Me and my wife still live in the same house together but we don't sleep together any more, she's looking for some were else to live as she want to separate. She goes out in the morning and come back around 6pm, she does that 7 days a week. She's not seeing any one else, just hangs around with her friend all day drinking coffee. She treats the home like a B+B now, should I let her stay until she finds a new place or should I throw her out with all her stuff.
2007-08-06 05:55:17 · 43 answers · asked by Andy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well that depends on if you want to incure her wrath at the divorce proceedings. then she may be kicking you out of your home.
Look be civil about this, tell her... we're splitting up and I think it would be reasonable if you found another place within a month. If she reacts okay to that then give her that month, after that if she hasn't moved out. check with a lawyer to see what your options are.
2007-08-06 05:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kellie 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You two are married, which means she probably contributed to the home throughout your history. Or did/do you take car of and pay for everything? My guess is that she contributed to things. So, no, you shouldn't kick her and all of her stuff out.
Since you both know where it's all headed, then sit down and settle on a timeline for her to leave, and who gets what. She's probably gone all day because it doesn't feel like a home to her anymore. It might just be easier for her to avoid an unpleasant situation than to face it.
Just settle things together. It'll be much more pleasant in the long run.
2007-08-06 06:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes i would let her stay until she finds another place 2 live as long as she is treating u with the respect u deserve, but if u start seeing some 1 else it may b uncomfortable 4 them 2 b around it then it would have 2 b your choice.
2007-08-06 05:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by gaylon e 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you guys own the house mutually....has she helped you during the marriage ....what were the reasons you married in the first place....is she waiting for you to make some sort of move towards reconciliation. Or does she see you as a doormat she can walk on....who knows. But, communication is vital.
I cannot believe a question like yours has an easy answer. No, not at all. When a marriage ends....many things are to be considered.
2007-08-06 05:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it is a rented apartment, You move out... don't pay for the bills or anything else... You leave the whole problem to her... Give the house back to the landlord... let her hold the whole thing... you walk away... then see who will be the first one to move out ;-)
If it is your jointed home, then you have to send her a legal separation paper. Protect all the assets of your house legally. Get a court order for her to move out at an appointed time. Don't kick her out because you will get into trouble then with the law & her lawyers & might end up paying her more money. Let the law handle it.
2007-08-06 06:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like a horribly uncomfortable/painful scenerio.
Sit down and set time limit for her move... and consider how long she has taken so far and consider her financial resources to move. Seems like she could stay with the friend that she's drinking coffee with all day everyday.
Try to be reasonable so that you can look back on this in the future and be proud of the way that you handled it, but don't let yourself be abused.
2007-08-06 06:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask her how the search for a new place is going. It shouldn't be taking too long to find another place to live.
Start bringing home boxes for her to pack her stuff.
In a way it sounds like she wants a little freedom and is out doing things with her friends and when that gets old, she may want to stay with you.
2007-08-06 06:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be too sure about the whole hangin out with her friends and drinking coffee all day thing. If she is looking for a place to live besides her home, then give her some incentive and change the locks. Unless she is paying some bills or something, whcih it doesn't seem like she is.
2007-08-06 05:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kenny F 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Pressure her to get out but just don't kick her out on the street. Give her a date she needs to move out by make it reasonable like a month or 2 weeks. If she isn't out by then she should be kicked out but make sure she gets the picture and that you'll kick her out if she doesn't find a place.
2007-08-06 06:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by ursolastsummer! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's not seeing anyone ??? Are you retarded ?? Oh yeah, she's just sitting around drinking coffee all day with her friend. I can't help but laugh when I read this. And somehow you've convinced yourself that your wife that you don't sleep with, who wants to get separated, is sitting around all day sipping on coffee with her "friend" !!! First of all, the person she spends her days with is not her "friend" and it's not coffee that she's sipping on. WAKE UP !!!
2007-08-06 06:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋