Does it hurt the same way?

Question

This may sound stupid but pls understand that I am feeling a lot of pain.... When the husband cheats on you and leaves you for another woman, and when a husband leaves you because mommy is too important does it hurt the same?

Sorry, my emotional level is way of the charts and I am not thinking.... just feeling a lot of pain, betrayal. I am very very passionate and my feelings, whatever they are, are very strong

Look it's not about who gave birth to him - He married me, shouldn't I come first? Or why marry?

Answer 1

I am upset after reading your question. Pain not only hurts but it also makes us stronger and harder. Be brave and try to make things better.

Feeling pain won't solve your problem but an honest and dedicated effort would definitely do

Answer 2

It all hurts the same..Pain is pain..I think the majority of people have been cheated on and it hurts. I think that time heals all wounds. The best thing to do is do something that will take your mind off the pain. Go for a long walk, go out with some friends, go watch a funny movie. Whatever you do just have some fun. Before you know it you'll be dating again and this will all be history. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

First off, let me say that I am so sorry that you are going through this. I think it hurts worse because you feel like you could at least compete with another woman, not that you should but when it's the mother, It's whole different ballgame. You are not going to be able to compete it the mom will not let go and the son does not know how to tell her no. I know you are feeling a lot pf pain but with time, it will heal. I know, I'm a survivor! Good Luck to you!!

Answer 4

He's obviously still a child emotionally, and if his mother supported his chosing her over you, she's a hag.

The purpose of marriage is to establish a family. That family is the husband and wife, and possibly children. Once you are married, your primary affiliation is to your spouse. Any decent parent understands that parenting is a strange job. Your goal, in the end, is to get fired. Your kid grows up, gets married, and then does not need you in the way they did before. A decent parent will not listen to their child's gripes about their spouse, unless the spouse is truly awful.

If you and your ex do not yet have children, count your blessings that this pathetic little mama's boy is out of your life. I'm not saying you are not in pain, but it would be worse to suffer 30 years of his mother coming before you. If you do have children, perhaps your ex will realize where his priorities should be.

Either way, my heart goes out to you.

Answer 5

I don't understand why he has to leave you for mommy???
Why are you even in competition with her.
Why does he feel that it is one or the other?
Isn't there a way that he can have a wife and a mom like most adults?
Don't fight a battle that you cannot win and you will never win a battle with his mom.
Find a way to co-exist or simply move on!

Answer 6

I think the pain is different because he isnt going to do anything with his mother but something special he spent on you his life and body I am so sorry he did this to you I would take one day at a time and remember that life is to short I would talk to him and don't let him ruin your life but not allowing you to live

Answer 7

It is in the sense that betrayal is the same. But you could never compete with his mother - that's a different relationship.

Answer 8

Honestly consider this, Pain is just weakness leaving the body.

Answer 9

well i am a mom of a mommas boy so belive me when i say its not ok that he done that to you .his mother should be ashamed of herself. if she were any kind of woman or mother she would send him right back to you. i would never get involved with my sons relationships. and we are very close. sorry he has done this to you. he's a real jerk by the way

Answer 10

Yes you come first, but try to tell that to mom, and the other women, oh no I'd tell him to get the hell out of the place you live, how needs this crap, you don't.