This is a friend of mine...
She says her father is happy that she's afraid of him...
He's 65.
She also says her father uses violence (physical and abusive) if she tries to assert herself towards him...
2007-08-06 03:51:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd say it is unnatural to ever have to be afraid of your father. I think it is sad that she is now or ever was. I think she should get some counseling so she can learn that he does not have the right to abuse her then when she has some self confidence, and if the abuse was bad enough she should have him convicted in court and sent off to jail. If it is not that bad, then at least get a restraining order against the jerk so that he learns that she will no longer be his victim.
2007-08-06 03:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal for a 12 year old to be afraid of their father. So I'd have to go with no. If I were her, I'd stay away from the guy. If he uses violence, then she should call the police. My dad was an abusive alcoholic, and guess what? He doesn't get to see his son, daughter-in-law, or grand children. I'm in control of my life, not him.
Alas, there is little YOU can do about it except encourage her and educate her on abusive relationships. In the end it is up to her to take control of her own life and to avoid the abusive jerk that is her father.
2007-08-06 10:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if the violence and physical abusive is been going on for a long time .She needs to put him in his place either face to face or on phone ,if he won`t listen to her then she should cut her ties with him and stay away for her own peace of mind.
But it sounds like he is an ignorant guy and so she is better to get away from him as he will miss her more than she will as he gets older he will want family around and then she can put him where he belongs
2007-08-06 10:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes if you were abused as a child, no matter how old you are when you get around the abuser, you tend to fall back into the child stage and all the thoughts and fears come back.
2007-08-06 10:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is wrong, a woman should be strong enough at 30 to stand up to her abusive father.
She isn't a child, she isn't forced to be around her father so my advice to her is just stay away from him.
2007-08-06 10:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at 30, she has the choice not to go around him and let him do that. She is an adult, when her father gets out of line, she can walk away.
2007-08-06 10:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by Blessed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for any adult to be in fear of someone who has been violent toward them.
What's more important is that your friend cut off all contact with her father. She deserves more in life than fear.
2007-08-06 10:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a possibility especially if she has been brought up that way. She needs help.
2007-08-06 10:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Dolia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is NOT normal for a man to act that way.
2007-08-06 10:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋