europe with her family (their families, nieces/nephews and all) and she's in her 40's.
2007-08-06 16:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isnt wrong. When a man and woman get married, it is to become a couple. To want to have time and experiences as a couple is normal. To have so many included in the relationship is not healthy.
Couple = 2 (not 3 or 4 or 5 .....)
2007-08-06 16:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by msbettyboop40 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL, I agree. A cruise is supposed to be romantic, and I'm not sure why he'd want his parents along. Try explaining how much fun you two could have if just the two of you went.
PS - Just think ... in some cultures, the parents of the bride and the groom actually watch the newlyweds comsummate their marriage on their wedding night. LOL
2007-08-06 16:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by Michael F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no it isnt wrong to want just you and your husband to go on a cruise - the only way I would say it wasnt is if mommy-in-law is paying for all of you - then I would say the more the merrier
2007-08-06 16:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Window 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he always including his mother and sister in your lives? If he does, this is just status quo.
Do you do other romantic, just couple type things together, go out to dinner and have a date...or is it all with sis and Mom?
If you do not spend much time as a couple, you need to change things.
Good luck.
2007-08-07 01:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I wouldn't want to go on a cruise with my in-laws. I don't know about you, but I get so little vacation time that I want to truly enjoy it and not have to worry about other people's itineraries.
2007-08-06 16:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by DAR76 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's kind of selfish to want to take his family with him and his wife.
My wife and I LOVE going on vacations that don't involve our family. It's how it should be.
You might be on "Everyone loves Raymond," and you don't even know it.
2007-08-06 16:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋