moved back in together. After two years of me not seeing or talking to my mother in law and her only seeing our children (which she denies) once in two years she has gone on a rapage and has had the police out to our house 4 times in the past week. She called CPS and claimed we were neglecting and miss treating our children. CPS came to our house and investigated and found the alligations to be false!! Now she has slapped my husband with a restraining order full of false allegations. I dont know how to deal with all of this and if there is anything I can do. Any suggestions? Police and CPS are on our side so far and my husband is fighting the restraining order but what if her behavior continues? Might I add she lives in the same neighborhood and us!
2007-08-06 08:18:34 · 21 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, you two should consider packing up and moving!
Second off, take her to court for slander.
2007-08-06 08:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Ok...if you and hubby want to work it out it's time for some relocation first of all. Get the hell away from her!!
Second of all, your husband needs to put his foot down. It's time to choose between his family and his mother, which is ridiculous that she's bringing it to this. Do not let her come between you two...if you love him and are trying to work things out then make it happen. I don't care if you have to move cross country, get away from her. See, calling CPS tells me that she's trying to get your kids taken from you...and that is not acceptable unless there is true neglect or abuse taking place. Why is he fighting the restraining order? Other than the false allegations...ignore her. The less he fuels that fire the more bored she will get. Once she realizes that she will not split you two up it will all simmer down.
2007-08-06 15:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has problems. If you husband still has a relationship with her I would have him speak with her and tell her what she is doing is completely wrong. You guys are adults and this is not her business or her children. If there is not a relationship between them then I would get a restraining order on her because who knows what she is capable of doing next. Also if your children are old enough I would talk with them about speaking with her. If she drives up to the house and so on. You can never be to careful. As for you Congrats on working on your relationship and start concetrating on that with your husband because she wants it not to work and with all this garbage going on she possibly could suceed. Dont let her and be happy!!!!!
2007-08-06 15:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sales Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there you do need to move away from her. You also need to let her be. She is gong to do or say whatever she has to too get between you and hubby. You can only support your hubby in whatever he wants to do with this. She needs help and when you fight back she is going to fight harder. Don't drive by her house or walk by her house sense you all live so close to each other. You need to make sure through a lawyer she will not be showing up at your home at any time.
You need to have them send her a letter that if she continues the harassment something will be done about it.
2007-08-06 15:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would move. Change my numbers, cut ties with her. She will become lonely and come knocking at your door. Dont go to her just stay away from her. Get a lawyer to slap a restaining order on her. Your reasons is harrasment and her coming over making a scene and dont want that kind of things to be wintness by your kids. If the cops and cps are on your side then it would be easy to get them to help.
2007-08-06 15:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the police and CPS are on your side, she could get in major trouble for filing a false claim with CPS.
If it were me, I would file a cross restraining order on the mother for harrassment, so she is not allowed to contact you either.
Sorry that this is happening - its always hardest when its a relative - such betrayal!
2007-08-06 15:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by beach 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She put a restraining order on her own son??? If the police are on your side then have them deal with the problem. Maybe you should get a restraining order for your mother-in-law.
2007-08-06 15:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with an attorney. Start with placing a restraining order (one that will even keep her from calling you) and document all of the crazy stuff she is doing. When it comes down to her word verses yours, it’s best to have the documentation in hand. It sounds like she might be headed to the funny farm… have you had someone check to see if she needs a medication refill?
2007-08-06 15:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Zero 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She could be in trouble for filing a false report to the police. I would get a restraining order against her and never allow my kids to speak with a mean sick woman.
2007-08-06 15:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she put a restraining order on her son? for what? so he can't talk to her or the kids?you could do the same basically. file a report with the police sighting harassment and/or slander. call an attorney and have him write her a cease and desist letter.
2007-08-06 15:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the situation is kinda wierd!
if possible, u both can talk to her, either directly or thru lawyer, about how much the family image is suffering publicly bcos of her actions and that any issues can b resolved amongst urselves amicably.
try to find out the reason for her actions.
if not possible, then only solution is to move out of the neighbourhood and stay in a different place.
2007-08-06 15:31:31 · answer #11 · answered by purna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋