Can you offer any good suggestion for to-be-newly wed couples?

Answer 1

Don't keep things that upset you inside. You need to be able to talk about things that bother you. You may not always like what is said to you or what you have to say but you have to keep the lines of communication open. If not, it will build up and then it all comes out anyway.

Answer 2

Here are just a few I can suggest:

1. Stay Faithful
2. Be honest
3. Always Commmunicate
4. Treat them like your best friend
5. Always compliment and show affection except during PMS
then give them space and do things for her.
6.Trust each other always unless you have a reason not too.
7. Go out dnacing or what ever you guys did while you dated to keep the spark alive.
8. Try to always pleasure her in bed before your self
9. Never lie
10. Do not bottle up emotions.
11. Never consider her a sex toy or property since she is you wife.
12. Do not control her.
13. Be appreciative of everyhting she does.
14. Buy her flowers or something nice just for being her not to try to get lucky.
15. If you fight try to resolve argument then not later meaning never go to bed angry.
16. Never fight over the small stuff.
17. Never spend money you do not have for example cut up the credit cards or just use them for emergency most marriages end because someone doesn't know how to budget. So if you can't afford to buy it with cash on hand then don't. Except for a car or a house but then you would be discussing any big purchases say over 3 hundred dollars with your mate anyways.
18. #17 I guess would not mean much if you are rich!
19. Remember you vows always they are what ties you guys together as a couple!

God Bless and Best Wishes!

P.S. You are only suppose to do this once in your life so I hope you have chosen wisely!

Answer 3

Don't go to bed angry. Sounds silly, but it just leaves problems there to deal with tomorrow, or worse, to fester into something bigger.
Talk about EVERYTHING, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Your spouse should be your best friend, so talk to them that way. The good stuff, the bad stuff, it doesn't matter. Build good communication from the start.
Never ever call each other names in an argument.
Never fight about money.
We're still learning, but these things have gotten us through our first year and a half.
Oh, and don't let the first year get you down. It's really hard and it's even harder to find good support these days. Talk through the trouble as well as you can, cry together if you have to, and if you can't sort it out yourself, seek out a trusted couple who has been married for a good long time to give you insight.
Good luck!

Answer 4

For Life Advise-

NEVER go to bed angry, work out your issues before going to sleep so you can wake up to a brand new day without last nights fight hanging over you

LOVE at all times, even when your partner isn't very lovable.

TRUST in your partner and show them they can trust in you

BE FRIENDS, not just lovers.

DATE often, don't loose that special spark that lit your fire in the first place. You may be married, but that doesn't mean you can't try to win each other all over again, every day.

BE KIND, GENTLE and FORGIVING there is are better qualities in a partner than these; and they will serve you well though out your life.



For wedding advice: Don't expect perfection on your wedding day, things are bound to happen and whatever happens, happens. In the end you are STILL married. (I lived by this for my wedding day and as a result I DID end up with a perfect day, with a few glitches here and there, AND I was so calm I surprised almost everyone.)

Answer 5

You need to check your pride and ego at the door.
You should have a heart to heart discussion before you marry. Oprah has great advice. I don't particularly care for Oprah but I happened to catch some of her advice in the newspaper and it was pretty sound. It might be available on her website.
Be ready to compromise and remember why you are doing so. I compromise because I love my husband. I'd rather be with him than without. I can live without him but I don't want to. I enjoy spending time with him. We have lots in common but we are not perfectly matched and that's a good thing because then we are not always joined at the hip. We do spend a lot of time together but we've been married just over a year.
I do recommend separate checking accounts, sharing household expenses. One of you will probably be more of a saver or a spender than the other. It will save you some fights or disagreements.
Love each other and tell each other often.
Take a break when you need it. Do your own thing as needed. Try to see things from each other's point of view. Don't be so quick to rush to judgment. Listen. Listen. Listen.
Be slow to speak. Be thoughtful. Remember to do something nice for each other. Don't take each other for granted.

Answer 6

Don't forget that your wedding is a party. Often, brides get all worked up over everything being perfect and they effectively miss their own big day. It's not very often that all of your friends and family get together. Make sure you enjoy it,and let the little stuff go.

As for being married. They say the first year is the most difficult. You have to get used to all the "little things" that you might've missed while dating. Some stuff will drive you mad. I'm sure you'll drive your partner mad too.

Be patient, and communicate often about decisions of any size. Try to avoid going to sleep angry. Don't let sex get routine. Take a second, third, and or fourth honeymoon every year to remind yourself that you're in love.

Answer 7

You have a blank page with love hopefully at the heart of your relationship. Just love each other which means not just in the bedroom. Think how you can please your wife ie take her for a meal, her favourite movie, favourite book, do a hobby together. Find ways to blend together and work it out as you go along. Be good friends to each other too! It's what is done outside the bedroom what counts then natural intimacy becomes natural and more loving.

Answer 8

Marriage is really hard work but is well worth it if you are willing to work at it. You need to keep doing things for each other to keep the spark there. My husband and I kept all of our journals from our pre-wedding classes we had to take and I love to look through them and what we wrote compared to where we are today...it is amazing how you change together as a couple. Congratulations!!!!!!!

Answer 9

You've receieved a ton of advise haven't you? lol But I think its a deeper question. My answer, Bring God into the bedroom. To many church's (im a Christian by the way, very strong one)
have removed what REAL LOVE MAKIING is!! Friend this may seem off the wall but its not. While my wife is :-) blessing me, I truly lift my hands before the Lord and thank Him for this awesome God loving women. and like wise for her :-)

In another life of mine, (my own rebellious years, I will only say- One to many. I know sex. And it was during those times I also felt such & ack in my heart & stomach for some deep accountability. Just ONE WOMAN to give my all.
Trust me, look at your wife that way before God, you will be amazed :-)

Answer 10

Your love, loyalty, respect and friendship should be first with each other.

Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Think of the other before yourself. Do for the other before yourself.

Make sure your words, actions and thoughts are for the good of the marriage.

Laugh...always laugh...play like kids especially before you have them.

Continue to date, give flowers, cards and romantic gestures that are special to the two of you.

Put the seat down and socks in the laundry.