So far, 98% of the guys that have shown interest in me, and also that I have shown interest in have all been "closeted". Am I sub-consiously wanting this for myself? Why does this consistantly happen? I have no idea at first they are in the closet, but, then they say they are and then they get nervous and distant but stay single. I am not aksing them to come out or tell the world - just somebody you can talk to and relate to..
Am I looking for this and not knowing it? Am I not worth it? Why does this happen? I just find this to be a pattern and don't know why. Maybe somebody knows better than I? Talk to me.
2007-08-06 06:30:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's open. It's affluent.
2007-08-06 06:34:22 · update #1
I do love taking care of the guy.
2007-08-06 06:39:12 · update #2
sup sexi..hehe
I think personally, you do this because you get sense of satisfaction from it. You see, you might see this as a challenge. Once you aquire it, you will either feel better of yourself, or you want that person in the "closet" to be expose to the beauty of being gay. And you are worth it, i just hope you don't build really strong hopes with someone who is still closeted, they usually don't last long. Im closeted, but there are little windows that my close friends peep through. hehe
2007-08-06 08:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Two part answer:
1) It's very common to repeat the cycle of types of guys you're interested in, because the same thing that interests you in one guy would interest you in another.
2) It depends on where you are and how old you are. You may seem to attract only closet cases because your demographic (age/location) may have more gays in the closet than out.
Keep swingin' the bat. You'll hit one over the fence sooner or later :)
2007-08-06 13:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Clint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question, and YES - in all situations and all sexual pairings, habitually chosing "the wrong type" or the same type guy is VERY common.
It's possible you might like the challenge of someone with a conflicted sense of self, and it probably shows right away, whether you know they're in the closet or not. Or you might like to be the caregiver, the one with the experience to see them through this rough patch in their life.
Or you might just have REALLY REALLY awful luck, and for that, sweetie, I'm sorry. :(
Not a professional opinion, but I know I got stuck in a "I must date a performer" rut, and it just happens that way! I dated every dancer, singer, musician in the tri-state area! Good luck!
XOXO
2007-08-06 13:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by gochefs (Geo) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you are in a pattern of guys. Everyone does this, even girls. It took me a long time to realize the type qualities that I was looking for was just getting me into trouble. So instead of feeling sorry for myself and giving up I just looked for something that is totally opposite of what I would normally look for, But still attractive. Now I have been in a ltr for almost 4 years and getting married in October. Their is someone out their for you, just be patient. Good Luck...
2007-08-06 13:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by Leslie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mackarel!!!!!
Maybe you like a mystery. Because you seem to question whether or not they like you also.
I believe everyone is worth the time and effort. It seems to be harder for others depending on the circumstances.
Luckily I am in that 2% because the only time I would be closeted is when you are in there with me.
2007-08-06 13:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very common. I've dated a bunch of crazys myself. You can and should brake the chain though. don't ask me how, you're attracted to whom you are attracted to. It could be that you are subconsciously setting yourself up to fail. Try a mantra, every morning and evening write and say at least 40 times: I am worthy of a healthy and caring relationship. It will sink in to yout subconscoius and you will end up in one.
2007-08-06 13:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by I only love you when I drink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should actively try to interact with people who are out of the closet, or ensure that they are before you get talking to them. Sometimes we do feel that we're stuck with a jinx of some kind. It's not that hard to break it, once you know what you are looking for.
2007-08-06 13:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it is where you live? Is it more common to be in the closet there? Or is the place open and friendly?
2007-08-06 13:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by reallynaughtystl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dont want you to know, because you might tell thier family, and as long as they care what thier bigot parents think, they wont tell anyone
2007-08-06 16:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, yeah w all have a"type" that we go 4 ,we cant help but b attracted 2 em,thats jus the way we r ,what we lookin? 4 ,who knows but we`ll go on searchin wont we
2007-08-06 14:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by tasty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋