2007-08-06 01:49:53 · 22 answers · asked by automan42005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be honest!
She'll appreciate it coming from you than anybody else.
2007-08-06 01:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Claudia F 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So this is how one deals with unwanted/unanticipated advances.
Tell Rachel-" That was nice, I'm flattered, I love my wife."
Then shut the hell up about it.
If its a test you passed.
If it was real Rachel has the word.
If you tell your wife she will want to know why you are coming between her and her friend.
Make sure Rachel knows that you are flattered and that in a different situation you would be interested but that you would NEVER do anything to hurt your wife. Then be quiet.
This is the WIN/WIN method.
No one gets hurt, there are no arguments and Rachel walks away without the smack to her self esteem for being a bit forward.
The "just be honest" people have never dealt with promoting honesty where nothing need be said in the first place. What is not honest about saying nothing. Honorable men do not cheat on their wives. What possible thing would be gained by throwing that doubt into your marriage by blurting this incident out for discussion. Telling the wife will only cause trouble and gain nothing. Ever heard about " killing the messenger".
KEEP QUIET to your wife.
2007-08-06 02:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok first get Rachael out of your life!!!!
She shouldn't be doing that!!
Tell your wife, as it might have been a plan to see if you would take it further or tell your wife about it
Say to your wife
"I don't want Rachael over here anymore when I am home",
Because the other night she was rubbing her foot on my leg! And I don't like that! She is a good friend of yours and shouldn’t be doing that!
If you still want to be her friend that's up to you, but I don’t want her in this house when I get home… (Make sure you say that part otherwise your wife might think you are hiding something)
Then that way your wife will think you hate Rachael and won’t blame you for what happened
2007-08-06 02:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by LadyinOz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
omg thats something quite serious. and i am so happy u want to tell ur wife rather than hiding it. U HAVE TO. i would bring it up one night while laying in bed - but dont wait too long or itll upset her more, she'll feel as though u were hiding it. and just look her in the eye and say sweetie i have to tell u something u wont want to hear - but i cannot keep it from u. ask her to stay calm and to please keep in mind that ur coming to her to tell her this because u love and respect her. of course she'll fly on the hinge for a moment. and she might even take it out on u - but really it will be out of utter dissapointment in her "best friend" stay strong. - and she will always appreciate your honesty - and loyalty to your marriage. and keep being a good husband. thank u, on behalf of the female race for not sleeping with rachel. u set a great example.
2007-08-06 01:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by snuggler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it necessary to tell your wife? I think Rachel is the one you need to have a talk with. Tell her that you love your wife very much and you will not be a party to that kind of behavior. Also tell her that if she is really your wife's friend she will not participate in such behaviors as well. If the problem continues, then just try not to be in the room when she comes around. Find something else to do.
!1
2007-08-06 01:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by The PENsive Insomniac 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's unusual to snatch which you in simple terms did not something on the time although were indignant later. So... Are you beneficial she knew it was once your leg she was once rubbing up against? and how will you provide an evidence for on your spouse which you in simple terms allowed it and reported not something? i assume you ought to permit it bypass actual. And if it happens back... manage it in honestly time. despite if or not your spouse is there or now not... certainly state, "Whoa, it is my physique you ought to be rubbing up in opposition to! i've got won very own obstacles like numerous physique else!" and chuckle it off. You asserting not something, if she knew what she replaced into doing, in reality signaled to her, to us, and it will sign on your spouse, which you in simple terms have been into it.
2016-10-09 08:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by cracchiolo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was she intoxicated or was it a set up to play a prank on you?
If it's a hidden move?
Only if she continues, thn it's a good move to tell your wife.
After all, you married wth vows & promises etc. to your wife.
If you don't trust your wife who else?
I'm sure if your wife truly loves you, she'll stand by her man.
Tell her sincerely with a calm voice. That's it's no joke.
2007-08-06 02:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell Rachel to stop. I don't see how people call themselves a friend and go hitting on the spouse.
2007-08-06 01:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by Aunt Doobie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't tell her.. that is not really a big deal. if it leads to something else then dissuade your friend from doing it again. but don't tell your wife uneccessary things like this. it will just hurt her and as long as you weren't welcoming the invitations then it's not a big deal.
2007-08-06 01:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her. Just avoid Rachel. If Rachel makes another attempt, then tell your wife because it could become a problem if it gets turned around through gossip that you are the flirter/aggressor.
I say don't tell her because maybe she was drunk lol.
2007-08-06 01:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
just let it be......it was probably a mistake inn case rachel does it again then think about telling your wife.
2007-08-06 01:54:33 · answer #11 · answered by noname273 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋