I live in West Virginia he lives in south carolina he wants me to relocate to south carolina and move in with him. Thats a big step for me moving away from my family and friends.
2007-08-06 05:33:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i think those are 2 completely different questions in one, and only *you* can find the answer to either of them..... What does moving in with him and leaving your family and friends have to do with the fact of you being bisexual and wanting to date other women at the same time you date your BF??
Fact 1: moving out of your state and leaving friends and family.... well, you really have to be very much in love and know that you have a future with this person in order to make such a big decision. If you're old enough, would like to live where he lives and he's the one you want to spend your life with, then go for it..... if the answer to any of those questions is no, then don't even waste your time thinking about it.
Fact 2: Dating him & other women at the same time... being bisexual isn't the same as being a cheater. You can feel attracted to either a man or a woman, but NOT at the same time, right? That's like a woman who dates 2 men at the same time, I don't see any difference only because the 2-3rd person is of your same gender. So if you're not ready to committ to an "exclusive" relationship, then just dump the guy and continue seeing other people, and of course the Fact 1 would be automatically ruled out...................
Good luck.
2007-08-06 05:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in West Virginia.. you should be looking for any excuse to get out... even to South Carolina.
However, that being said... if you're not engaged, don't move. A commitment is a serious thing -- no matter with whom. Now, although you're going to have grow-up at some point... it doesn't mean that he's the right man. He still has to prove himself. Living with each other may only serve to take & keep you away, until the 'love' runs out -- and you're empty, less some time.
2007-08-06 05:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Truly, only you can answer the question for yourself. Can you live without women? Will he question every friendship you have with other women? Will you stay true to him or will you go behind his back if you have the oppotunity to be with a woman? Is this an online affair.....or just a long distance relationship?
If online.... NO Way....keep your butt posted where it is at. If long distance consider all things before you make such a big decision.
Good Luck!
2007-08-06 05:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Greenie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts, it's probably not a good idea, but it depends largely upon how you feel about monogamy and polyamory. If you aren't comfortable committing to a monogamous, hetero relationship, and if having relationships with people of both genders is important to you, then you need to decline, since it's not going to get any easier over time to give up half of your sexual identity.
2007-08-06 05:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by stmichaeldet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many different kinds of commitment. In order for a relationship to have any chance of working/lasting both parties need to be in agreement first.
2007-08-06 06:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....being bi is not a permission slip for promiscuity. Either you want a monogamous relationship or you don't, who you sleep with (which sex) has nothing to do with that. If you don't want a monogamous relationship you need to make that clear to him and if you don't, then you certainly shouldn't be packing up and moving away to live with him.
2007-08-06 05:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knew you were that way before you got together the he should except the fact that you like other woman to .. Alol i can say is follow your heart but be true to yourself only you know what makes you happy ..Be yourself but be happy whereever you go or what ever you decide look out for #1 you.....make sure thats what you want not what he wants
2007-08-06 05:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by preistess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you love this guy because if not then there is no question about moving where he is, but if you do love him then it may be worth thinking about moving. now him telling you to leave women alone well i say think hard about that one you have to be happy sexually or no relationship will work. think hard about it
2007-08-10 04:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really depends on how much you are in love with him, you know that none of these peoples opinions are really going to matter, its how you feel that is going to affect if you do it or not.
2007-08-06 05:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by zach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about what anyone else wants, do what you want and what you think is best for you, sacrificing your family and friends for love can be the worst thing. Think about it..... XoxO
2007-08-06 05:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Morrissey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋