My husband just left me for another girl who is also married. Now, the husband of his mistress and I are starting to get along with each other. We send text messages everyday and we see each other secretly. I still love my husband, and I know what I'm doing is wrong. I just want my husband to have a taste of what he has done to me. Up to what point should I stay with this kind of situation?
2007-08-06 05:09:46 · 27 answers · asked by revengemama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ohoh... i guess you are in serious trouble now... you have to decide who do you want to be with... relationships that starts from dishonesty doesn't last long.
2007-08-06 05:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Careful there, you may just be the one that ends up with a bad taste of something. Your husband has made a choice, best for you to accept it and deal with it in a manner that leaves you some dignity. If your husband has left you,and the other woman has left her husband...why are the two of you seeing each other secretly? If your only reason for an affair with this man is revenge, back off. This man most likely has been hurt as you have, and you are opening a door for more hurt to him if he thinks your interested in a relationship with him.
2007-08-06 05:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are treading in some deep water here. First of all your husband has cheated on you and left you for another woman who is married right there that is wrong but to have an affair w/that womans husband is even worse. Don't degrade yourself by having an affair-walk away from him (your husband-and yes it's easier said than done) and start over in your life and find someone who will be true to you and love you. Good luck on this way. My only advice to you is don't let it get any further than what is going on now.
2007-08-06 05:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup, you are right in your decision. No matter how you loved your husband, there are cases they find other ways. But If I were you, still forgiving my husband as you said it you loved him.
I agree with you personally, in fact it will be an equal cheating. However, before you will give in to what will happen like having sex with other's husband, I suggest to keep it secretely, nobody knows, and importantly, you are ready to face the consequencies you are doing. Like getting being pregnated by this other's husband. So don't fail to ask him to use condom, or have injection before the schedule to a big night. I suggest also not to be fall inlove him, just say to your hearth this other's husband for you is doing for fun to answer back your own husband illecit affair.
Have fun with that other's husband. I hope you both be happy?
If this turned to be okey for you, other's husband and your husband, swinging will work for you two couples. The dream I am wishing thru out my life?
2007-08-06 22:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are angry, and I understand this completely, but it might be that you are just wasting your time and throwing your life away because, evidently, you are not thinking clearly right now.
Do you want to find yourself in this mess 10 years from now?
It's best to figure out if your husband wants your marriage to work, and if not, just get a divorce and take a little time to get therapy, clear your mind and find a healthy monogamous relationship to be in. Two wrongs don't make a right and before you know it you will be hopelessly tangled in a horrible situation. It's a shame. Just because your husband is a first class idiot, does not mean you have to stoop to his level.
2007-08-06 05:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how is what you are doing wrong?I dont get that your husband left you so that means you are free to do whatever and so is the guy who is married to the woman your husband left you for. There is no certain point reach you call it off when youve had enough.
look at this whole situation as a chance to finally get to do things your way and take pride in tha. Stop catering to people and take control of what you want to do. but do it in a responsible manner. Start doing things for you
2007-08-06 05:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tone Teezy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
*Well my first thoughts are that you should have just filed for divorce, however I know that it's a long process and it can be expensive and time consuming for both parties involved.*
.Hmm...I guess I am neutral with my answer to your question, because it's like one side of me says "That's so wrong!" then the other side of me...I have to hypothetically put myself in your shoes and try to think how I would feel. Then once I put myself in your shoes, I can easily understand your hostile feelings and mixed emotions. I mean I've been cheated on before...although I've never been married, so I can only imagine what it must be like for you.
.Alright, well I am going to have to say I am in favor of you continuing the affair you're having. I mean your husband obviously could care less...since he's the one who started it, and is still going strong with it.
.**So do what you must, just play it smart...and realize there could be more dramatics to come in the near future because of the decisions you're making now. As long as you understand that...I have no complaints.**
.Good luck with everything, and if it's at all possible to spare yourself anymore hurt etc. just file for divorce so you don't have to put up with it.
2007-08-06 05:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what you want.
Regardless it seems like either choice, you will end up feeling hurt.
Revenge is the number one reason why women cheat, lack of affection and attention is the number two.
Your feelings to ease your pain is very normal, however, you may not ease your heartache by cheating.
It may actually make you feel worse.
I would recommend that you hold your feelings of wanting to seek revenge off because it's quite extreme. And you're more likely to regret that decision than to not go forth.
Allow your emotions to cool off a bit so that you can analyze what you're getting into more intelligently.
2007-08-06 05:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by diana g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there is a saying "what is good for the goose is good for the gander!"
Don't use the guy to get back at your husband that makes you no better than your husband. This new guy is not at fault for the situation and neither are you. See where it goes, you may enjoy yourself!
Good luck
2007-08-06 05:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um...you should have left this situation alone before it happened. Your husband will not se eit as payback. He left you, so it's a totally different ballgame.
I'm sorry to say that this situation will more than likely leave you the lonely one. Your husband will not want you back because of this, and her husband is probably using you exactly as you're using him.
2007-08-06 05:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by Tina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think your husband is getting a "taste"? If he is still having this affair- do you really think he cares about what he is doing to you or how it is making you feel? Mabye you need to grow up and think about separating from your husband and just move on with your life.
2007-08-06 05:31:17 · answer #11 · answered by NLH823 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋