Do i have to DIE to know SOMEBODY CARES......?

Question

im very SORRY for forgetting to put further details to my question, it's suppose to be a reaction question about a movie i watched. the question ought to be "why do we have to wait till someone is gone till we realize he or she matters?" i felt sad after watching the movie coz all his life he felt like nobody cares, then when he killed himself a lot of people were actually affected badly and missed him so much. if he only knew, things would have been different....
Love yah all my friends! thanks for the concern..........
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Answer 1

No you do not have to die to know that somebody cares, I care, I really do enki. I care about how you feel, I care that your spirit seems to be broken, I care that you seem to be not yourself, I care that you seem to be going through something rough and that you are not reaching out to the ones who are reaching to help you. I care that you are not answering my questions, I care that you are not answering my posts to you and I care that my heart feels broken, my spirit feels like it has lost a part of it self with the loss of your words, the way you make me feel and soar with your beautiful personality and who you are. your true individuality, in you just being you. I CARE AND YOU KNOW IT BUT YET YOU REFUSE TO REACH OUT AND NOT TAKE THE HAND THAT I OFFER. You mean something to me and I feel sad because you do not wish to take the friendship that I offer. (sniff, sniff) A friend can only be a friend if you allow them to be a friend. sincerely fire and ice. I have reached out to many in their time of need and they have all become my good friends but only because they reached out....... I'm sorry but that is all I can do the rest is up to you now. bye,bye. =(((((((((. Just to leave you know you are not only hurting yourself with this kind of thought but you are hurting me as well. =(((((((((((((.

Answer 2

Have you ever seen the movie "Freedom Writers"? A kid told the teacher that if they were dead, then they will get recognition and respect You know what the teacher said? "You don't get respect when you're dead. Especially if you didn't have anything good about you to leave behind. When you die, all you'll do is ROT. And nobody wants to respect a rotting corpse." But I'm not even going to lie. Some people are better off dead...God forgive me. But the reason for why they probably were liked by people more when they were buried in the dirt, is because they did something stupid or terrible when they were alive. In my opinion, if they die, they die. It's all apart of life. You're not going to become famous when you're gone, but even if you do, you won't be there on Earth to notice what's going on.,

Answer 3

Definitely not, although I understand the feeling. The world feels so full of hypocrisy and sometimes you just don't know who to trust or know who really cares...But, I hope you believe me when I say, I CARE ABOUT YOU ENKI!!!!! You can email me anytime about anything at all. Diamonds like you are hard to find. And, although we don't know each other that well, I know for certain that you are a wonderful earth angel. This world needs you, you change it for the better, somehow, everyday. You have definitely impacted my life. You make this world nicer for lots of people. Sometimes you just can't readily see how or why.

It's so sad to hear that someone as precious as you feels uncared for. But, we all feel that way sometimes....even when we are seemingly surrounded by people. I remember once when I had to be admitted to hospital for a long time, I was so afraid that if I died, no one would care, or not enough. Just the opposite of what you’re feeling, but is it not a similar manifestation of the same thing? During other times in my life, I have been completely alone, not able to talk to anyone for often weeks at a time. I felt like my heart was weeping, it’s an undescribable feeling; I so, so, so dearly missed qualities in a person who didn’t even exist. But, things can’t stay that low. Nothing stays the same forever.

In life, you often have to sort through A LOT of quantity until you get to the good stuff; the quality. It's a painful, arduous, and often horribly time-consuming process, but isn’t it worth DOING, instead of WAITING? How will what we need FIND us if we just wait? It is preferable, in theory, to be alone rather than be surrounded by “posers”, but how else can we get to the bottom where our soul mate(s) may be? We need to reach out, take risks, which unfortunately will result in getting stepped on and bruised, discarded relationships, but how else will we FIND what we need and so desperately want? Who says you have to remain friends with everyone you come in contact with or even initially befriend? Search and try-on and (soon, I hope) what you want and need will sweep you off your feet before you know what has hit you.

I don’t know what else to say. If I misunderstand your circumstances, email me and make me understand. Perhaps I can help better that way. Know though that it breaks my heart that you feel the way you do and that I’m here if you need me.

Answer 4

No - but the catch is you have to not care if somebody else cares - and you can only do that if you have learned the value of caring about yourself in a fully accepting way. That's just the truth. When you care about you - not your ego talking here - the same kind of caring that you want from others - tenderness, forgiveness, compassion, loyalty, etc. - your focus changes. All of a sudden, because you care all of the time and that's how you live and because you become that caring person you are seeking, you also have a lot of that to offer - that is the level where you operate now - you begin to recognize all of the caring that supports your life and has been a part of your world every second that you have drawn breath. Honest - been there, done that. It works.

Answer 5

In those circumstances a chance would be a fine thing, Enki. But I wouldn't count on it. So you'd better know that many people care about you, dear lad. Including me. And I can see we all care very much. So count on that. And charge into the breach, dear friend, joyfully. What an adventure! What fun! It ends soon enough, and too soon, sadly. But by Golly, the friends, lovers, and memories we can gather on the road! So long may it run ....... uphill, down dale, into the valleys and over mountains .... what a trip! And what glorious company.

Answer 6

When you're dead, it's not always the people who come around and shed their tears whom you can say the ones who care and love you. They express their sympathy and feeling of grief like it's ritual. It's heart-warming though. But that can't justify LOVE for the loss.
Who are those that drop by your place without invitation just to check if you're alright? Who are those who offer their apartments when you got no place to sleep over or a roof to shelter you? Who come up to you when you're helplessly sick? Who offer without hesitation or second thought the money they all have in their wallet when you go into some financial trouble? Who cheer you up when you're so down? Who ask you out even when you got nothing in your pocket to share the bill? Who are these sweet, kind souls who are present in your "presence"? These are the very people who care enough and love you. And you don't have to die before they can be known.

Answer 7

I'd like to start with something an uncle of mine once said: "You'll all be sorry when I'm dead!" Which isn't the same, & yet it is. Of course, my mum, not understanding his emotional pain, said: "Well! You won't be around to know, now, will you?" Ouch! I don't know if he had anyone who "cared" or not; I was just a tad. There's an interesting twist to this. (I WILL answer your question!) We lived in rural, rural Wisconsin, (no phone no nothin'), & one freezing Winter night, my mum went running out into the snow in her "house" dress. She said she heard Tom calling, & was afraid he'd gotten lost in the snow. The next day, my aunt & her husband drove from the city--& Uncle Tom had died at precisely the time my mum ran out into the snow.
My very dear friend, you have to LIVE to know how many people care. I think that some of the people who answered you don't know you, or wouldn't have made the suggestions that they did. You're loving, caring, sensitive, wise, gentle, creative, & my BEST friend in cyberspace. I look foward to all of your thought provoking questions. If you died, I would be DEVASTATED.
There's something deeper in this question. I think. Someone SPECIAL, one single person who cares the most.
I don't know what else to say. I wish I could meet you, personally! You are rare, & clearly--much loved by many here.
Please LIVE & one day--when you least expect it--you may find, (or they may find you), that special person.

Answer 8

If you die, you'll never know. I have asked myself the same question many times in life. And the answer is, how much do you care about you? It doesn't matter if anyone else truly cares as long as you care. Really. And when you learn this, you'll project it. And only then will others begin to truly care. Find it inside of your own self, and it will live. I promise.
Ps. I care.

Answer 9

Yes, you have to die to know that someone cares.

When you die, if you are willing to believe this, you will transcend into a higher plane of thought and existence. You will become "aware" of the way we collectively comprehend our existence. We are all eternally intertwined by the Universe and it's forces.

This doesn't mean you have to die now to realize this. You will die at the end of your natural cycle. Through the course of our life though we all need physical and emotional reinforcement that someone cares, and it is natural. If noone has said that they care about you, you may be surrounded by people who cannot express their emotions through verbal communication.

Pay attention to their actions, carefully study it and you will see it. Even in everyday actions, people will show you that they care. When they say "excuse me" when they accidentally bump into you. When a person offers their help to you when you're carrying a heavy load of something. When your friends offer to help you move. When we here to help you answer and understand a question you have.

But, yes, when you die you will understand understand fundamentally that we all care for one another, even though we don't know or acknowledge it in this physical state. Just be patient my friend.

~jaz~

Answer 10

A person does not have to die to know someone cares for them. Often we are to blind to see how those around us truly feel about us. We all search for that special someone and are so busy looking for them that we miss what's under our noses,so to speak.

As far as you dying Enki to know if someone cares for you or not, I'd say that there are lots of people who care for you. I know your loved ones do. I certainly would miss you for who else could make me think like you do? If you are feeling lonely,look up some friends and try to enjoy their company. If you're feeling down, remember that you're never alone and that the Lord only gives you as much as he thinks you can carry. I've been a little down myself lately and have found music and writing help me get out of my funk.

So I would have to say over all that NO you don't have to die to know that someone cares Enki, because I do.

Answer 11

Um, no. It's called having a life and friends and family. And yes, you may get even MORE philosophy-ish on me and go, "But do you REALLY know FOR SURE that they CARE?" (complete with random capitalized words). And here's my answer to that one: Maybe they're faking it, but it doesn't seem so, and that's good enough for me.

I'm sorry, that came out really nasty. I didn't mean to get all bitchy. Don't die on purpose, okay? Everybody on Yahoo Answers loves you and your questions/answers.