idea. For 2 reasons
1. He thinks only 2 people should be together
2. Scared I`d like it so much I`d change my sexuality
Yet I know I love men (especially him) just want to try it one night...why not...
2007-08-06 05:04:26 · 17 answers · asked by Bella83 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i dont think it was bad for you to bring up...afterall, this is the person you are most close to in the world. You need to be able to openly and honestly discuss your sexual fantasies.
However, if he really is against it, I'm not sure what you can do except respect his feelings on the matter. But, I think he needs to understand that by him saying "no" does not mean your desires will simply vanish and go away. If you really want to do this, you probably are going to do it one way or another, sooner or later. So, if that is the case, then it would be best if her were involved.
plus, come on....every straight guy's fantasy aint it??? ;)
I agree with the others above too...proceed with caution. You dont want this to ruin, what I am assuming is an otherwise good relatinship
good luck
2007-08-06 05:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only good reason why not is that he doesn't think it's a good idea.
There's nothing wrong with thinking only two people should be together (any more than there is anything wrong with three, though many will disagree).
The question I have for you is; do you want a threesome or do you want to make love to this other girl? Those are different things. Is it that you're wanting to explore an interest in women and are inviting him to participate for security? Just a couple things to think about.
Your number 2 is future tense so I'll assume you haven't explored this yet. Many people believe that you can't change your sexuality - since you "love men" you're obviously not homosexual. Since you're "curious" you may be bisexual. You are what you are and not acting on it doesn't make it go away...
You can explain to him thusly:
1) In the 3-some scenario the two of you are together - you're sharing something with each other and that something is another woman (or man). At least by sharing, you're not sneaking off.
2. You are whatever you are. If you're bisexual then not acting on it won't make it go away. It's always going to be there. You will have to address it sooner or later.
Don't try to push him into it. That won't help at all.
Expect to hear a lot of religious reasons why this is a bad idea. That's an issue you will have to deal with.
2007-08-06 12:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by CoachT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? Because he doesn't want to, and he has every right to feel that way, especially since the two of you are planning to marry. If you love him and he is enough, that shouldn't be a problem. If he is not enough, then you don't belong in a monogamous relationship and have no business getting married. You should never try to coheres someone into doing something they don't want to do, especially when it comes to sex.
2007-08-06 12:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello there, you sound like me! I would love to have a 3 way, me another bi-sexual guy and my wife, she thinks the same way! I know she would enjoy it as well! I think your man would enjoy it, i mean think about it, is it not every guys dream to have sex with 2 bi-sexual females or watch 2 females having sex! Think about it!
2007-08-06 13:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by mickey_112404 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing unusual in your curiosity, but that's something to get out of the way before you settle down.
Your fiance's right not to encourage this.
2007-08-06 12:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by trebs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well - if 2 of you are in a relationship, and one of you thinks it's a bad idea....isn't that enough, honey? I mean, is it worth losing your boyfriend that you love?
...or are you actually gay, and this is your way of testing the waters?
Good luck! XOXO
2007-08-06 12:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by gochefs (Geo) 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's not gung ho on it, then drop it. Adventurous sex causes many breakups because only one of the couple is actually enthusiastic about it.
2007-08-06 12:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand him having these feelings - and in all honesty you should respect them and put this idea out of your mind. You asked - he told you his thought and now it is up to you to respect those thoughts!
2007-08-06 12:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't force him to do something he doesn't want to. This could severely cripple, if not altogether ruin, your relationship.
Proceed with caution.
My advice: If it's not mutual, don't go there.
2007-08-06 12:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you GUYS DID A BAD THING .Your relationship is probably over . lessen to Dr. Drew on-line on Love Line about threesomes. They never work.
2007-08-06 12:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by milldoc 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋