What prevents us from loving everyone equally?(I mean Love in the broad sense, not the man-woman relationship)

Answer 1

Great question and it makes me think of another that I'll have to ask.

I think you can't love everyone equally. The best you can do is try to have compassion and understanding for everyone. Just like romantic love, friendship love and family love are intensified or lessened by personal chemistry. There are friends you have that you can look at and know what they are thinking or can feed off each others laugh and there are others that you like and respect but it's just not the same. Then there are those people that you have an uncontrollable distaste for. Even people who have more than one child, and would never admit that they love one more than the other, still show obvious differences in chemistry between them. With family you automatically have some chemistry because you share genes but some family members connect better with others.

Many people don't like to admit it (especially when it comes to family members) but it's really out of your control whether you connect with a person or not. The best you can try and do is try to realize that it's not the other persons fault if you don't connect with them. They just have a different chemistry that isn't compatible with yours and you should still be able to treat them with respect.

Of course there are truly evil people, and people usually don't have a hard time justifying disliking them, but even with them, there is usually someone who loves them. You are drawn to or away from people by chemistry but whether you have chemistry or not you can like or dislike their actions.

So the short answer is Chemistry. We are all made of mostly water, but we all have different qualities that that repel water like oil, that are soluble in water like sugars and oxygen, and those that are like gases (some are water soluble some aren't).

Answer 2

Love is the act of treating another’s self interest as you own. It is what allows us to form groups.

Life is a competition for resources. Because things out there are trying to kill us, because things hate us, we form groups out of self interest.

Love is a survival mechanism, and as odd as this seems, it is created by hate and selfishness.

Given the nature of life, universal Love is unlikely, because it’s not really a good survival strategy.

Asking “Why can’t we all love each other” is like asking “Why can’t all the players in the NFL joint the same team so they don’t have to play that violent game?”

Universal Love is the Communists expecting everyone to put society first, and then wondering what happened to personal incentive.

Answer 3

The laws of our individual births. Given the condition of our birth and environment we are formed to be what we will become. Some are reared up to be partial.

Love that is expressed conditionally isn't love at all. How can what is unconditional be partial? Rather the concept is flawed, people mistake compassion for live, affection for love, but love is in harmony of being and the radiating light and essence from such internal oneness. To love another is to be completely harmonious with them on all levels, this is a flow from our being. How can you love what is without of yourself when your own inner world is in war and chaos? Peoples definition of love is fragmented, love is in oneness and this oneness is a harmonious state of many things within ourselves. You can't have true love without Logic, intuition, mercy, judgment, knowledge, understanding, wisdom...

Answer 4

A tough question. In general before talking to any one after seeing them we will get the feeling, whether to talk to them or not to talk to them. Like so love them or not.

It is the internal feeling. May be because of the other persons "Aura" we may get the feeling love towards others. Sometimes (most of thetimes) our "Ego" prevents to express feelings. If really we love everyone we will be "Saints".

To reach the stage of loving everyone without exception we need to leave the word "Self(ish)" Then only one can love each and everybody on the earth without any inhibitions.

Answer 5

I'm no expert on the subject, but I'd say it is the incapability to understand differences and abnormalities. For example, one might find ones language weird and one's culture odd- Such as people not understanding why certain cultures in Asia eat insects and speak in unique dialects. Then, people would consider this culture "barbaric" or "on the verge of being in-human." A person would then obtain their supremacy over the foreign soceity, justifying their reasoning with logical thinking, but not thinking logically from the foreign soceity's point of view. It is only logical for a tribe to carry on with traditions that have lasted for so long in their history. We still worship god's that's origins are questionable and speculative. But we worship them because we have always found something to have faith in, be it an idol, nature, a paganistic god, or the might of a monotheistic religious dogma such as Christianity. I hope this answers your question.

Answer 6

I think we can't love everyone equally because people are different and we love people for their special character attributes.

If people treated us the same, then we would love them equally. But that will mean a boring world, there would be no excitement in life.

We need these different people to treat us different and for us to respond differently towards them.

Answer 7

I think we need to have true Love and compassion & understanding in general for the human race and what prevents us from loving everyone because we do not practice this mindful wisdom within ourselves once we do there will be no resistance and prevention of any kind :))))

Answer 8

The thought itself of loving everyone equal prevents us.
As long as others exists that Loving every one will not happen.
When we forget about others and also us.
i.e. When the thought duality dies away then we can Love everyone in same manner.
In other words when we are for nobody not even for us then we are available for everybody.
That may be universal Love.

Answer 9

Ignorance is the main problem . Most people don`t try to accept others that are different culture wise .we want others to be like our selves so reject anyone that will not fit in our image.
we could love equally if we just accepted folks for what they are other human beings and forget religions ,cultures and believes ,colour, and not want to change them and we would be able to have a happier life and world

Answer 10

Sight is our primary sense, we use it to construct a mental map of our world. The other sences are used only to provide important but limited information to this map.

When we talk about a man-woman relationships, or any combination there of, we are talking about mating. Mating is governed by a many and varied set of rules that form the best possible chance for our species to survive. Love at first sight is often just the biological determination of your best possible match for strong healthy offspring. However outside of the mating drives and rules, we revert to our primary sense, Sight

We are, as humans, pack animals. We do not like to be alone, we like to be with others of our own kind and this is often determined by sight, being our primary sense. We learn to associate and stick with our pack, whether that be religious, social, racial, economic, or other wise. This is also often coupled with ostrisisation from other 'packs', in a 'if your not good enough for your own then your not good enough for us' mentality.

If you give a person who lets say was brought up in a purely white neighbourhood the choice of associating with a person who is white or a person who is black, they will choose more times then not to associate with a white person (no matter their own heritage), they will wish to stay with their or similar to their pack. This can, will and does create divisions, especially if one pack decides that it is of more or greater importance than other packs, usually ones that are different from them. These differences then lead on to hatreds, which are then past down through the generations, and so on and so forth.

However it is not all doom and gloom, as we also use our sight to construct visual representations of peoples personalities. In this we may associate with people who share or have personality traits that we admire and posses. This form of association often bridges all forms of boundaries, and can help to pull down the walls but it is the magic bullet that people have been searching form since it is still a pack, just not a physical pack.

So in short, it is our sight that makes us less likely to care for one another, since we are pack animals and have come to trust those who we look like and fear those who are different from us.

Hope this helps.