Hi everyone,
About a week ago my bf and I broke up. Yesterday I got an e-mail from him asking me to mail him his blue winter jacket he had lent me this past winter. He never asked about it up until now. I e-mail him back asking why would he be needing a jacket in the summer? He responded that he doesn't need it now, but it would be smart to send it to him since I will be moving soon and he doesn't want his jacket to be put away in boxes.
He lives in CT and I live in Jersey. Why would someone remember about a jacket in the middle of the summer??? Besides, he never uses this jacket. A day after we broke up I'd left my favorite skirt and blouse at his home, but I took it as lost item, because I was not going to call him for that.
What does this means? Could this be an excuse to initiate contact with me? Any ideas on how to handle this type of e-mails? I miss him terribly.
Thanks
Luna
2007-08-06 05:16:58 · 21 answers · asked by Luna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ONE MORE THING...he gave me a pair of small diamonds ear rings for Christmas. Should I return it along with the jacket? He has not asked for it, but it hurts to keep it with me.
2007-08-06 06:00:27 · update #1
I'm so sorry that you miss your ex-boyfriend so terribly. However, you will get over him IF you make an effort to put this relationship behind you, and leave it all in your past as an experience in your life from which you learned something!
His jacket, along with anything else of his that you may have come across since you broke up .... would be best packed up and sent away to him a.s.a.p.! He may want it back because he doesn't want you to have any reason to contact him months down the road when you think he may need the jacket and then use it as an excuse to get in touch with him. Take your cues from him .... pack it, send it and be done!
Hopefully by the time it gets cold outside .... you'll have a different jacket hanging in your closet .... one that will be worn by someone special in your life. Good luck, be brave and LIVE your life Luna!! =)
2007-08-06 05:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the earings - they were a present - and send back the jacket. If he's using as a way to initiate contact then he'll contact you again, until then just see it as a request for his jacket. On the other hand if you want to p*ss him off then keep / throw away the jacket and say you never got the letter requesting it back.
2007-08-06 06:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is trying to initiate contact with you, I think he just wants his jacket back. Why would he think about it in the summer? Well if you are moving he may just want it before you pack up and it get lost in all that, like he told you.
As far as mailing it to him goes, he left it there himself so I think he needs to foot the bill for that. You shouldn't have to pay to mail something to him that he left behind. Especially w/ the way postage rates are these days.
2007-08-06 05:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by gorgeous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not necessarily take it as anything but him wanting his jacket. Sometimes men are mean and they want their stuff back, whereas women will just call it a loss. If you want your skirt ans shirt back ask him to mail it as well. Don't just assume that this is his way of trying to get back with him. If you miss him, let him know and see where it goes from there. Good Luck to you!
2007-08-06 05:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just want his jacket back, because he is petty and does not want you to have it. I would ask him that he mail me my favourite blouse and skirt back, and then I will mail him his crappy jacket. Move on with your life already. Don't read too much into this, my dear. If he wanted you back, he would say it.
2007-08-06 05:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're unfortunatly reading too much into it; perhaps he really likes that jacket, and knew he left it with you, and would like it back.
I just say, send the jacket back. If he wants to ask more or has an alterior motive, he'll let you know. Right now, he just wants his jacket back.
Sorry for the breakup! Hope you're doing ok.
2007-08-06 05:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by xBrokenxHeartedx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have a clue . . but could it be just as simple a thing, that he thought of this jacket, in the summertime and wants it back. PERIOD?
I guess instead of wondering about the mystery in this, I'd risk having my feeling hurt all over again, and I'd ask him, if he's insinuating he'd like to get back together.
Although, I'll warn you. A person who can not be straightforward is a person I'd do my best to avoid . . who wants to waste time pondering, after all?
2007-08-06 05:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by skydancerwi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him his jacket back. If you miss him send it along with a letter or something or offer to bring it to him and tell him how you feel then.
2007-08-06 05:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by shorte716 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people do use material items to get contact, but don't drive yourself crazy. Unless he is willing to initiate more direct contact.... it's not worth the heart ache. Send the jacket. If you choose to tell him that you miss him terribly... that's your call and it is direct.
2007-08-06 05:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't read too much into this. If he's interested in getting back together, he's likely talk to you about it. He could be initiating contact but do you really want a relationship with a man who doesn't have a clue about how to communicate?
2007-08-06 05:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋