why do the patents where kids reside use there right to abuse the other parent?

Question

they take great pleasure in using there power to dictate when and how you see them or how many phone calls or if there sick to tell you ,my son was in the hospital and I was not told nothing of it and my son ask me why I didn't love him to come see him in the hospital and when I told him why I was called a lier, I see parents do this all the time to the kids and get away with it so sometimes I thinck people dont see things for what they are and men are made out to be bad parents with the help of these kind of women,

Answer 1

I am going through a divorce right now, I have physical custody of our son. I always encourage him to have a relationship with his dad. I never say bad things about his father to him. I allow my ex to see him when he wants to and I inform him of doctor's appointments and such. See our marriage was so bad and there was so much abuse that I want to make it up to my son for the years I stayed with his abusive father for his sake. I never tell him his dad is a bad man. However, when he comes home from being with his dad, he says bad things about me, especially when my boyfriend and his son are around. I know my ex has to be telling him bad things about me, but he vehemently denies it. So here I'm trying to make it a nice adjustment for everyone and my ex is playing mind games with our 7 year old son. Even though my son says these things to me and they hurt really bad, I don't make a big deal and I don't ever put him in the middle. And I still encourage a good relationship with his dad. So my point is that not every parent with physical custody uses their child against the other parent. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

When parents put their children in the middle of their dislike for each other, everyone suffers, especially the child.

Answer 3

such the other parent as a scapegoat perhaps?
some parents can't accept/realize (if not could be in denial) over their own behaviour