I'm talking about some woman I dated in high school and then lived together for a few years. I dumped her because she was a loon and now she is calling me 12 years later and bitching me out! WTF!?
2007-08-06 07:03:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
RIGHT.....I would just laugh...shes probably getting any.....so she has to blame it ALL on you...PLEASE...JUST LAUGH and LAUGH HARD...
P.S: Don't listen to "Wisdom_Women" and don't apologize that was 12 year ago (that's exactly what she is looking for ATTENTION from YOU)...if you want to waste your time on her then go for it...
2007-08-06 07:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that your sorry that things didn't work out between the both of you. Give her some reasons why (skip the loon part though) and state that your sorry that her life has been so hard. Be careful how you word things (she's a loose cannon) and if the calls continue or escalate get an unlisted number.
She sounds like she's never gotten over the relationship and perhaps needs closure. Give her something and hopefully she'll move on with her own life with a better outlook.
2007-08-06 14:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you hang up in the first 10 second when you could tell where the conversation was going? Of course my feeling is, anyone that shacks up together is a loon.
2007-08-06 14:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you have to remember, some people have problems letting go, no matter how long it has been. there is probably some underlying psychosis. I know someone who is the same way. can't let go, blames other people for what is wrong in her life. "whah, whah, whah. look at me. I was molested as a child. my uncle raped me when I was 16. after the love of my life broke up with me, he started seeing a 19 year old. how could he do that to me? whah, whah, whah." (for the record, I was molested as a child, too, but I don't want anyone's pity or blame anyone for what happened. I dealt with it and moved on.) she was recently diagnosed as bipolar, and then with ADD. and she is the "victim". every time something happens in life that makes her fall on her face, it was always someone else's fault. after she found out that her ex was buying a house with the new girl, and they've been broke up for like, three years now, she went into a fit of rage, calling me to b*tch about it, crying all the time. man, just get over it. quit playing the victim. quit crying about him. it's over, so just let it DIE!!!
some people are like that. they like the drama, they are drawn to it. just assume that she has some underlying psychosis, and when she calls next, tell her that you refuse to talk to her until she can get her thoughts in order and quit blaming you. if she persists, tell her you will make out charges for phone harrassment. if she continues, follow through. with people like that, it doesn't matter what you do, it's never good enough. quit being her sounding wall, and don't allow her to try to make you feel guilty. hell, it was 12 years ago, and it didn't work out. change your number if you have to.... good luck!
2007-08-10 09:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get a life. If she can not fix something 12 years later then she never will. How about changing your number and not having it listed.
2007-08-06 15:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is still a loon. If she calls again, just laugh and tell her, "Yeah and if you would have stayed you would have destroyed my life!"
2007-08-06 14:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Awww she misses you lol....
I know what your talking about though i don't know what to tell you. Just recently I have had the same problem. 5 years ago, I was friends with this one guy. Never really physically involved but i did live with him, i was going to move to california to be with him but something told me not to go so i trusted my instincts and i never went. I was living with his parents at the time because he had gone to the coast guard. Shortly after i decided not to go i moved out of his parents house and because of that we had a big fall out and he told me to never speak to him again. I married about 3 years after the fall out with him. Anyways one day i saw that i had a message on myspace from some guy, i looked at it and to my suprise it was him!! We began talkin again, catchin up, you know! Anyways shortly after we started talkin again he started freakin out on me, yellin at me, tellin me i ruined his life, I am the reason why he is an alcoholic, he never thought he would love me this much and it was all my fault. He was tellin me sometimes he wishes he could kill himself, he can't sleep at night ect....Man, i tripped the hell out when he said that. I mean how the hell is it my fault? I NEVER told him to fall in love with me, i never wanted him too!
All i told him was how the hell is it my fault? I told him he had problems and befor i would ever consider talkin to him again he needed to get help and that was the end of that. He still texts me here and there but i will not reply back to him....
2007-08-06 14:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings never change huh? She's still a loon.
2007-08-06 14:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Block her number, make sure your number is unlisted. Some people really are crazy. Seems like you had the misfortune of getting mixed up with one.
2007-08-06 14:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by nac'smom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you've done something wrong (her point of view) apologize to her. Let her talk and hear he out. Defuse the situation the best way possible. You might have done something that you wasn't aware of.
2007-08-06 14:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by wisdom_women 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋