My boyfriend of 6 years cheated on me over an online relationship with another woman while away in iraq, i found out and now we are starting to work things out. He tells me It will never happen again and it was the biggest mistake he has ever done in his life. He says he loves me and I know he does. He asked me to marry him and now we are engaged. Yes I'm hurt from of it all, but does he have the right to know that I also cheated on him with 3 other guys or should I just leave it as it is and just help each other make our relationship better because he is willing to do everything to fix things up?
2007-08-05 22:00:37 · 16 answers · asked by hokulani544 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess he has the right to know who you are too. Let everything be laid out. If he really loves the person you really are then he will stay. If not let him go. You both had a hand in destroying this relationship.
2007-08-05 22:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Darth Maul 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a pathetic person you are. You allowed 3 men to use you while your b/f was serving his country.So what if he sent a few harmless emails he didn't physically touch another woman yet you layed on your back for 3 men .What a foundation you have to start a marriage on. At least he had the courage to tell you.You still seem to be looking for the typical cheaters cowardly way out by not telling. This man deserves a woman with far more character than you will probably ever have
2007-08-06 01:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by gordie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding?!
So he cheated via e-mail...feels terrible about it...admitted it...and you let him pour his heart out without bothering to mention the little detail of you sleeping with THREE other guys?!
Yes, tell him...so he can decide if he wants to be with you and for crying out loud, if he does, get checked for STD's so you don't give him something from your selfish little flings.
If this is the level of maturity you have, you might want to consider not getting married. He doesn't deserve to have an unfaithful girlfriend...much less an unfaithful wife.
2007-08-06 00:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was online you were not you both need to be up front with each other You need to have no secret going in because they will come back to haunt you Then get tested for STDs and make sure no one gave you anything you can not start a relationship based on lies
2007-08-05 22:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by chameleon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I don't buy it. What, you weren't online for him to cheat with? If he loved you, he wouldn't have cheated on you.
If you cheated on him too, well...
I don't see what's to be gained from telling him. Just to make yourself feel better? You know you done wrong, and he can't absolve you of the guilt.
I hope you're planning on a LONG engagement, because divorce is expensive and you know, this kind of "love" isn't really enough to keep a marriage going.
2007-08-05 22:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep it to yourself, if you know that it will never happen again.
If you are weak and fear that you may stray again, you should tell him!
As long as there was no pregnancy or STDs involved, what he doesn't know won't hurt him!
2007-08-05 23:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by runninfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow good thing you guys chreat on each other alot and then decide to get married. Awesome!! That'll last a year tops!
2007-08-06 03:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by NY Yanks Girrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he has the right to know i bet he is copping it big time from you as to he cheated on you. time to get things out in the open and try and work it out. as you are both guilty as each other.
2007-08-05 22:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're kidding, right?
You have NO right to be upset! What he did was minor compared to what you did. You should tell him, so he can choose if you are worth being with after what YOU did!
2007-08-05 22:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need. Why create trouble with in yourself? As long as he never knows it you too, continue what you are doing as he also doing>
2007-08-06 22:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋