Should i marry her???

Question

I was in love with a girl for more than 8 years but she betrayed me once, in between she was in love with other guy and again i was rebound.... Now the family of that girls wants me to tie a knot with her, whereas my family denies, Recently after thiz marraige proposal i felt i am just being used when she has no one else , should i marry her by forcing my family to accept her, or go for some one who chooses me by the right of way not by being an rebound.....??? wat shall i do??? i am confused

Answer 1

No, you are not that in love. If you're really wanted to marry her, you woudn't be in doubts so much.

Answer 2

Only you can make this decision. If you are having doubts then the answer is absolutely not. Under no circumstances should you be cajoled into marrying her. That is your decision and hers.
Maybe I am old-fashioned because I believe marriage is a long term commitment. I've been married a little over a year. I do not want to go through a divorce. I have heard that getting a divorce is a very painful process for lots of different people. They all seem to say the same things.
There is no rush. You can take your time. Once you get married then it's kind of too late to change your mind. You should maybe have a heart to heart with your gf.

Answer 3

You aren't sincere about any of this and at the very least, this doesn't seem like any kind of meaningful relationship at all. If after eight years nothing has materialized, then it seems very unlikely that there ever will be. This girl who you are in love with is unstable and hardly seems suited for something as serious as a marriage proposal. There is no possibility of any happiness for you when you feel you are being used and there is no point in even trying. All the time spent being emotionally involved with her and her betrayals along with the dealing with the families, have been but one long tiresome drawn out ordeal resulting in nothing more than a big sham. So forget this and cut your losses and move on with your life while you still have time enough left to have a life.

Answer 4

I would wait off on proposing to her. To her your the type of guy that will always be there for her no matter what type of BS that she puts you through. Your like her little puppy dog that just follows her around. Have you ever had a real conversation with her about how you feel? Have you told her that you love her but feel as if she just uses you as a rebound? She sounds like she is real immature and not ready to settle down. You have to remember when you get married it's suppose to be for the rest of your life! Till death do you part! I know I'm may sound a little old fashioned but, do you really want to get married and then a year later she files divorce papers because she found some other guy that sparks her fantasy? What you need to do is let her go and not be around her so much. But if you do plan on being around her thats fine too, just don't get back with her when she breaks up with her ex. Thats going to be hard but you need to put limits, to let her know that she just can't come running back to you when she broke up with a guy. I mean do you really like being sloppy seconds? When you decide to marry someone, you shouldn't have any second doubts about asking this person to marry you!

Answer 5

Do you want to be with someone you can't trust?? Marriage is an act two people should not go into lightly. Would you be happy with a girl that married you because the guy she really wanted to wouldn't?? I don't mean to sound so rude but I can't believe you are even contemplating this. If you really love her at least hold off the nuptials and date awhile longer to see that she has grown up. At least than when she leaves you again as the past often does repeat itself, you won't have the hassle of divorce lawyers to deal with.

Answer 6

You are the only one who can answer this question You are already questioning her loyalty and intention You are already questioning her trust If you are already questioning the sincerity of your propsal step back and take a hard long look at the relationship Make a list put down all the positive things about the relationship Then make another list of the negative aspects and doubts then you decide Take at least 2 to 3 weeks time away from everthing Is this what you want are you ready and do I want to spend the rest of my days with this person Is her face the first you want to see every mornig and the last face you see evey night You decide

Answer 7

this was kind of confusing, but from what i understood i would say that if you were just a rebound, then she isn't the girl for you. Your family seems to have your best intrest at heart and they care about you. There are more fish in the sea, and you will find the perfect girl.


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Answer 8

The best thing I can say is if you are unsure in anyway about anything DO NOT marry anyone! There is always time! Time to grow togeather, to work out problems before marriage. After marriage it's too late !!!! So many marriages fail because people are in a hurry to wed. Good Luck!

Answer 9

I had a hard time understanding this question, however if you are confused about this relationship DO NOT get married. If I read this correctly she is in love with another man and hooked up with you because she couldn't have him. Don't worry about her family (or yours) wait until you figure out the relationship then do what right for you.

Answer 10

you should marry the one who makes your heart flutter never marry one another chooses if you think she betrayd you discuss it with her find out how she feels about it its between you two nobody else if you both want to get married fine but if you decide not to thats ok too if you dont talk about the betrayal it will always be in the back of your mind and it will ruin any relationship you are in be h onest but kind tell eachother how you feel let her know how you were hurt she didnt mean to hurt you im sure b ut a person cant help w ho they fall in love with ok ? take care

Answer 11

don't marry her if you are not sure....don't also marry her for the wrong reasons like because the family of the girl wants you to....that's no way to start a marriage....it is bound to fail...besides...the girl has betrayed you not only once...what makes you think she won't do it again once your married....sad as it may seem but people now a days look at marriage as just a piece of paper....

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