Why is it so hard not to txt or dial his number.?.....why does he make me crazy?....when do the thoughts of him being with someone else go away?......when will it stop?
2007-08-06 01:22:40 · 17 answers · asked by ? 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
time will heal
but you'll always have the Memory
Good Luck!
2007-08-06 11:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can only guess to the backstory of this question but the only way the pain goes away is if you stop feeling. I would rather feel pain than nothing at all. The thoughts of him being with someone else are natural because you can't bear to think of anything besides you that could make him happy.
It will never stop, but it will subside when you realize there are more men out there that can show you love and the happiness can return.
2007-08-06 01:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I understand. It's been 2 years and I'm still having trouble. All I can suggest is getting out there and meeting new people, maybe get back into those activities that you gave up when you met him. It's a cliche but time does heal all wounds. In the meantime, know that we're all here for you. Behr Hugs.
2007-08-06 04:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by behrmark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will stop but you can't force it. Unfortunately when something like this happens it is like a "death" and there are 5 stages of grieving. If this person was so very special you will have to allow time to take you thru the 5 stages of grief before it will get better...but trust me it will.
I am speaking from experience. The very first love of my life cheated on me. I had to grow and unfortunately experience the grief stages and get thru them but when I did I met someone else and we were together 16 years.
2007-08-06 01:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by wellnotright 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in a way we are all self centered because somewhere in us is the idea that we are unforgetable and to have someone we shared a part of ourselves with to just forget all that and be with someone else it gives us a reality jolt! am I realy that easy to forget? why isn't he/she going crazy just like i am?is it true people think about each other at the same time? could he/she be thinking about me? i mean we all go through the crazy questions and self doubt at one time or another. It really is will power kinda like alcoholics with alcohol, drug addicts with drugz and obese with food..you have to find it in yourself to pull away from the phone tell yourself over and over again let it go i need to move on i need to let go..write down what you feel its an old trick but it works hell write him a love letter don't mail it just write everything u feel..the pain will slowly ease but it won't go away..at times I am quilty because I give in to that temptation and I would call my ex's number just to hear her voice but not say anything and then I would let six months go by with nothing..then a year and well eventually you don't get that urge anymore..you have been through love detox..good luck and many blessings if all else fails pray..just because we are lez/bi/gay doesn't mean we can't talk to the man upstairs for guidance..peace~
2007-08-06 03:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Charmer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It never stops, but it does get a little easier as time goes by. It does get better when you find someone yourself.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. You're a nice guy and don't deserve this kind of heartbreak.
Big HUG
2007-08-06 02:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by ron s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, that rots. The hurt never really goes away, it just gets easier to deal with as time goes on, but the memory will always remain.
2007-08-06 01:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After a while. I still think about her 10 yrs later but not with the same intensity I once did... Imagine if we'd had sex.
2007-08-07 11:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet some other guy that makes you feel the same way he made you feel.
Residual regret lies dormant and has the power to paralyze you.
Happy memories help you cherish the good times you shared while freeing you to find happiness again.
2007-08-06 01:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It will stop whe you "get a life' and focus on other things that are important to you. Your job, hobbies, music, family, etc.
You will find other people and thinkgs to make you laugh again and be happy again.
:-)
2007-08-06 01:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
they go away when you find someone new of your own. don't waste time and tears over someone who doesnt care. there are plenty of great guys out there. get back in the game
2007-08-06 01:55:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋