It seems as if i have no friends. I do and they will be forever until the end. I just feel as if i have a hard time fitting in with anyone. I have a few "real friends" but I never get phone calls, I seem to have butterflies in my stomach when i want to call someone that I dont really hang out with and I want to get to know them better or I want to hang out with them. Ex: i use to have a best friend we would see eachother everyday no matter what. But she always seemed like that kind of girl where she wanted me to herself. Now she has a new best friend i am soo jealous of her, now it just seems weird that i want to be her friend again. I just want some friends that i want to be able to have fun with someone who will always be there. I am soo depressed because every time I have a good friend they always get in to bad things like smoking or drinking. I need help.
2007-08-06 06:18:37 · 14 answers · asked by nikkinicole 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Someone once told that if a person has one good friend in a lifetime that Ithey should consider themself lucky. A lot of people can have many people to hang out with--especially if they are smoking and drinking. Real friends aren't so easy to come by. Real friends are the people who are there when you are sick, when you are happy, and whether you need them or not. Instead of finding a friend just to have one, don't be afraid to reach out to those who give you those butterflies. A lot of times these people may be just like you, and if neither takes the first step, a good friendship may never be realized.
2007-08-06 06:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by hello molly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some times I do feel that way. But I dont get that way any more. Because I used to have a best friend since highschool. But we have moved on and still are friends but not best friends anymore. She has turned into some one else, so she is one person that I hardly ever talk to. If you feel that way you should talk to a family member and ask them their honest opnion about why you cant find friends and things that pertain to that subject. They might give you some insights on where your going wrong and point you in the right direction. Dont get too depressed about it, because some times friends drag you into the wrong direction. Hope you get the answer your looking for.
2007-08-06 13:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by nativeglitter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy going your own way and sometimes it is lonely doing what is best for you. It is hard to find friends that dont drink or smoke, The problem is you need friends that have the same values. If you have to chose between friends or ruining your health then go your own way. You can visit them in the hospital in the years to come.
2007-08-06 13:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having come out of an exclusive horrible relationship I lost all my friends and well interested women to boot. It sucks I was going to out this weekend but was like and do what. I mean they had a multi-ty culture feast where they kinda do not like single white males, I mean feamles yeah but males no, talk about racism. Anyway so I took a pass on the hate fest.
I thought about going out to a bar but they are over run with ex-housewifes, drug dealers and of course hookers.
SO I went to aprk and ran into a man who lost his home due to the 2000 stock market crash and we spoke for about 90 minutes. He was educated and not an idiot unlike all the over people that I was trying to meet.
Yeah I get Butter flys because as a single male going into a social sit. I could have a war of words or even fist fight.
2007-08-06 13:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no sex drive, never have; I have on friend who I can relate to on some level, everyone else is a peon, I have severe elitist issues, so please just shut up; I hate when people complain about the most trivial things, just be quiet. Oh and if your friends are into drinking and drugs thats great, thats all I do to get my mind off of the pains in my chest from depression, silly girl.
2007-08-06 13:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by zach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is depression you need so see a doctor. There are certain levels of depression and sometimes it last for days weeks months or years. Everyone feels alone at one point but if it is consistant then you need to go to a physcologist or a doctor and get anti depressents. I wish you the best
2007-08-06 13:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by ursolastsummer! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just hang in there they will come along you have to be with ppl with your same intrest..and to have good friends you have to be a good friend...cause someone smokes or drinks dont make them a bad friend you just dont do what they do so they wont want you around cause you don't like that. so look at how you are and see what you might change about you....good luck
2007-08-06 13:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends eh? I have a lot of acquaintances. Only about 4 "friends". They are people I trust, can depend on, are kind, and intelligent. You are the only one who can say "no" to smoking or drinking, or any other activity that is detrimental to your welfare. Be more selective. If you have only one other person that you trust, that is pretty good. If you are selective, dependable others will notice, and be willing to interact with you.
2007-08-06 13:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stress your self out about a friend cause to me they come and go but i think a good way to start a new friendship is by going out and startin an conversation with people or find someone thats able to help u when u need it and let it go from there. and sometimes being alone at some places you'll be suprised who come up to you just to get to know you and you'll never know what you can get out of that...try it and relax and just be yourself.
2007-08-06 13:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by kaekay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how that feels, except for the smoking and drinking part. sometimes i wish i had more friends to hang out with.
2007-08-06 13:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋