hey everyone,
i have had two miscarriages this year. on april 24th i went in for a D&C and was told i could try again just two weeks after i had the sugery.
i thought that sounded strange but we waited a month and then tried again........
i got pregnant again but lost this one too on july 4th-8th........
i was told not to worry by the ER doctor because he said that from what he knows i shouldnt have tried so soon. he said he cant over rule my OB but my uterus didnt appear strong enough yet.......
my OB said to go ahead and try when i was ready yet again. he said the test came back fine and to run for it.......
i cant help but feel scared........
i guess im just looking for some support or encouragment.....
my hubby wants to try again soon but i dont know when ill be ready.........
im now on the pill............at least for 6 months i feel by then i might be ready
anyway im scared to death................and confused
2007-08-06 06:05:08 · 16 answers · asked by first time mommy 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I too had two miscarriages close together. Both times the doctor told me the same, go ahead and try again. After my second D&C. We waited a year and tried again. We had trouble for the first 2 months, I was so scared of losing this one that I couldn't enjoy be pregnant. We didn't tell anyone untill I was 16 weeks and had a secound ultrasound and saw the babys heart beat. We didn't even tell our little girl. Remember your husband lost 2 babys too. I forgot that, and thought I was the only one hurting. He never let on he was still hurting too till our son was born. When I heard him say "daddy and mommy has two angel in heaven to look after you and sissy. God has giving us an angel , for us to love. So you need to do what is best for you. If waiting is what you need then wait. When God gives you an angel, love it. Take the time and enjoy it. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-08-06 06:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anna Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me it is okay to feel scared. I was in that same situation but instead of two I was at four and I was even told that I couldn't have kids and my cervix was shorter than what it is supposed to be (if everyone is 4 inches I am like 1 and 3/4) I even had something called a sir-clodge (not sure how to spell it) that is supposed to help hold the baby and that didn't work overall I got pregnant again and delivered my daughter at 26 weeks and although she was very premature she is now two years old and healthier than ever. Good Luck and never give up hope
2007-08-06 13:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tameika J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 'right' to be 'scared to death' ... your uterus and your 'whole body' won't be 'ready' to carry another fetus for AT LEAST SIX MONTHS after your last miscarriage. Use 'good birth control' (condoms are best, because the 'pill' or an IUD can make it MORE DIFFICULT to get pregnant when you stop them) until next January, the 'forget the condoms and just RELAX ... have good sex when you want it and 'don't even THINK ABOUT trying to conceive ... you'll be pregnant within a year, and your baby will be FINE.
2007-08-06 13:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister-in-law was due this month but miscarried back in February (had a D&C). She is now due at then end of December and everything is going well. She was seeing a specialist because of other health problems so she is being closely monitored.
I on the other hand was on a BCP for 8 years and have been off for 2 with no luck yet.
Good Luck!
2007-08-06 13:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your losses.
It can take a while for your body to heal. My doctor said to wait 3-6 months (after my D&C) to try again, and that's usually the textbook answer, and I think its good. Some can try right away, especially if they don't have a D&C, but since you've had it done twice, you should give it some time.
Good luck in the future!
2007-08-06 14:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you Feel You Can Take the Chance of Losing Another Part of you Then, By All means, Do it! but, If you Know That Your Just Not Capable of Having a Child Yet Just Wait.I Can Never Truly Know The Gift Of Birth but I think its Worth The Wait and The Risk....
2007-08-06 13:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by kevin p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally it takes a year for the uterus to to heal and regain strengh. I have had 3 miscarriages myself. You should wait a year and then have your OB exam you before you begin trying again.
2007-08-06 13:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. ( had 1 in March) My dr. told me to wait at least 2 whole cycles before ttc. Everything I have read and heard says you should wait at least 2 cycles. ( I am not a dr. just have personal experience) We are now 10w3d and praying everything goes good. Hopefully things will go perfect for you next time. I will be praying for you.
2007-08-06 13:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by love life even when it sucks!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to get advice from another doctor and get their oppinion. I had a girlfriend that had a miscarrage and was told to wait 2 months, which she then did and got pregnant right away. I am sure you are fine as nothing is showing up, but for piece of mind, try asking another doctor's oppinion. good luck to you.
2007-08-06 13:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I am so sorry to hear about your looses and you have a right to be scared to start trying again....but don't let that stop you! I am surprised that your doctor told you that you can start trying 2 weeks after your d&c. I had one in December and my doctor told me to wait until I had 2-3 normal periods. Ofcourse it is up to you, but I would wait to let your body heal. I wish you the best, and baby dust to you! ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
2007-08-06 13:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tammi M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋