Hard time? I need serious answers with no rude comments?

Question

I find myself confused. I stare at myself in the mirrior picking at all the flaws. Wanting to be skinnier and skinner. I was told by my doctor that I am 15-25 lbs underweight. I dont see it. I look at myself and cry knowing that I am just not skinny enough. I know I can be skinner. I see myself overweight and I compare my self to overweight people and see myself bigger than them.
I havent officially starved myself, but I make exscuses to get away from eating dinner or lunch. I like pretending beoing sick so I dont have to eat. I dont see that as starving. I see starving as not eating for a like 5-7 days. I never did that. I do sometimes eat like one meal a day and sometimes not even a meal. When I see anorexic people I wanna be like them. I wnat to be there size. When someone tells me I am thin I feel good....for about 3 seconds of my life. I never told my parents and I dont plan on telling my parents so dont tell me to. People at my school say that my head doesnt fit my body.

Whats gone wrong?

I can't think about anything else.

Answer 1

You have a disease. It's called anorexia. You look at too many skinny people and that makes you feel bad. You're looking at the wrong people. A lot of people can die from it. If you want to be unhappy with yourself all the time, and not eat and destroy your body then go ahead. You're only hurting yourself. That's being selfish. You're hurting others when you hurt yourself. You don't care though, as long you can look good, right? Or you can work on your body, and get it to look the way you want, by the healthy way. Someone will notice what you are doing eventually, so might want to get help now, because later on it might be too late.

Answer 2

Sounds like you have an issue with body image. No matter how thin you get, you always feel fat. This is a common problem with people that are anorexic. You are already underweight, and when people are telling you your head doesn't fit your body, they are probably telling you that you are so thin that your head appears bigger than the rest of you. I know you said you didn't want to tell your parents, and I can understand why, but you need to talk to someone you trust about this, whether it's a friend, family memeber, or whatever. This is a psychological issue and you need to get help with it immediately, before it becomes so serious that you are anorexic and become very very sick. I know the pressures today to be thin, but as silly as it sounds, beauty comes from within. You don't have to be a size 0 to be beautiful and it's sad that our world has gotten to the point where people feel like they do. Best wishes to you in getting help with your issue, I hope you figure out that you can be beautiful without starving yourself, or being stick thin. Good luck, please talk to someone, anorexia is serious stuff...not glamourous.

Answer 3

Something is definitely wrong. It sounds like you are anorexic. It ~could~ be something else, something else wrong in the way you see yourself. However, the problem is w/ ~your~ perception of yourself - the many people, like your doctor, who are saying you are underweight/thin/too skinny/etc are not wrong. You're right - you could probably be skinnier - but you will probably end up killing yourself if you continue to try to be skinnier & skinnier. I don't say this to be mean, I say it b/c you deserve to live, & may need a wake up call. If you see yourself as overweight, at least let the scale do the talking for you. Read up on what are healthy weight ranges for your height, gender, & age. If you are a more than a couple pounds under the low end of those ranges, that should be a good, objective indicator that you are underweight. It must be painful to realize that something is probably wrong, that you probably are significantly underweight & need to gain weight to be healthy, even though you don't ~feel~ like that is the case, and in fact wish you were thinner & thinner, even though you probably know that is a bad idea based on what others are saying. It is a good first step realizing that something does not seem right & reaching out to this forum to try to address these issues. If you are not comfortable talking w/ your parents right now, is there someone you trust that you can discuss this with? Perhaps your doctor? An understanding medical professional would probably be best, but maybe even a friend who is concerned about you for now, if you can't think of anybody else - just to get a dialogue started about what you're feeling & experiencing. Try to keep in mind that whoever you go to cares about you. You should expect them to disagree that you need to lose weight - & know that they even though they disagree w/ you, that they are supporting you. And if they think otherwise, (i.e. if they agree it is okay for you to eat as little as you do & to keep trying to be skinnier), then they ~are not~ a good person to discuss this issue with. I wish you the best. & p.s. if you're frequently hungry or exhausted b/c of how little you've been eating, then you ~are~ starving your body.

Answer 4

Just so you know, starving yourself can actually cause you to GAIN weight. Especially if going without meals is something your body is getting used to. Your body will realize that it needs a better reserve for those lengths of time without food, and will begin to pack on more fat from those few meals that you do it moreso they it regularly would. If you insist on eating infrequently, remember to stay away from fatty foods and only eat things that are good for you, like veggies and fruits. Its best to get your body of a regular eating schedule and get a good exercise program going.
Those problem areas that bother you can be toned by exercise and soon you will be lean and fit.
Realize that you may have an anorexia problem.

Answer 5

This kind of thing is common in people displaying anorexia nervosa. What you see in the mirror may not really be the true portrayal of your body, and our minds can trick us into these kinds of things. What i would suggest is that you speak with someone, especially your parents, about everything that you just wrote here. I am more than positive that then you will feel much better about your problem, and have it resolved with a specialist. Good luck!

Answer 6

Sounds like to me you have anorexia-nervosa and it requires treatment. If you are 15-25 lbs underweight and you think you are still fat, you will never be "skinny" because you are looking at youself with a distorted view. Please get some help. Anorexia can do damage to you bones and eventually your body will start eating itself starting with your muscles. Maybe things in your life are out of control? Mom and Dad making decisions for you? Stress? Controlling your eating might be giving you something that you can control in your life and it makes you comfortable. Get in touch with a healthcare professional - there are people out there to help. Hang in there.

Answer 7

it sounds as though you have dysmorphia & anorexia. you may think starving yourself for a week straight 'counts' as anorexia but severe restriction is more than adequate to qualify for an eating disorder. a strong aversion to food is symptomatic of an ED as well.

please tell someone. even if it's not your parents or your doctor, then a close friend you trust. there are people in your life that genuinely care for you. watching someone you love willingly waste themsevles away is so, so incredibly heartbreaking. it can be like suicide in slow-motion.

they might not ever understand why you want to be thinner, but keeping this to yourself magnifies the issue. if you don't want to help yourself, you at least need someone who understands what's going on.

you come across as an articulate, intelligent girl but that's pointless if you hate yourself this much.

Answer 8

You have a problem.

Our eyes lie to us all the time. You're very likely experiencing the beginning symptoms of anorexia nervosa. You will continue avoiding meals, continue to perceive yourself as "fat", and perpetuate the cycle until you are using laxatives and throwing up after meals and you waste away to skin and bones and eventually die of malnutrition.

The choice is yours. Why do you think your doctor would lie to you about your weight? He spends all day telling other people to Lose weight. Why would he say different to you if it weren't the truth?

Answer 9

Please speak to a professional Counsellor, Psychologist in connection with this, as soon as you can. Can you speak to your parents about it also? It's a serious problem and your Doctor is giving you good advise. You have to teach yourself to like eating good food as well. You are damaging your health very seriously by not eating. Please do something very quickly about getting help. Anorexia is a serious disease, and try to tell yourself you don't want to look like annexoresic people. See yourself in your mind, as healthy, with good muscle tone and good shape to your body. The only way you can do this is by making yourself eat three healthy meals a day at least. I wish you the best.

Answer 10

you know todays soceity is based so much on how skinny you are and how beautiful and tall u are. the truth is, everyone is made beautifully whether they are the models on tv or not. i know its hard not to compare yourself to other people, but if you do, your being unfair to yourself. not eating wont make you skinnier. it may seem that way, but when you eat unevenly like that, it confuses your body and stores that food as extra fat. if you are underweight, the last thing u need to be thinking about losing more weight. im not trying to tell you what to do, u can do what u want. but my answer is that you are beautiful the way you are :) good luck

~em