Please tell me how you changed your sexual orientation. What worked for you? Did sleeping with a woman work? If i supress my feelings and think about women all the time, will that work?
2007-08-06 07:10:13 · 12 answers · asked by GET IN TOUCH 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ex-gays.....thats like saying ex human or ex mammal....
2007-08-06 07:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
dude, I know this is not the answer you want to hear, but, you are who you are. The only thing that you can change is your feelings and attitudes about how you think about yourself.
You can deny, deny, deny your whole life, but all that will do is make you miserable. You can sleep with women and it will not change you. I tried. You can even get married and hope that will change you, as many gay men have and do, but this will not change you either. You can try and only think about women when you **** off, but i gaurentee you, a guy will always slip into your fantasy.
You are who you are. The best thing you could do to give yourself a chance at happiness is to find a way to learn to accept and love yourself for who you are. If you go the other route and try and change your sexuality, you are headed down a long miserable path, that could end up dragging down innocent people with you.
please listen.
2007-08-06 14:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
sad......truely sad.
Anyone who is ex-gay is lying to themselves. They if anything, are supressing their true feelings to try to fit into something that our society has said is right. Accept yourself for who you are, and dont let people tell you that your wrong. Theres nothing wrong with it, or unnatural, or evil. You cant change the desire, only the behavior, and if you do that, you will live your life hating yourself because you will always want something else. Or, eventually get fed up with it, and revert back, especially since within the next 5-10 years, it will be acceptable, and then youll wonder why you wasted so many years of your life lying to yourself about who you really were. Its not fair of people to press their beliefs onto other people, and make you live in an image that they have created. Be yourself, love yourself, and accept yourself, the world will follow one day, most other civilized countries already have, america just needs to catch up.
2007-08-06 14:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
um, you can't change your sexual orientation. You are who you are. Suppressing your feelings will just make you angry and depressed. You are born with this sexual orientation, so I would suggest trying to accepting and embracing it.
If you become depressed or suicidal, there are tons of LGBT help hotlines out there. Do some research on the internet, I'm sure you can find somewhere to call if you need help.
2007-08-06 14:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Diet Peach 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I tried sleeping with women, fantasizing about women, looking at men's magazines, watching porn, getting married & having kids, and moving to a town where there were no gay men, forcing me to either be celibate or sleep with women. I was still gay. Then I said, "to heck with it, I must really be gay" and now I'm much happier.
*EDIT* Thumbs down? How can you tell me my answer is wrong? It's my life experience!
2007-08-06 14:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry.
Santa, Tooth Faerie, Easter Bunny, Ex-Gay. . .
How about you try some psychotherapy to embrace who you really are, then go on to live a productive, fulfilling, truthful life?
edit- Mr Jello (below) is wrong, wrong, wrong. He used "whom" incorrectly in the fourth paragraph. Plus - he's advocating living a life in denial. How could that possibly make you happy??? He claims we're thinking about ourselves. No, we want you to be healthy.
2007-08-06 14:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by Todd T 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The phrase "Ex-Gay" seems ridiculous. I am straight with gay friends and there is no way a human being can alter their sexual orientation.
2007-08-06 14:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ow! I remembered something. I had sex with this 2 guys they were totally gay, then we haven't seen each other for a couple of years, when we meet again they were totally straight. Neat huh!
2007-08-09 14:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kenn2x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend,
You cannot change your orrientation. For Years I tried everything! I've tried to "Pray The Gay Away"... I've tried being with the opposite sex, but it felt all wrong...
Honey, you need to accept yourself as you are... Yes you will have to go through a few obsticals, and a few ***. holes on the way. but wont it be worth it when you find that one special person?...
I am here if you need to talk hon
2007-08-06 14:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by *CHELSEA* 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
IMHO, "ex-gays" are people who are actually bisexual, and who started limiting their dating options to members of the opposite sex. Some famous ones gave up trying to change (two of them fell in love with each other). Others who claim to be "cured" simply don't date at all.
http://www.beyondexgay.com/
2007-08-06 14:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Robin W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My stepdaughter gave up the gay lifestyle after being a lesbian for over 6 years. She just wasn't going in the direction she wanted to go in life, took stock of her life and made the change.
Whom you have sex with is not predetermined by the fate of your birth. You can do anything you set your mind to do.
First, set good goals for yourself. Next change your friends and the places you hang out at.
Never accept hearing negative vibes like you can't be whom you want to be. These people are only thinking of themselves, not what's best for you.
Remember, you are the captain of your life, you control your future. Good luck and wish you well.
2007-08-06 14:45:35 · answer #11 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋