I realy love my husbend what sould i do ?
2007-08-06 06:05:19 · 20 answers · asked by nessa g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You haven't killed him? I admire your restraint.
I think the questions should be:
"Is he still seeing this girl?"
"How much contact will he have with the kids?"
"How much child support will be coming out of your budget?"
"Can you handle the answers to those questions and live with them?"
"Why?" I think that would be my loud screaming question -"Why?"
2007-08-06 06:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if I were you I would leave. I'm sorry to say, but if he was willing to have an affair, and have children with this other person donsen't that make you wonder? I mean come on. How in the he** do you trust someone after that? I understand the word love has many meanings, but in all honesty, do you really think he LOVES you? You need to gather your things, and take a step back from this relationship, there is better out there.
2007-08-06 13:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a huge decision to make. I know this is tough and it hurts but one of the things marriage is based on is trust. If you can't trust him, how do you think it is going to be always wondering and worrying whether or not he is with another woman whenever he is not with you. Just imagine every day of your life with that on your mind.
I know you say you love him but if he can't gain your trust back, I would think that would be too much mental termoil for you. You two need to talk and try and figure out where his heart is.
Also like what was said earlier, if you stay with him you are going to have that constant reminder of his infidelity facing you all of the time. That is painful. I'm sure you can forgive but it will be hard to forget.
Good luck in your decision!
2007-08-06 13:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not and would not tolerate the other children that he has had with the girl on the side. That would really bug me and I couldn't live the rest of my life knowing that they existed. In this situation, I would get out of it. My husband cheated on me and it has been very hard trying to move on from that. That was bad enough in itself. But if he had two kids with this woman then he wasn't trying to be cautious. He clearly knew you would except him no matter what. I am not really in a position to give advice, but when other kids are involved, I say it's time to move on.
2007-08-06 13:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot depends on whether YOU have children with your husband. Because if you don't, pack your bags and have some self respect. There are single men who are good honest and loyal and waiting for someone like you with decent values. If you do have children, there's more to consider because they will be SO affected by your decision. See a professional marriage counselor, either by yourself or with your hub. They can help you put your feelings in perspective and give you skills to cope with your situation. Personally I think he can't be trusted and has a long road ahead of himself before he can earn his place back in your life. Good Luck.
2007-08-06 13:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by ThatGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love the way he cheats on you, doesn't respect you.Has children that you & him will have to support.I guess since you love him for what he is doing than stay an help him with his new children?? Or kick the cheater out an divorce the bum before you catch something..
2007-08-06 13:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not relate to what you have been feeling, but I do know that if you are supposed to be LOVED, that should not have happened. Now, having 1 kid with someone else if crazy, but 2 kids and with the same female...Oh NO! It's your time to be 1st. Leaving him may be best for you.
2007-08-06 13:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lady C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that he won't stop cheating on you?!?! Obviously he has kids with this chic. Do you two have any kids?!!? If not then it's best if you end the marriage. Why stay in denial that he won't do it again. Hope you make a wise decision and find yourself a REAL man.
2007-08-06 13:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
still love him after what he did with u, so no problem if he cheated on u, because u r cheating on urself by this love. come on he didnt respect u, he didnt respect ur love & he didnt keep his marrige promise and simply cheated u. u should leave him and try to mend the pieces of ur broking heart and surly forget him as he forgot u as a wife. Good Luck and sorry if i was tough with u
2007-08-06 13:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you have to move on. I know it feels terrible when your loved one cheats on you. Its the most difficult thing to put up with.
Although if you really love him, then you need to find out when did he have the relationship. was it before your marriage and just that he didn't mention about that to you. If so you could forgive him as you love him.
If he had the affair after your marriage. If its after your marriage you have to get divorce right away, and learn that he as cheated on you. Go meet your lawyer today.
Good luck!
2007-08-06 13:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Akar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to say that this is a very very bad situation, and there is no way I would go through this myself. I find it difficult to deal with my partner's having children from his previous marriage, but as long as he is with me, if he ever thinks of cheating not to mention reproducing with other women, I will terminate my relationship with him. Don't waste your life on people who don't deserve it, I mean, unless you firmly believe in reincarnation, we only get one time around. Make it count.
2007-08-06 13:13:38 · answer #11 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋